Comments on: I’m Not Sure If I Really Want to Be in A Relationship. But I Do. But I Don’t.

By: Ladybug

Ladybug — Wed, 19 May 2010 09:42:25 +0000

I can relate to this to.
I was in a long term relationship, after 7 years we got married, after 2 years I divorced him, turned out to be someone I didn't know. Now I want to have someone in my life, yet I am afraid, afraid not to totally know the person, or I will get hurt, or able to trust myself, as I made the mistake the first time. I've been divorce 1 year 6 months. I feel I'm ready to have a relationship again, and still I'm scared.

By: Internet Dating Tips

Internet Dating Tips — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 07:26:26 +0000

Greener pasture? Maybe. Not knowing what she wants? I don’t think so. I think what this woman wants is the attention from men in a form of marriage proposal. It’s like self-validation for her. She wants to feel desireable. I don’t think she was really interested in any of those men. Perhaps those men were not even remotely attractive to her, yet she enjoys the conquest. Can a woman be what we call a “player” in a relationship? Absolutely! I have noted that a long time ago and even wrote an article about it http://internet-dating-guru.blogspot.com/2008/03/who-plays-games-guys-or-girls.html

By: Christine

Christine — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 03:42:20 +0000

I can completely relate to this. As I get older (just turned 40) I really like my life, the flexibility, the freedom, and yes sometimes the autonomy. That being said – I would also love to find a special someone to share it with, someone who makes it better than it already is by being part of my life.

By: mitcat

mitcat — Wed, 14 May 2008 00:41:58 +0000

Hi all I can say is that at 43 I’ve been in relationships and out of them, at the moment out of one and desperate to be in one. but it it always the grass is greener. in a relationship you think the opportunities and possibilities are there, somethings really good could come along. But in a relationship that is not there but there are things that the relationship give you like comfort, companionship and shared history that is important. Do you really want to star a relationship with a man who has no connection with your kids. how complicated is that going to be? At my age it isn’t as simple as we
when we were young. nothing is perfect no man will ever be perfect but can you live with it or not. that is what you have to ask yourself because I hate to tell you but dreams do not mostly exist sorry to be such a cynic but that is how I feel.

By: Beans

Beans — Mon, 24 Mar 2008 18:25:02 +0000

I disagree.
I know how this woman feels.
Society says if you are single especially as a woman you are a misfit. However, for me I dont really want to be alone, but the thought of settling down fills me with dread. I got engaged a couple of years ago and when I thought about getting married, I’d wake up in the middle of the night unable to breathe overcome with fear. Ive been proposed to three times since. I meet guys but then do dumb stuff to push them away while at the same time I dont want to be single forever.

By: Gabe

Gabe — Fri, 18 Jan 2008 16:30:58 +0000

Sometimes the confusion we feel is based on the pressure that we have to conform to what our society dictates us to do.

By: just saying..

just saying.. — Wed, 07 Nov 2007 12:10:42 +0000

…and on that point, I dated a guy once who had the exact same attitude. Kept whining about how lonely he was, ho much he wanted to get married to a nice normal girl, but every time he did he managed to sabotoge the opportunity.

By: Kitty

Kitty — Wed, 07 Nov 2007 05:28:05 +0000

I have to agree with Wanna–it sounds like she enjoys whining about how hard it is for her to commit. I think she’d do well to find a guy who has the same attitude as she does and they can be alone together and be just fine.

By: downtowngal

downtowngal — Mon, 05 Nov 2007 12:38:53 +0000

WGMB, seems that Evan is projecting a non-committal guy’s point of view onto this woman. Doesn’t mean she’s doing the right thing…but lots of guys do the same thing that this woman is doing. I agree with you, she’s selfish, and so are a lot of guys who act the way she does.

By: WannaGetMatzoBalled

WannaGetMatzoBalled — Mon, 05 Nov 2007 02:29:59 +0000

Sorry Evan, I am calling bs on this woman. She is not confused about what she wants; she loves the attention and is stringing men along knowing full well that she does reciprocate their feelings. You should have read her the Riot Act instead of playing along with the ‘damsel-with-so-many-suitors-my-pretty-head-is-spinning-oh-and-maybe-I’m-just-afraid-to-commit’ schtick. Engaged a bunch of times and then weaseling out with Caller ID? Completely selfish behavior all around. So she wants to be alone? Guess what–she’s well on her way there.