The only men women might take this crap from (and, mind you, this would take a particular kind of woman – insecure and at least somewhat emotionally messed up) are the highly desirable alpha males. I.e., those possessing a combination of physical attractiveness with confidence in their being god’s gift to women and disregard for social norms. These absolutely must be men women tend to compete over.

Those same women will NOT look twice at a man who doesn’t measure up to these criteria, regardless of how assh*lish his behavior might be, but will think instead that he has to run on his “hind legs” around them for them to pay him any attention.

These women come with baggage. Tons of it.

I knew one such woman who slept around with a lot of men, because it made her “feel loved”. Her husband may have gotten a sexy wife who didn’t leave him, but he also ended up sharing her with a lot of friends, acquaintances and strangers.

Or you could get a woman who is convinced that she’s not good enough to keep you happy, so she constantly suspicious that you’re cheating on her (or will cheat on her) with any woman that you pay any attention to.

Or you could get a woman who is convinced that you’ll dump her once you get to know her … so she protects herself by dumping you preemptively.

And if you’re manipulating her, everybody will be encouraging her to dump your ass.

casualencounters.com/blog said: (#74)
“Kind of obvious, isn’t it. You can punch above your weight with the low-self-esteemers.”

I can think of a few preferable ways to get a woman who would normally be out of my league:

#1 – Be her type
My first serious relationship was with a woman who “liked lanky men”. To most women I was too thin, but to this woman I was irresistable.

#2 – Have high self-esteem
Last year I dated a woman who was as fit as me, smarter than me, better educated than me, funnier than me, better looking than me, had a more prestigious job, out-earned me, and she even danced better than me.

I was the only smart, educated, fit, good looking, employed, funny dancer who wasn’t too intimidated to date her.

#3 – Date someone others find undesirable
My current girlfriend is in her late 40s. But she’s more fit, energetic and sexier than almost any woman my age (or younger). But because of her age, there are fewer men competing for her than there are for less attractive women in their 30s.

And I don’t get stuck with tons of baggage if I do any of these.

Easier to keep, I understand. But do you really want a woman you can manipulate? I imagine that type of relationship would feel rather emotionally vacant, and not at all something that I would desire myself.

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