Comments on: My Boyfriend Doesn’t Want to Have Sex With Me!

By: Agreee

Agreee — Sun, 18 Dec 2011 06:34:27 +0000

I’ve been friends with this guy for about 10 years. He always liked me, I wast sure. Then I suddenly felt and attraction. We were on holiday, sharing a bed, green light! We kissed, he’d go for a boob grope, things would get heated but then he’d stop! why? And he wouldn’t continue. That was a month ago now and still nothing. I don’t get it? I told him that sex was important and that sex was what took things forward. He said he wants to ‘take things slow’ in the bedroom but in all other aspects it’s all systems go ( he wants to move in etc). I’m very confused. I’m beginning to suspect he’s gay. Nothing else makes sense. So frustrating…I’m sure all the girls on this page will agree. Life is too short to live sex less relationships. Wish I had the answers though.

By: Ron

Ron — Fri, 09 Dec 2011 17:48:46 +0000

Okay, let’s start with the obvious. When you start a relationship sexual or not, the other person in the relationship is trying hard to win you over just like you are doing to win their attention. High heels, lingerie, food sex, phone sex, porn sex, blow-jobs, strap on sex, tie them up, spank them, what ever…..everything goes and it happens often. You find yourself begging for mercy. Pure bliss, I know !!!
As soon as you propose and make the commitment, they “got you” and the “hunt” ends. They won you over or you won them over, works both ways. First you try to blame work, stress, money, etc…. then you start to blame yourself and try to make yourself more desirable, new haircut, new clothes, work out, etc…. then you try to give them the cold shoulder. What really works? Who knows!!!
if the person is worth the work, then work on the relationship, if not and it was just an infatuation, realize it and move on. They will try to re-spark the flame of old because you are moving away but you have to stand your ground and either work it out or move on to someone who is really always that way. I mean I understand a cooling off and settling in to “life”, but there is a limit. You have to make time for your significant other and set aside time for just sex. Have a sex night, get some sex dice, play a sexy game, rent some porn you both like and try to emulate it. Dress up and go to a bar and try to pick up your significant other. Be creative in whatever you did before the icy cool off. if they still don’t get it, drop em like a bad habit, you don’t have time to fuel the libido of two people. Life is too short to go without good sex and often!!

By: someone

someone — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 21:51:52 +0000

i dont know how i stumbled across this article but it was interesting to me for some reason. After i broke up with my ex boyfriend, he seemed to still be “obsessed” with me… for many years. even after i got married. He had girlfriends since then and then 1 that he was with for years… but he would always contact me and tell me he hadn’t had sex with her. And that he didn’t want to have sex with anyone if it wasn’t me. (he was super creepy) Anyways, maybe that’s whats going on. Maybe this guy was trying to get over someone but eventually realized he couldn’t or wouldn’t be able to give you what you wanted. Did better than my ex did with his gf. He just stayed with her for years just making it worse..

By: mattew

mattew — Tue, 25 Oct 2011 17:32:39 +0000

Wonder why?Because man like my self learn not to get to close to a woman for sex.Is because i did that so many times i give in and had sex with the girl that we had so much in commen. most of the time they stop being nice to you after awhile because they say you follow them around to much.Whats the point of being girl friend and boyfriend if your not around 1 other most of the time.Or it maybe like self he dos not what to love you because hes aferid to get close to you because so many other relationships he got close to her then they broke hes heart.

By: Mary

Mary — Fri, 11 Mar 2011 14:44:32 +0000

We as women have to know who we are. As we get older we begin to reconize game. Learn to guard your heart it should not be given away quickly or should we be so quick to trust anyone. Some of the women on here complain that a man was only with them a month and they have already devistated you. You mean to tell me you gave your whole being to a man in a month. We are not that desperate. We have to learn to be patient. I met a guy who I really liked but I guarded my heart and took my time. When I realized at different times I was falling to deep I would take breaks and started to do different things with out him. That was four years ago. He is 7 years younger than me and I am #1 on his list of things to do. make me priority and didnot give him my heart overnight.

By: Rojda

Rojda — Sun, 20 Feb 2011 05:12:04 +0000

The same thing happened to me 5 years ago in England. I dumped him because most of my friends told me he was probably gay! I asked him if he was, he did not like my question and stopped talking to me

By: Tolla

Tolla — Wed, 26 Jan 2011 10:42:31 +0000

I met a divorced guy with 2 kids, living with his ex wife. On our 5th date I went over his place for a movie, we got close, huggend, kissed, humped, however at some pout I told him we shall slow down and we didn’t sleep with eachother. He didn’t act irritated. In shortest time (2-3 weeks) he texted me he’s so happy he met me, he wants me in his life, he loves me (this message came too soon, I think). He took me to a ball, introduced me to his friends. Further, I was 2 weeks on holliday, he wrote me e-mails daily. When I was back we couldn’t be on our own at his home, as his mom was visiting. And I live with my parents, so we had no place to be on our own untill his mother leaves. After 6 weeks of dating, he asked me why do I keep him away from my parents. I explained some houserules of my family which he seemed not to like. Since then he got somewhat distanced, and a few days later he texted me he has the feeling it wouldn’r work between us because of my close family ties. What confused me is, he was saying he longs for me, and his mom had left, and he left me per sms without sleeping with me. I guess he had another woman on the run. Because honestly, if you tell a woman good words you either mean them or do this to get her in bed. He didn’t get me in bed, and if he meant all he said, he wouldn’t have left me per text message. Anyway, I was quite confused and dissappointed and was lookin for what may be wrong with me for a long time after that.
P.s. And he introduced me to his mother too.

By: Chris

Chris — Fri, 03 Dec 2010 10:48:36 +0000

He likes men. Why all the theories? It is a simple question with a simple answer.

By: Elly

Elly — Fri, 12 Nov 2010 08:13:51 +0000

I came onto this website looking for answers to why my boyfriend’s sexual drive was lower than mine. I came across ”When Your Sex Drives Don’t Match: Discover Your Libido Types to Create a Mutually Satisfying Sex Life” by Sandra Pertot and thought that this might be the key.
But after reading all these posts about love gone awry in what seems and sounds like perfectly normal relationships, I’m beginning to wonder if there is more to a relationship than what’s on the surface. All the little nuances and dissatisfactions could be a serious conflict in our future relationship. The fact that he doesn’t really like to talk to me and I have to beg it out of him; the fact that he has a hard time telling me that he loves me after nearly 9 months of this relationship; the fact that he has a hard time truly committing to me because he doesn’t know what he wants are all huge, flashing signs that maybe this relationship just isn’t ready for fruition. I think when the relationship isn’t working you have to step back and ask yourself if your needs and wants match his, and if they don’t then it’s high time to make an exit. It’s sad, because sometimes you have to realize that some people don’t know what they want and despite all communication it’ll take a long time before these kinds of people are really ready for love. Or maybe we’re too incompatible to make this work. I guess try the best you can but know when to leave.

By: susan

susan — Sat, 30 Oct 2010 22:58:36 +0000

I have a friend who has “been in a relationship” for over two months, after a year of friendship. He still hasn’t had sex with her, he has been married twice, and got really burned by the 1st two wives. He is sexually active in his mind, and watches lots of porn, but just can’t seem to sleep with his new Girlfriend! She is the one giving HIM pressure to have sex…I just want to know WHY he can’t and what issues might have to stop him from getting intimate.