Comments on: I’m Too Busy To Date. How Do I Meet Quality People If I Have No Free Time? http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/im-too-busy-to-date-how-do-i-meet-quality-people-if-i-have-no-free-time/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 06:12:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: shawn disney http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/im-too-busy-to-date-how-do-i-meet-quality-people-if-i-have-no-free-time/comment-page-1/#comment-194147 shawn disney Sat, 29 Oct 2011 00:10:01 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=773#comment-194147 For Kenley ,who wanted an alternative to online dating  (and others): An excellent one:  it is the Classic, and largely unknown, authentic American Folk Dance: the "Contra" Dance ".( Not "Country", not "Line")  It's a lot like Speed Dating, except that talking is possible, but not required.  In form, it is like Square Dancing, except done in lines , which makes it remarkably better.  The music is a lot like Riverdance. You don't need a date; it's not cliquish;  you change partners for every dance.You don't need to memorize patterns; it's not choreographed, but "Called".  It cycles through "groups of four" , so that in 15 or 20 minutes, you've danced briefing with as many people  as the hall will hold.  Anywhere from 12 to hundreds. People who do this tend not to be drinkers, or druggies, so it may not be for everyone, but there is a great variety of people there , all ages and types, but it's physical enough to tire you out.  Of course, you can sit one  out. If you can walk, you can do it.  Check the Net. For Kenley ,who wanted an alternative to online dating  (and others): An excellent one:  it is the Classic, and largely unknown, authentic American Folk Dance: the “Contra” Dance “.( Not “Country”, not “Line”)  It’s a lot like Speed Dating, except that talking is possible, but not required.  In form, it is like Square Dancing, except done in lines , which makes it remarkably better.  The music is a lot like Riverdance. You don’t need a date; it’s not cliquish;  you change partners for every dance.You don’t need to memorize patterns; it’s not choreographed, but “Called”.  It cycles through “groups of four” , so that in 15 or 20 minutes, you’ve danced briefing with as many people  as the hall will hold.  Anywhere from 12 to hundreds. People who do this tend not to be drinkers, or druggies, so it may not be for everyone, but there is a great variety of people there , all ages and types, but it’s physical enough to tire you out.  Of course, you can sit one  out. If you can walk, you can do it.  Check the Net.

]]> By: Lydia http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/im-too-busy-to-date-how-do-i-meet-quality-people-if-i-have-no-free-time/comment-page-1/#comment-153404 Lydia Tue, 03 May 2011 06:48:09 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=773#comment-153404 I wonder if there is anything he can do to work out a relationship with the mother of his child.  His life may be a lot less complicated that way.  He didn't share many details about his situation with the mother, but I am glad he is so involved with his child. I don't know what his situation is with her, but I think too often people look to start over with a new  imperfect person when they would be better off fixing what is broken with the imperfect person they have a child with. I love you, Evan, but I think casual sex is a terrible thing. I'm so glad you settled down and got yourself a family. I wonder if there is anything he can do to work out a relationship with the mother of his child.  His life may be a lot less complicated that way.  He didn’t share many details about his situation with the mother, but I am glad he is so involved with his child.

I don’t know what his situation is with her, but I think too often people look to start over with a new  imperfect person when they would be better off fixing what is broken with the imperfect person they have a child with.

I love you, Evan, but I think casual sex is a terrible thing. I’m so glad you settled down and got yourself a family.

]]> By: Sayanta http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/im-too-busy-to-date-how-do-i-meet-quality-people-if-i-have-no-free-time/comment-page-1/#comment-23428 Sayanta Thu, 12 Mar 2009 21:19:19 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=773#comment-23428 JB- Maybe that was just the women's polite way of saying they weren't interested anymore- and the time factor had nothing to do with it. The same way men say they'll call (when they have no intent to) just to be 'polite.' JB-

Maybe that was just the women’s polite way of saying they weren’t interested anymore- and the time factor had nothing to do with it. The same way men say they’ll call (when they have no intent to) just to be ‘polite.’

]]> By: A-L http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/im-too-busy-to-date-how-do-i-meet-quality-people-if-i-have-no-free-time/comment-page-1/#comment-23355 A-L Wed, 11 Mar 2009 22:29:50 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=773#comment-23355 Starthrower, Some women are happy to get free drinks and expensive meals from a guy in whom they have no interest. Some women use sex as a hostage, forcing men to do whatever they want in order to get it. Some women will cheat on their significant other simply because they are bored. Some women are only interested in men who make a significant amount of money. Some women have their whole weddings planned out (including the date) and are just looking for a man to insert as the groom. Some women become controlling little wenches forcing a guy to cater to their every whim. And many women will ignore a guy's best attempt at an e-mail initiating contact with them. So why should a guy have to face all these dangers, jump through these hoops, etc. Why does he always have to ask the woman out and pay for everything? Why shouldn't he just lay back and relax with his friends and family instead of looking for a significant other? In case it isn't obvious, neither side is perfect, both have their issues, they're just different issues. Though there are women that fit the various descriptions above, I think you'd probably agree that it's not the majority of them. Just as there are guys out there who might lead you on when they're really more interested in a fling. I suspect you'd tell guys not to give up on women. And that's what I'm telling you: don't give up on men. Starthrower,

Some women are happy to get free drinks and expensive meals from a guy in whom they have no interest. Some women use sex as a hostage, forcing men to do whatever they want in order to get it. Some women will cheat on their significant other simply because they are bored. Some women are only interested in men who make a significant amount of money. Some women have their whole weddings planned out (including the date) and are just looking for a man to insert as the groom. Some women become controlling little wenches forcing a guy to cater to their every whim. And many women will ignore a guy’s best attempt at an e-mail initiating contact with them. So why should a guy have to face all these dangers, jump through these hoops, etc. Why does he always have to ask the woman out and pay for everything? Why shouldn’t he just lay back and relax with his friends and family instead of looking for a significant other?

In case it isn’t obvious, neither side is perfect, both have their issues, they’re just different issues. Though there are women that fit the various descriptions above, I think you’d probably agree that it’s not the majority of them. Just as there are guys out there who might lead you on when they’re really more interested in a fling. I suspect you’d tell guys not to give up on women. And that’s what I’m telling you: don’t give up on men.

]]> By: starthrower68 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/im-too-busy-to-date-how-do-i-meet-quality-people-if-i-have-no-free-time/comment-page-1/#comment-23283 starthrower68 Wed, 11 Mar 2009 01:10:13 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=773#comment-23283 Just to play devil's advocate, having read many of Evan's other posts, such as the infamous "men are not interested just being in the moment post", there is little motivation for me to actively seek out a relationship. I do carve out time for a personal life, but I do so with friends and family with whom I don't have to jump through hoops, look a certain way, etc. Sure it does get a little lonely at times, but so far, that doesn't outweigh all the stuff one goes through to date. I'm sure that finding the right person is probably an incredible thing, but I can also accept it may never happen for me. But I am open-minded; feel free to talk me out of my mindset. Just to play devil’s advocate, having read many of Evan’s other posts, such as the infamous “men are not interested just being in the moment post”, there is little motivation for me to actively seek out a relationship. I do carve out time for a personal life, but I do so with friends and family with whom I don’t have to jump through hoops, look a certain way, etc. Sure it does get a little lonely at times, but so far, that doesn’t outweigh all the stuff one goes through to date. I’m sure that finding the right person is probably an incredible thing, but I can also accept it may never happen for me. But I am open-minded; feel free to talk me out of my mindset.

]]> By: Sayanta http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/im-too-busy-to-date-how-do-i-meet-quality-people-if-i-have-no-free-time/comment-page-1/#comment-22751 Sayanta Wed, 04 Mar 2009 19:38:21 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=773#comment-22751 I had to post this- kind of a no-brainer article, but still a good one for the date-deprived. http://food.yahoo.com/blog/foxyfestivities/15204/the-real-road-to-getting-more-dates I had to post this- kind of a no-brainer article, but still a good one for the date-deprived.

http://food.yahoo.com/blog/foxyfestivities/15204/the-real-road-to-getting-more-dates

]]> By: Maria http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/im-too-busy-to-date-how-do-i-meet-quality-people-if-i-have-no-free-time/comment-page-1/#comment-22261 Maria Tue, 24 Feb 2009 19:14:21 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=773#comment-22261 JB this one is for you. I may be wrong in my thinking but here goes. I believe it is ALWAYS a privilige to spend quality time with a date. We all have busy lives to lead, between work, family, interests and other commitments. I am more apt to take things nice and slow with anyone I meet (especially from online), and seeing them once a week for the beginning of a relationship seems healthy to me. It allows me to still have a life, and reflect on the time I spent with them. Hopefully the dates last longer than 3 hours, as time goes on. Hopefully by date three or four we are spending the whole day together. Many quality women out there have young children. If you know that you will not entertain a woman with young kids than is helpful to be upfront about it from the get go. It's not for everyone. Some men are truly excited about a woman with kids because their kids are grown and they miss it- or they have never had any and want to experience it a little. P.S. Most of the men I date are in your age range. JB this one is for you. I may be wrong in my thinking but here goes. I believe it is ALWAYS a privilige to spend quality time with a date. We all have busy lives to lead, between work, family, interests and other commitments. I am more apt to take things nice and slow with anyone I meet (especially from online), and seeing them once a week for the beginning of a relationship seems healthy to me. It allows me to still have a life, and reflect on the time I spent with them. Hopefully the dates last longer than 3 hours, as time goes on. Hopefully by date three or four we are spending the whole day together. Many quality women out there have young children. If you know that you will not entertain a woman with young kids than is helpful to be upfront about it from the get go. It’s not for everyone. Some men are truly excited about a woman with kids because their kids are grown and they miss it- or they have never had any and want to experience it a little. P.S. Most of the men I date are in your age range.

]]> By: JB http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/im-too-busy-to-date-how-do-i-meet-quality-people-if-i-have-no-free-time/comment-page-1/#comment-22219 JB Mon, 23 Feb 2009 22:59:19 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=773#comment-22219 Not "bitter" just better and a lot smarter,older,and wiser ...lol I'm lucky,I'm 48 now so MOST of the women I meet are past the "I need a baby sitter for my 5 & 7 yr old bullshit" Thank god I rarely if ever have to deal with it. Let the younger guys have at it. Not “bitter” just better and a lot smarter,older,and wiser …lol
I’m lucky,I’m 48 now so MOST of the women I meet are past the “I need a baby sitter for my 5 & 7 yr old bullshit” Thank god I rarely if ever have to deal with it. Let the younger guys have at it.

]]> By: casualencounters.com/blog http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/im-too-busy-to-date-how-do-i-meet-quality-people-if-i-have-no-free-time/comment-page-1/#comment-21865 casualencounters.com/blog Tue, 17 Feb 2009 21:00:44 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=773#comment-21865 Wow, JB. Bitter much?

casualencounters.com/blog´s last blog post…“The tragedy, the true catastrophe, is that humanity continues.”

]]> By: JB http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/im-too-busy-to-date-how-do-i-meet-quality-people-if-i-have-no-free-time/comment-page-1/#comment-21801 JB Mon, 16 Feb 2009 15:07:35 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=773#comment-21801 Who wants to date someone who has "once a week" for 3 hrs when there's so many that have so much more time ? You can't have a real relationship seeing someone for that little time. What you have is a "date". "Oh thank you so much for squeezing me in to YOUR busy life, I feel honored" and don't worry the other 6 nights a week I'll stay home and watch TV and not date anyone else....LOL Puhhhleeezzzzz NEVER AGAIN will I hear these famous words "I don't have time to be in a relationship" after I invested 5 months.......No Thanks,been there and done that. Who wants to date someone who has “once a week” for 3 hrs when there’s so many that have so much more time ? You can’t have a real relationship seeing someone for that little time. What you have is a “date”. “Oh thank you so much for squeezing me in to YOUR busy life, I feel honored” and don’t worry the other 6 nights a week I’ll stay home and watch TV and not date anyone else….LOL Puhhhleeezzzzz
NEVER AGAIN will I hear these famous words “I don’t have time to be in a relationship” after I invested 5 months…….No Thanks,been there and done that.

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