Comments on: My Boyfriend is Wonderful, but Not Ambitious or Successful

By: starthrower68

starthrower68 — Sat, 29 Dec 2012 21:07:57 +0000

Except I’m not a high-powered anything. I was mindful to always be respectful of him and not try to out-man him. But I guess I’m just too flawed yet again.

By: hunter

hunter — Sat, 29 Dec 2012 19:11:15 +0000

…some men are accused of not communicating, sometimes by hi-powered women that, won’t listen in the first place….and why should they??..these women have the worlds attention….

By: starthrower68

starthrower68 — Sat, 29 Dec 2012 15:56:08 +0000

That compartmentalizing thing is not as easy as it appears even if women *should* be better able to do so. I believe there is a book out with the title “Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti” with regard to that very subject. And sometimes the reverse comes back to bite the more accomplished, ambitious partner in the relationship in the rear end. I was in a relationship with someone who was not the “earner” that I am, who did not have the education, resume, etc. It did not matter to me for the very reason that I did feel loved unconditionally. However, I think it ultimately bothered him and caused him to decided one day just to never speak to me again after being in a 5 month relationship. I didn’t judge him but he did me because if we did something, it was usually up to me to pay. I didn’t see that as a permanent situation and was happy to do so just for the sake of being together but it was evidently not mutual. Before we delve off into the woman being too masculine by doing that discussion, yes, I get that. I guess at the end of the day, he’d rather have someone who needs to be rescued. Of course I can only speculate. He never communicated to me what was wrong, just decided to kick me to the curb. Oh well, what are ya gonna do, right?

By: Aisha

Aisha — Sat, 29 Dec 2012 07:31:40 +0000

i feel the exact same way towards my man we are 20 and 21 he just doesnt have drive.

By: Chris

Chris — Thu, 20 Dec 2012 18:10:40 +0000

That was the best reply to a question like that I have ever seen. Bravo!

By: Lola

Lola — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 20:37:10 +0000

“I thought that finding a good and kind (even wonderful in some aspects) person, who would put up with my tight schedule was hard enough to find. But this made me miserable.
There are gray areas. But one’s own happiness comes first, if you pospone your goals and things you like to keep hold of a man that is not making the best out of most of the time together; the relationship is not worth your while, as plain as black and white.” — Love this, Caro Ferrero. I totally agree with you. Sometimes it just takes a long time before people realize that they are miserable.

By: jelly

jelly — Sat, 30 Jun 2012 12:25:07 +0000

lol,VINO and Mark, poor u, two of you will be single for a very long time and end up in the nursery home…ALONE

By: Violette

Violette — Sun, 10 Jun 2012 06:39:07 +0000

Evan, this was INCREDIBLE to read. Bravo. Very very touching, humbling, genuine. Evan, please keep writing. Wishing you the best of luck in everything!

By: Mark

Mark — Fri, 16 Mar 2012 10:15:43 +0000

Vino, I love your posts. I enjoy how you express yourself in a mature manner. Believe it or not, many men share your views. It is very depressing at times for men like us because the odds are drastically stacked against our favor, due to our genuine egalitarian stance on dating/marriage. I too use the same financial standards that the average woman expects from men, which is to only date those who either meet or exceed my level of income. As you have probably guessed, I have had no luck finding someone. Still, I will maintain my financial requirements of women in hopes that I will inspire more men to do the same. I won’t hold my breath, though.

By: WhoWhatWhy

WhoWhatWhy — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 23:26:08 +0000

Wow… that was one heck of a great answer. I feel for CJ, and I see both sides. It’s a tough position to be in, and, I feel, a very modern position.