Comments on: Is it Harder for Women To Date In New York City Than Anywhere Else? http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/is-it-harder-for-women-to-date-in-new-york-city-than-anywhere-else/ Thu, 18 Mar 2010 01:38:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: hunter http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/is-it-harder-for-women-to-date-in-new-york-city-than-anywhere-else/comment-page-1/#comment-7889 hunter Fri, 09 May 2008 00:46:46 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/is-it-harder-for-women-to-date-in-new-york-city-than-anywhere-else/#comment-7889 Having gone dateless for months at a time, many times, it seems as if the 90,000 single men in Evan's Blog, are all in the Los Angeles area. Having gone dateless for months at a time, many times, it seems as if the 90,000 single men in Evan’s Blog, are all in the Los Angeles area.

]]> By: Kat Wilder http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/is-it-harder-for-women-to-date-in-new-york-city-than-anywhere-else/comment-page-1/#comment-7784 Kat Wilder Tue, 06 May 2008 06:32:16 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/is-it-harder-for-women-to-date-in-new-york-city-than-anywhere-else/#comment-7784 You'll get some insight into why it's harder to find a partner in a place like New York by reading what Tim Harford refers to as “The Marriage Supermarket” in his book, “The Logic of Life: The Rational Economics of an Irrational World.” Scarcity is power, and too many women looking for marriageable men end up coming down with the Carrie Bradshaw blues. And, Evan, it isn't much better on the West Coast, as I blogged about in my post, Where are the men? — http://blogs.marinij.com/katwilder/2008/03/where_are_the_men_1.html But, it doesn't really matter where you live — it's how you live, and if you're happy going about your life, you'll no doubt meet people with whom you can connect. You’ll get some insight into why it’s harder to find a partner in a place like New York by reading what Tim Harford refers to as “The Marriage Supermarket” in his book, “The Logic of Life: The Rational Economics of an Irrational World.” Scarcity is power, and too many women looking for marriageable men end up coming down with the Carrie Bradshaw blues.

And, Evan, it isn’t much better on the West Coast, as I blogged about in my post, Where are the men? — http://blogs.marinij.com/katwilder/2008/03/where_are_the_men_1.html

But, it doesn’t really matter where you live — it’s how you live, and if you’re happy going about your life, you’ll no doubt meet people with whom you can connect.

]]> By: Sara http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/is-it-harder-for-women-to-date-in-new-york-city-than-anywhere-else/comment-page-1/#comment-7747 Sara Sun, 04 May 2008 23:07:28 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/is-it-harder-for-women-to-date-in-new-york-city-than-anywhere-else/#comment-7747 I had similar experiences in Boston too. While on Match it got to the point were I was doing all the winking and emailing. Very few men contacted me. I had similar experiences in Boston too. While on Match it got to the point were I was doing all the winking and emailing. Very few men contacted me.

]]> By: Steve http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/is-it-harder-for-women-to-date-in-new-york-city-than-anywhere-else/comment-page-1/#comment-7737 Steve Sun, 04 May 2008 12:43:03 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/is-it-harder-for-women-to-date-in-new-york-city-than-anywhere-else/#comment-7737 Ron; About post #19. First everyone has different tastes. Second, as Sarah G mentioned the old saying "There are a million stories in NYC" is true, even people in this thread seem to have had different experiences in NYC. Lastly, I think I will corroborate the idea that the "always trading up" mentality can exist in NYC. It is a city, a densely populated one, and one where people are OUT and DOING things. I don't know how super model dense it is, but on my brief visits there I have seen more women while simply going about my business then I do at home making an effort to find women. Ron;
About post #19. First everyone has different tastes. Second, as Sarah G mentioned the old saying “There are a million stories in NYC” is true, even people in this thread seem to have had different experiences in NYC. Lastly, I think I will corroborate the idea that the “always trading up” mentality can exist in NYC. It is a city, a densely populated one, and one where people are OUT and DOING things. I don’t know how super model dense it is, but on my brief visits there I have seen more women while simply going about my business then I do at home making an effort to find women.

]]> By: hunter http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/is-it-harder-for-women-to-date-in-new-york-city-than-anywhere-else/comment-page-1/#comment-7734 hunter Sun, 04 May 2008 08:26:12 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/is-it-harder-for-women-to-date-in-new-york-city-than-anywhere-else/#comment-7734 Another statistic for the gold digging "hot babes," In Los Angeles, a big portion of the population is low to middle income...unusual for a major city... Another statistic for the gold digging “hot babes,” In Los Angeles, a big portion of the population is low to middle income…unusual for a major city…

]]> By: Ron http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/is-it-harder-for-women-to-date-in-new-york-city-than-anywhere-else/comment-page-1/#comment-7725 Ron Sat, 03 May 2008 18:55:03 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/is-it-harder-for-women-to-date-in-new-york-city-than-anywhere-else/#comment-7725 Well, I just did a quick online search for women aged 21-39 on Yahoo personals, photos only, and physiques that were slim, fit, etc. only. Few "hot" women come up in the online listings. Maybe they go to other online sites. I think some of you gals are probably selling yourself short and giving other women in your area too much credit. Well, I just did a quick online search for women aged 21-39 on Yahoo personals, photos only, and physiques that were slim, fit, etc. only.

Few “hot” women come up in the online listings. Maybe they go to other online sites.

I think some of you gals are probably selling yourself short and giving other women in your area too much credit.

]]> By: Ron http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/is-it-harder-for-women-to-date-in-new-york-city-than-anywhere-else/comment-page-1/#comment-7724 Ron Sat, 03 May 2008 18:44:03 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/is-it-harder-for-women-to-date-in-new-york-city-than-anywhere-else/#comment-7724 I'd hate to say it for those New Yorkers out there, but I am surprised by those saying New York women are all that hot. I've got eyes, folks and discriminating eyes at that. NY women are not all that hotter than other places. Hottest of all - South Beach area on a Friday or Saturday night. Southern Cal also kicks NY's butt in this dept. Chicago has it's share of attractive women, but pales in comparison with South Beach and SoCal. NY does have some attractive women, but you guys are overstating it IMO. And yes, I've spent enough time there to know. Don't mean to offend anyone - NYC is still one of the best cities in the world. I’d hate to say it for those New Yorkers out there, but I am surprised by those saying New York women are all that hot. I’ve got eyes, folks and discriminating eyes at that. NY women are not all that hotter than other places.

Hottest of all – South Beach area on a Friday or Saturday night. Southern Cal also kicks NY’s butt in this dept.

Chicago has it’s share of attractive women, but pales in comparison with South Beach and SoCal.

NY does have some attractive women, but you guys are overstating it IMO.

And yes, I’ve spent enough time there to know.

Don’t mean to offend anyone – NYC is still one of the best cities in the world.

]]> By: downtowngal http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/is-it-harder-for-women-to-date-in-new-york-city-than-anywhere-else/comment-page-1/#comment-7717 downtowngal Sat, 03 May 2008 13:44:14 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/is-it-harder-for-women-to-date-in-new-york-city-than-anywhere-else/#comment-7717 Evan, I'd also like to add that I have a master's degree in statistics and used to work for a market research firm where we studied demographic trends. We found that often times media soundbites are just that - and are used to grab headlines. Evan, I’d also like to add that I have a master’s degree in statistics and used to work for a market research firm where we studied demographic trends. We found that often times media soundbites are just that – and are used to grab headlines.

]]> By: downtowngal http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/is-it-harder-for-women-to-date-in-new-york-city-than-anywhere-else/comment-page-1/#comment-7706 downtowngal Sat, 03 May 2008 04:08:35 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/is-it-harder-for-women-to-date-in-new-york-city-than-anywhere-else/#comment-7706 Sorry Evan, but I still think that lumping people ages 20-64 together is inappropriate, as women in their 20's, for example, are looking for a different demographic than those who are 50+. Just because this stat is quoted in mainstream media doesn't mean it reflects the true reality of dating. My point is that previous census data break the age groups down further and are therefore more telling. By highlighting that there are more single women than men as a theme for why it's so difficult in NY distorts the picture. Anyone who has worked with numbers will tell you how they can be taken out of context. If your goal is to offer helpful advice then providing a skewed picture really does a disservice. Sorry Evan, but I still think that lumping people ages 20-64 together is inappropriate, as women in their 20’s, for example, are looking for a different demographic than those who are 50+.

Just because this stat is quoted in mainstream media doesn’t mean it reflects the true reality of dating. My point is that previous census data break the age groups down further and are therefore more telling. By highlighting that there are more single women than men as a theme for why it’s so difficult in NY distorts the picture.

Anyone who has worked with numbers will tell you how they can be taken out of context. If your goal is to offer helpful advice then providing a skewed picture really does a disservice.

]]> By: nycwoman http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/is-it-harder-for-women-to-date-in-new-york-city-than-anywhere-else/comment-page-1/#comment-7704 nycwoman Sat, 03 May 2008 01:59:29 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/is-it-harder-for-women-to-date-in-new-york-city-than-anywhere-else/#comment-7704 Well I sympathize with Rachel. I'm a few years older than her (4 to be precise) and find that I'm also lost in the shuffle of the "trading up for someone younger, hotter, thinner" dating scene in NYC. And frankly the standards in NYC and other major cities, are really really unrealistic. I consider myself a solid 7 in the looks department and it may sound lame of me, but I am a great catch if I'm given a chance. That is the hard part, getting guys to notice me, a woman who is appearance wise basically a dime a dozen woman on the streets of New York. I suspect Rachel may fall into this category as well. I'm so over online dating and the bar scene. So what's a better than average, but still a dime a dozen girl to do? I joined groups and clubs (some for singles and some for platonic). I think that dime a dozen girls stand out more in a smaller social environment where guys aren't presented with many many options (like online dating and bars) especially with those knockout girls that guys flock to!!! I personally would recommend not putting all your efforts into online dating in NYC. And yes I did look a the competition. I was floored at what I was up against. They REALLY WERE hotter, younger, thinner, and with bigger breasts. I'd say join some groups, volunteer, do some outdoorsy/sports things now that the weather is getting warmer. And when you do these things, do things you like.....then if you do meet a guy it will just be a bonus! Well I sympathize with Rachel. I’m a few years older than her (4 to be precise) and find that I’m also lost in the shuffle of the “trading up for someone younger, hotter, thinner” dating scene in NYC. And frankly the standards in NYC and other major cities, are really really unrealistic. I consider myself a solid 7 in the looks department and it may sound lame of me, but I am a great catch if I’m given a chance. That is the hard part, getting guys to notice me, a woman who is appearance wise basically a dime a dozen woman on the streets of New York. I suspect Rachel may fall into this category as well.

I’m so over online dating and the bar scene. So what’s a better than average, but still a dime a dozen girl to do? I joined groups and clubs (some for singles and some for platonic). I think that dime a dozen girls stand out more in a smaller social environment where guys aren’t presented with many many options (like online dating and bars) especially with those knockout girls that guys flock to!!!

I personally would recommend not putting all your efforts into online dating in NYC. And yes I did look a the competition. I was floored at what I was up against. They REALLY WERE hotter, younger, thinner, and with bigger breasts.

I’d say join some groups, volunteer, do some outdoorsy/sports things now that the weather is getting warmer. And when you do these things, do things you like…..then if you do meet a guy it will just be a bonus!

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