Comments on: Men Always Give Me Their Phone Numbers But I Don’t Want to Call Them First!

By: Fractal

Fractal — Tue, 01 Nov 2011 14:25:44 +0000

Let me suggest another reason why men offer their phone number. Out of respect for women. The ones I know don’t want to pressure the woman, and with all the stalking & loonies going on nowadays, they know that women might not want to give out their phone numbers to a random they just met. So he isn’t expectng her to take the reins of the relationship – he’s just expecting her to indicate interest in a non-threatening way, just like smiling in the supermarket.

So the sample email per EMK is the perfect and appropriate response. Another option is to SMS the guy’s number, not actually call him, and say its you. this is another wink-like way of giving the guy your number, after he’s given you his, and to let him know it’s ok to call you. From there he should take the reins. If he doesn’t, then move on.

By: Lanka

Lanka — Sun, 23 Oct 2011 05:46:07 +0000

I never liked to call guy first because it’s never works. If you call him and he answered the call he acts really strange like you went into his wallet and then he would ask to get back with him another time anyway because it’s wrong time, he is watching football or …………

By: figure8

figure8 — Mon, 08 Nov 2010 03:38:04 +0000

I much prefer the man to be the initiator. I am female, 44 and like to be pursued by the man.

By: MeetMeinOtrSPce

MeetMeinOtrSPce — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 00:57:01 +0000

haha… calls me his girlfriend. oi vey. well, at least it was entertaining, mildly.

By: MeetMeinOtrSPce

MeetMeinOtrSPce — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 00:24:08 +0000

Oh man, I broke all the rules. hahaaaa. crap. But, he gave me his phone number after he and I plus a few other friends chatted all night(not online, in person). Plus, he’s a timid guy, so I think I did the right thing. Because he likes me a lot! (calls me his boyfriend, paid for the first few dates after picking me up, and basically everything I’ve ever wanted from a guy, he does!) woo! =) Honestly, I wouldn’t count on every woman being a phone person. Have something to say! I am definitely not a phone person. I am a phone person(phone person, as in wanting to talk for no real reason in particular.) with ONE person and that is my best friend. I feel like part of what a woman expects to hear in the first phone conversation is interest from the man. It would be lame to just call and expect her to talk/chat. To me a great first phone call would have a few jokes to ease the tension/anxiety, ask how the day went, make plans then move on!

By: hunter

hunter — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 15:23:14 +0000

Dan, start calling the females on the telephone. All it takes is practice/experience. It may feel awkward at first, but, that goes away, if you try frequently….In most instances, if a woman is good, and healthy, all you have to do is dial up the phone, and say, “Hi, this is Dan calling” and the average woman will talk your ear off,,,,, if you let her.

By: DAN

DAN — Thu, 05 Mar 2009 15:17:51 +0000

~~~ IM A GUY and i do not ever call the lady 1st.
never never… its not that i dont want her, its that i am too shy
and for the most part feel i will fail and emails are safer.

sorry but if i know ahead of time – regadless of how i looked, or how big or ugly i was. that she wouldnt mind and i always had positive experiance with calling 1st i would.

even when she calls me, if its someone i dont know personally or have never met, i may be able to talk for weeks, but when it comes to actually meeting – i chicken out then too

ive had too many women fall in love with me over the phone 1-4 weeks and then we meet and NOTHING

By: Cilla

Cilla — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 04:21:50 +0000

Susan,

I will say it again. If you are resorting to “tricks,” you are not in an adult relationship.

BTW, there is no rule book (other than “The Rules”) that “technically” says a man should ask for a woman’s number. It was a societal convention that women themselves screwed up by becoming “liberated.” You can’t lay all the blame on men. And what alternative is there to giving your number to a man, if you can “trick” him into asking for it?

By: Susan

Susan — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 21:17:29 +0000

Cilla -
Technically, men should ask for the # outright. If you don’t want to give it to him, offer an alternative with what you feel comfortable with. Or what Marc suggested in his article.

The bottom line is men should ask and somewhere in time, they stopped. Now if you want to call a man first, great. At some point the man needs to take control and continue calling/making plans with you. That is why it is best to start out having the man call you period. The trick is getting him to do that.

By: hunter

hunter — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 03:04:56 +0000

I’ll share with the ladies what I heard at a single seminar concerning men giving telephone numbers. ” If he hands you his telephone number, take it, write ‘your’ telephone number on it and give it back!”…….