Comments on: My Boyfriend Lies Right to My Face and I Want to Believe Him http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-boyfriend-lies-right-to-my-face-and-i-believe-him/ Wed, 22 May 2013 18:56:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Clare http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-boyfriend-lies-right-to-my-face-and-i-believe-him/comment-page-1/#comment-383133 Clare Fri, 10 Aug 2012 07:28:31 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-boyfriend-lies-to-my-face-and-i-believe-him/#comment-383133 @ Lance # 15

I think she probably did go snooping around her boyfriend’s computer, and I read recently, that girls only do this either because:
1) They’re insecure generally, or
2) They know that something is off, and are looking for evidence.
If you trust your man implicitly, there’s no reason to go snooping.

I don’t think it was the first reason with the OP, since she had already admitted that she considered her boyfriend looking at porn to be healthy, and insecure girls generally don’t.

I tend to believe that it was the second reason and there were other things in the relationship that tipped her off that something was not right, perhaps there were lies about other things, for example.

]]> By: hunter http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-boyfriend-lies-right-to-my-face-and-i-believe-him/comment-page-1/#comment-14682 hunter Mon, 22 Sep 2008 03:51:20 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-boyfriend-lies-to-my-face-and-i-believe-him/#comment-14682 on post #19

“Desirable exterior” that does get people involved in relationships, they would rather not be in…..

]]> By: mic http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-boyfriend-lies-right-to-my-face-and-i-believe-him/comment-page-1/#comment-14662 mic Sun, 21 Sep 2008 17:02:38 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-boyfriend-lies-to-my-face-and-i-believe-him/#comment-14662 While it seems clear that he’s up to no good, it also is likely that a good-looking exterior is ‘inviting’ some of the female affection. That might be contributing to the wishful thinking of the woman who wants to believe he’s honest. Unfortunately, many people will overlook negatives to be with a desirable exterior.

]]> By: hunter http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-boyfriend-lies-right-to-my-face-and-i-believe-him/comment-page-1/#comment-14451 hunter Thu, 18 Sep 2008 05:10:13 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-boyfriend-lies-to-my-face-and-i-believe-him/#comment-14451 Some people believe, honesty is not “always” the best policy in a relationship. I have had women lie(to manipulate/control) to me, yet, they call it “diplomacy” or “tactfulness”………LOL!….

]]> By: bella http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-boyfriend-lies-right-to-my-face-and-i-believe-him/comment-page-1/#comment-14418 bella Thu, 18 Sep 2008 00:12:12 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-boyfriend-lies-to-my-face-and-i-believe-him/#comment-14418 Check his SENT folder, and see what he’s sending them.

if it’s not money, i guarantee you they’re getting something in return.

]]> By: Catherine http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-boyfriend-lies-right-to-my-face-and-i-believe-him/comment-page-1/#comment-14397 Catherine Wed, 17 Sep 2008 15:58:11 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-boyfriend-lies-to-my-face-and-i-believe-him/#comment-14397 Its funny that I stumpled upon this article, because I myself ended a relationship of 4 years some months. We lived together for a few months towards the end of our relationship and I just had to do the bold move of kicking him out. Im only 19, but I knew that I just couldn’t be with a person that did nothing but lie to my face. He’s broken up with me 4 times to get with other woman, and even though it wasnt technically cheating, he still LEFT ME for others. I played the rebound thing everytime we broke up, and so I felt that I just wanted to be with him in the end. He even got a tattoo on his chest that says our initials to PROVE that he’ll never leave again. But as it turns out, I left him and its been several months, and im doing good. I decided not to date and have been catching up on my college work and never been better with life.

]]> By: Lance http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-boyfriend-lies-right-to-my-face-and-i-believe-him/comment-page-1/#comment-14368 Lance Wed, 17 Sep 2008 01:11:57 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-boyfriend-lies-to-my-face-and-i-believe-him/#comment-14368 I pretty much agree with everyone above, the guy sounds like a douche and must be in some way encouraging his female friends to send him racy pictures. Those types of things don’t just randomly happen.

I’m surprised no one picked up on this though…what was she doing poking around on his computer? “Maintenance work” sounds totally sketchy, more like being super nosy. Also, how on earth could this homeboy make the same mistake MORE THAN ONCE, like once you get busted, you have to password protect that stuff or hide it or something. Unbelievable. I have a whole separate “guest” account on my laptop for when girls use it just so they can’t go poking around…

]]> By: naturegirl http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-boyfriend-lies-right-to-my-face-and-i-believe-him/comment-page-1/#comment-14359 naturegirl Tue, 16 Sep 2008 18:58:22 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-boyfriend-lies-to-my-face-and-i-believe-him/#comment-14359 ktr899-
That’s the biggest load of rubbish!

The boyfriend is lying. It’s his problem, not hers. If he lies about this, he will lie about other things also. It doesn’t take that much effort to tell the truth, but he lied when confronted.

Trust is the basis of a good relationship.

]]> By: ktr899 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-boyfriend-lies-right-to-my-face-and-i-believe-him/comment-page-1/#comment-14355 ktr899 Tue, 16 Sep 2008 15:24:08 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-boyfriend-lies-to-my-face-and-i-believe-him/#comment-14355 I think that if you know that your boyfriend is lying to you, that’s a problem. Though you should make the relationship a good place for him to be able to tell you the truth without you always jumping on him. I was reading about a girl who’s boyfriend lied to her about having strippers at his bachlor party. Thoughs he didn’t want him to have them, she would’ve been a lot happier if he would’ve come clean, then to think she was marrying someone who would lie to her. Just make sure it is an open place for him to tell you the truth even if you do get mad, let him know you can always work through things but you’re a team!

]]> By: Hot Alpha Female http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-boyfriend-lies-right-to-my-face-and-i-believe-him/comment-page-1/#comment-14309 Hot Alpha Female Mon, 15 Sep 2008 14:35:24 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-boyfriend-lies-to-my-face-and-i-believe-him/#comment-14309 It hard when your in a relationship for that long to see something that can be really obvious to someone else.

You know maybe this is just one his “things”. Well if he isnt doing anything about it … and you can accept it … then yeh sure go ahead. Cont to be with him.

But if you think that you deserve a lot more than that. And what he is doing goes against one of ur values.

Then tell him. Give him the option to do something about it, because it makes u feel a certain way.

N if he doesnt do anything about it .. then you have to decide whether you want to be with a man .. who doesnt take ur emotional needs into his account..

Hot Alpha Female

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