Comments on: I Moved to Be With My Long Distance Boyfriend and Now He Ignores Me http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/i-moved-to-be-with-my-long-distance-boyfriend-and-now-he-ignores-me/ Wed, 17 Mar 2010 21:26:40 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: sayanta http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/i-moved-to-be-with-my-long-distance-boyfriend-and-now-he-ignores-me/comment-page-1/#comment-57057 sayanta Wed, 10 Feb 2010 17:47:46 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=253#comment-57057 "this isn't a romance novel...." LOL! “this isn’t a romance novel….”

LOL!

]]> By: Karl R http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/i-moved-to-be-with-my-long-distance-boyfriend-and-now-he-ignores-me/comment-page-1/#comment-57051 Karl R Wed, 10 Feb 2010 17:00:59 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=253#comment-57051 <strong>Rosanna said:</strong> (#28) <em>"As he sees you gaining interest in your own life…as you have in his, his eyes will gays up and he will fall in love with you again." </em> Have you <em>ever</em> lost interest in someone, then later, when they moved on with their life, suddenly fallen back in love with them? Because it's <em>never</em> happened to me. If I lose interest in someone, the interest is gone. When they move on with their life, I'm happy that they're moving on. This isn't a romance novel. I see no reason to believe that Cassie's boyfriend would behave any differently than other people. Rosanna said: (#28)
“As he sees you gaining interest in your own life…as you have in his, his eyes will gays up and he will fall in love with you again.”

Have you ever lost interest in someone, then later, when they moved on with their life, suddenly fallen back in love with them?

Because it’s never happened to me. If I lose interest in someone, the interest is gone. When they move on with their life, I’m happy that they’re moving on.

This isn’t a romance novel. I see no reason to believe that Cassie’s boyfriend would behave any differently than other people.

]]> By: Rosanna http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/i-moved-to-be-with-my-long-distance-boyfriend-and-now-he-ignores-me/comment-page-1/#comment-57017 Rosanna Wed, 10 Feb 2010 12:21:18 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=253#comment-57017 Relax baby. People are so negativ....you are what you think that you are...really. And that goes for you relationship aswell. You need to for real get a hobby, and stop pretending that you have one..As he sees you gaining interest in your own life...as you have in his, his eyes will gays up and he will fall in love with you again. This is the way it works...you cannot keep old love alive...it dyes... But you can absolutely renew love over and over again. Any other thing is lazyness....... Take care of you looks, make new friends....cook beautyful meals and wine. Watch out for the wine or you might become all the opposite and sink deeper into the out of love thing thing......hehe......but thiS ARE just common sence really.... Really........ So put your lipstick on, start focusing on MOI and go get your life and partnership of your dreams...... Things come seldomly just for free. And you have a man there to practice being partner with.....pretend he is your husband....make the house look homylike...buy some red or violet chushions or something.....and start playing the role of his little wify......men love this, really. One of the most sedusable ways to get his heart forever. Maybe even bake something for him. You dont have to goo all the way for him. But just show him that you do fit the part. Stop demanding from him, start demanding from you!   Relax baby. People are so negativ….you are what you think that you
are…really. And that goes for you relationship aswell.
You need to for real get a hobby, and stop pretending that you have
one..As he sees you gaining interest in your own life…as you have in his, his
eyes will gays up and he will fall in love with you again.
This is the way it works…you cannot keep old love alive…it dyes…
But you can absolutely renew love over and over again.
Any other thing is lazyness…….
Take care of you looks, make new friends….cook beautyful meals and wine. Watch out for the wine or you might become all the opposite and
sink deeper into the out of love thing thing……hehe……but thiS ARE just common sence really….
Really……..
So put your lipstick on, start focusing on MOI and go get your life and
partnership of your dreams……
Things come seldomly just for free. And you have a man there to practice
being partner with…..pretend he is your husband….make the house look
homylike…buy some red or violet chushions or something…..and start playing the role of his little wify……men love this, really.
One of the most sedusable ways to get his heart forever.
Maybe even bake something for him. You dont have to goo all the way for
him. But just show him that you do fit the part.
Stop demanding from him, start demanding from you!
 

]]> By: starthrower68 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/i-moved-to-be-with-my-long-distance-boyfriend-and-now-he-ignores-me/comment-page-1/#comment-18813 starthrower68 Thu, 04 Dec 2008 02:55:04 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=253#comment-18813 lin, I might recommend the book, "What Smart Women Know" by Julia Sokol and Steven Carter. Very insightful, full of wisdom. I just recently picked it up again and I'm glad I did. Rejection never makes us feel good. It does hurt. But you'll come out of it stronger and wiser. lin, I might recommend the book, “What Smart Women Know” by Julia Sokol and Steven Carter. Very insightful, full of wisdom. I just recently picked it up again and I’m glad I did. Rejection never makes us feel good. It does hurt. But you’ll come out of it stronger and wiser.

]]> By: lin http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/i-moved-to-be-with-my-long-distance-boyfriend-and-now-he-ignores-me/comment-page-1/#comment-18805 lin Wed, 03 Dec 2008 23:20:02 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=253#comment-18805 I am in that same situation now. And he has treated me like crap. basically ignoring me. But I guess success is the best revenge. Let yourself be the "what -if" that he will come to wonder about but shall never know. For me, i think that this guy and I had so much to give each other. he once felt that way too or so he said. However, I have now cut my losses. I dont email or call. I wanted to email and tell him exactly what I thought of him but it is still in my Draft folder and I have not bothered to send it. maybe I never will. It sucks . It hurts. But for me there have been others before him. They hurt too. And I got over them. In retrospect, I have been grateful for each guy that walked out on me. They gave me a chance to focus on me and my goals. Someday, who knows I may thank this one too for this favour. I am in that same situation now. And he has treated me like crap. basically ignoring me. But I guess success is the best revenge. Let yourself be the “what -if” that he will come to wonder about but shall never know. For me, i think that this guy and I had so much to give each other. he once felt that way too or so he said. However, I have now cut my losses. I dont email or call. I wanted to email and tell him exactly what I thought of him but it is still in my Draft folder and I have not bothered to send it. maybe I never will. It sucks . It hurts. But for me there have been others before him. They hurt too. And I got over them. In retrospect, I have been grateful for each guy that walked out on me. They gave me a chance to focus on me and my goals. Someday, who knows I may thank this one too for this favour.

]]> By: Dating Headshots http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/i-moved-to-be-with-my-long-distance-boyfriend-and-now-he-ignores-me/comment-page-1/#comment-15933 Dating Headshots Tue, 21 Oct 2008 18:58:46 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=253#comment-15933 Ending relationships are always sad. But as others have said: you're young, you're in a big city and you've got a lot to look forward to. Making the break and moving on is difficult, but it's time to do it, and the sooner the better. Ending relationships are always sad. But as others have said: you’re young, you’re in a big city and you’ve got a lot to look forward to. Making the break and moving on is difficult, but it’s time to do it, and the sooner the better.

]]> By: Selena http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/i-moved-to-be-with-my-long-distance-boyfriend-and-now-he-ignores-me/comment-page-1/#comment-15877 Selena Mon, 20 Oct 2008 15:27:24 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=253#comment-15877 Kenerly, I can see it the way you do too. I just see other possible ways as well. Who knows? Too much information is missing and the whole "very casual" comment is perplexing anyway. What exactly does that mean in context to everything else she wrote? Oh well. Not our problem fortunately. Kenerly,

I can see it the way you do too. I just see other possible ways as well. Who knows? Too much information is missing and the whole “very casual” comment is perplexing anyway. What exactly does that mean in context to everything else she wrote?

Oh well. Not our problem fortunately.

]]> By: Kenley http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/i-moved-to-be-with-my-long-distance-boyfriend-and-now-he-ignores-me/comment-page-1/#comment-15862 Kenley Mon, 20 Oct 2008 03:35:37 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=253#comment-15862 Selena, I think we just have different "stories" for what happened. Neither of us knows just exactly how those "conversations" went on and how he actually treated her. I chose not to make him the bad guy because I just know too many women (and I am one myself) who ignore what men actually say and do and try to make a guy (or a relationship) into something he just isn't and then we want to blame the guy when we finally realize he isn't going to give us what we want. You and I just see things differently. But, hey, that's what make this blog go round. Selena,

I think we just have different “stories” for what happened. Neither of us knows just exactly how those “conversations” went on and how he actually treated her. I chose not to make him the bad guy because I just know too many women (and I am one myself) who ignore what men actually say and do and try to make a guy (or a relationship) into something he just isn’t and then we want to blame the guy when we finally realize he isn’t going to give us what we want.

You and I just see things differently. But, hey, that’s what make this blog go round.

]]> By: Selena http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/i-moved-to-be-with-my-long-distance-boyfriend-and-now-he-ignores-me/comment-page-1/#comment-15852 Selena Sun, 19 Oct 2008 23:58:34 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=253#comment-15852 Re:#21 I think there is alot missing. First of all, define 'very casual'. In the 8 + months they had a long distance r'ship going did they ever spend time together in person? Did they have sex? Was this a r'ship that existed solely electronically until she moved to his city? Cassie seems miffed that once she got there he didn't have sex with her - as well as not seeing her very often and seeming a bit resentful when he did come by. Could it be that when meeting in person he wasn't sexually attracted to her? That could explain the behavior above. Does she know for sure this guy is even single? We've all heard the stories of bored, dissatisfied, morally deficent married and otherwise committed people conducting internet relationships. Maybe he was "the sweetest guy" when the contact was just a game. When it got closer to her actually moving to be near him...uh oh!...distancing. Now that she's really there it could be a case of, "Oh shit! I can't let my wife/girlfriend find out about this." That could also explain the change in behavior. Re:#21

I think there is alot missing. First of all, define ‘very casual’. In the 8 + months they had a long distance r’ship going did they ever spend time together in person? Did they have sex? Was this a r’ship that existed solely electronically until she moved to his city?

Cassie seems miffed that once she got there he didn’t have sex with her – as well as not seeing her very often and seeming a bit resentful when he did come by. Could it be that when meeting in person he wasn’t sexually attracted to her? That could explain the behavior above.

Does she know for sure this guy is even single? We’ve all heard the stories of bored, dissatisfied, morally deficent married and otherwise committed people conducting internet relationships. Maybe he was “the sweetest guy” when the contact was just a game. When it got closer to her actually moving to be near him…uh oh!…distancing. Now that she’s really there it could be a case of, “Oh shit! I can’t let my wife/girlfriend find out about this.”

That could also explain the change in behavior.

]]> By: JuJu http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/i-moved-to-be-with-my-long-distance-boyfriend-and-now-he-ignores-me/comment-page-1/#comment-15788 JuJu Sat, 18 Oct 2008 16:46:51 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=253#comment-15788 I reread this now, and I am thinking, could the writer have meant something else by "casual"? Because, look at the sentence - "He is the sweetest man I have ever come across, and the relationship was very casual." - how do its part even relate to each other? (Unless this is the result of some unfortunate editing.) Anyway, just a thought. I reread this now, and I am thinking, could the writer have meant something else by “casual”? Because, look at the sentence – “He is the sweetest man I have ever come across, and the relationship was very casual.” – how do its part even relate to each other? (Unless this is the result of some unfortunate editing.)

Anyway, just a thought.

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