Comments on: Is Hooking Up Dangerous or Liberating?

By: NonExist

NonExist — Fri, 17 Feb 2012 14:16:56 +0000

@Diana #48
As EMK says there are some who are exceptions to the rule.
And I would have no problem choosing as a long term companion a previous hookup partner.
I’d be hypocritical not to and I do not think a person’s sexual choices are the entire sum of their character.
In terms of relationships, why should i not be willing to accept that which I have done as well.

By: NonExist

NonExist — Fri, 17 Feb 2012 13:40:01 +0000

In my high school and college days I did plenty of hooking up.
And usually it was because the women did not want anything outside that.
Of course I did not turn the ones I found attractive down because being a guy who is a 3 or 4 on the self assessed attractiveness scale and probably a 5 in other areas I figured that my chances were limited.

Even though I could see the reason why some people preferred hookups over all else, it seemed rather off putting for me personally when I could not be around my sexual partner on other levels.
It is just more enjoyable overall and adds another dimension when you can combine companionship, friendship, conversation, and sex together.

For those who enjoy it, more power to them. And that is not to say that at present if a lady offered I would turn it down. Especially with how long it has been since I have been sexually intimate.

I am looking for more however so that would just be a temporary enjoyment until I find what I am seeking..

By: Michael

Michael — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 00:53:22 +0000

There is a lot more to life than just easy sex
There is career and gambling and drinking, so I have heard.

By: Mikko Kemppe

Mikko Kemppe — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 17:31:57 +0000

I think "hooking up" and can be both dangerous or liberating depending a lot on the person doing the hooking up. I agree with Janet in that today women stay single for those very same reasons many men do. There is a lot more to life than just easy sex, but I think it takes maturity to realize that, especially on our men's part. But on the other hand, I would not judge myself or those who would enjoy a liberating hookup. Mikko Kemppe´s last blog post...Do Men Just Want Sex? Should My Decision Be To Wait Or Not To Wait?

By: hunter

hunter — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 20:59:59 +0000

I am glad we have several definitions of “hook up.” I was beginning to say to myself, “where I have been, all this time?”

By: Selena

Selena — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 21:08:17 +0000

Honey,

That was funny! Thanks for sharing.

I don’t remember the term “hook-up” being used much when I was in college (back when dinosaurs roamed the earth). Anything of short duration was “went out with”, which could mean making out, sex, or nothing happened, depending on how one was so inclined. Thinking about it, I still use that term in conversation today: “I went out with him a few times”, or for a couple months, or “I went out with this guy once who…” Having “gone out” with someone did not mean they were ever a boyfriend. Back when I was in high school/college the term “dating” seemed old-fashioned; something our parents did back in ’50′s. Now it’s current lexicon again.

I like your bf’s expression “kick it in the head” too. Never heard that, it’s great!

By: Honey

Honey — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 20:53:14 +0000

Yes, I am from the East Coast – the BF is from Arizona, so I think it was a regional difference.

Honey´s last blog post…How Much Do I Invest in Someone Else?

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 20:15:21 +0000

@Honey- my school was the same way! Any chance you attended college on the East Coast?

As I mentioned in an earlier post, in my peer group hooking up came to mean anything sexual, up to and including intercourse.

By: Honey

Honey — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 19:59:55 +0000

Selena – funny you should ask! I posted a while back on a pretty hilarious (in retrospect, though not at the time) misunderstanding because where I went to college, “hook-up” meant “make out” and where the BF went to college it meant “have sex”…needless to say I inadvertantly gave him the impression that I was pretty slutty:

http://honeyandlance.com/speaking-the-same-language

Enjoy!

Honey´s last blog post…How Much Do I Invest in Someone Else?

By: Ava

Ava — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 19:58:40 +0000

Personally, and in general, I think hooking up is when you know from the get-go that it’s going to be casual and nothing more, and when you are in it just for the sex and the short-term. I guess there are people who have long-term flings like that, or even something more serious that comes out of the hook-up, but that’s rare.