And this is where it really, comes down to you, J. Do you really just want to have the experience of screwing a man just one timelike the person who tries Ecstasy once just to say he did?
If so, I would think you’d go to a straight bar with a girlfriend, find the cutest guy you could find, and let nature take it’s course. Or, even more directly Go on Nerve.com, or Adult Friendfinder.com or SexSearch.com or even Craigslist Once again, it’s not hard to find someone to take your male virginity, it’s a matter of figuring out your comfort level with the whole process. If it sounds a bit cold, like Erica Jong’s ‘zipless fuck,’ well, that’s pretty much what you’re asking for. It’s certainly less complicated than being with a friend, no feelings or relationship to ruin.
…if any readers disagree with my advice, I’m all ears. Sometimes, the answers don’t quite come easily.
But if you can separate sex from feelings, and you’re not too creeped out by the anonymity of it (personally, I was) I say go for it. Talk to him first on the phone. Build up a comfort level. Use protection. Avoid snuggling. And make it clear that you’re out for a onetime good time. And if any readers disagree with my advice, I’m all ears. Sometimes, the answers don’t quite come easily.
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