What normal caring man would want to put up with this drama queen.  

She does not see this / blinders

She needs a complete overhaul – more than a tune up , to get her head straighten out. Understand yourself now. 

If she works at it their is hope.

The best to Tray. 

No matter how much you think that you think like a man, you’ll never measure up. Be a woman. Think like a woman. You’ll attract more men that way.

And, if you agree to meet a man, but he doesn’t confirm the day of, and you decide, “Oh well, we’re not on I guess”, and no-show him, then the man is well within his rights to dismiss you as a flake. I personally NEVER confirm the day of.  If you agree to meet up with me at ____ at ____ pm, I expect you to be there. If I get there and you don’t show up, then I’m gonna play you–expect to receive a text from me on the following day , apologizing for my missing the date.

I’ve eliminated men from further consideration like Tray has if they appear to be dating for ‘sport’.  I also don’t believe that men really know what they want either… and the blah blah blah that goes on in early conversations is just that.  I know what to look for to see if they can back up their words with actions.

I do have a sense of humor about this, like Cilla, but what I DON’T do is waste my time with men who are seeing other women at any level.  All that tells a guy is you are ok with them sleeping around and you will be there when he gets done ‘playing’… Sorry, get done playing first… then see me.  I don’t have time for that immature BS.

If a guy is into you, and is not a commitment phobe or player, he will looking for opportunities to get to know you better ASAP.  I personally don’t need to be dating lots of other men to maintain my detachment.  I have a life that I enjoy.  If, on any given day, I’d rather take a guitar lesson than spend it with that guy, that’s what I do.  And yea, I cherish my male friends.  They are true friends.  Human beings… who have given me alot of insight into the male mind and heart.        

I’m very sorry that you have to go through prenatal alone.  I am sorry that your guy misled you.  Although you want to think he’s a jerk, it really really could be that he wanted to have a baby, but when you got pregnant, he freaked.  This happens.  You have a right to be angry and hurt, but don’t let this color your view of men.  As someone mentioned here, four men could be players and the fifth a good guy.  In my experience, things are never as cut and dried as one guys a player and the other guy isn’t.  Keep the lines of communication open with your baby’s dad.  Perhaps you can send him a neutral e-mail telling him that the door is open if he wants information about your pregnancy’s progress.  Although this man might not be a future partner, he is your child’s father and, however hard it is, maybe having some sort of connection is better in the long run?  But, again, I’m sorry for your loss.

I like to think all men are different, just as all women are different. We’ve all had bumps and bruises if we’ve lived outside of our homes. (with no disrespect to people who have been abused, but this is not the venue for that.) when we lighten up on ourselves, we can take ourselves more lightly and are more approachable.  Male or female bashing is too often the norm but is really only that person’s opinion, which doesn’t make it correct.

I am single and have been. I don’t date much at all, but human nature calls me to be me, be honest and stay open to outcome. Sure I’ve made some decisions that didn’t pan out. I’ve run back to my cave to lick my wounds, then venture forth and try to not make the same mistake rather than repeating it.  Big question:  What do we honestly want? Freedom from relationships or connection….to be advocates in our own lives or victims.  We get to make that decision.

is actually extremely jealous

Yikes, for ME, that would be a  big red flag.

agreed on exclusivity

Then right,  you can’t actually date other men.  You can talk with other men and interact according to how comfortable you are, but you’re in an exclusive relationship which you agreed to.  He says he’s not seeing any women while he’s traveling on business, you have to trust that’s the case.

How long has this ‘relationship’ been going on?  How many times have you actually been in the physical presence of each other?  How much does he call/connect with you?  You said what he says in regard to ‘loving’ you, what does he DO to show you he loves you?  What actions does he take?
 

@ #42 Thanks for seeing that he relly does love me. I have never doubted that he didn’t. The understanding how to accomodate each other is an ongoing process. Maybe I want it to change right away and I’m beating myself up about it because of the inconsistency. My parents are the sme way and have been married for over 32 yrs. Mom is affectionate and loves attention but dad communicates through telling her but not showing it everyday like she wants it. I see through it all and knows that he loves her even though he has never lived up to all her expectations.
Me and my boyfriend have talked about it and he told me “I know you want attention, Im gonna give it to you that you will get tired of me, just have patience with me and get things done and you will not regret” Those are his exact words. So I can wait for things to get better but fear it may not but Im just trying to trust him that things will get better. Also keep in mind, I met him when not as an established relaxed business man. I met him when he is currently at his lowest finance wise. He is a manly man that wants to do so much for me that he is out making that money. I just want him to realize i am not materialistic and i need my emotions being taken care of than the shopping sprees and what not. Also want to add that when we are together, I dont feel this way. All attention is on me. But I need it more when we are apart and thats wht he is incapble of doing for me now. So I’m waiting but don’t wanna wait in vail. Thanks for your comments.