Comments on: My Catholic Boyfriend Refuses to Have Sex With Me. Should I Try to Seduce Him? http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-catholic-boyfriend-refuses-to-have-sex-with-me-should-i-try-to-seduce-him/ Tue, 21 May 2013 19:52:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: jackie http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-catholic-boyfriend-refuses-to-have-sex-with-me-should-i-try-to-seduce-him/comment-page-2/#comment-808423 jackie Fri, 26 Apr 2013 18:44:25 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-catholic-boyfriend-refuses-to-have-sex-with-me-should-i-try-to-seduce-him/#comment-808423 Julia,please leave the man alone,am a woman who has kept herself sexually pure ever since i recommited my life to Christ,we christians believe that sex outside marriage is a sin,and it surely is as the Bible says. If a man was bent on making me fall in that area,i would never want to even look at him alone. Just leave him alone,he will get someone who has values like him. Actually your relationship will never work out,what kind of woman are you anyway? most descent women are looking for a man who can wait till marriage and you are throwing him to the wind? hmmmmmmmmmmmmm

]]> By: Karl R http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-catholic-boyfriend-refuses-to-have-sex-with-me-should-i-try-to-seduce-him/comment-page-2/#comment-608004 Karl R Sun, 30 Dec 2012 15:49:23 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-catholic-boyfriend-refuses-to-have-sex-with-me-should-i-try-to-seduce-him/#comment-608004 james said: (#77)
“there’s no premarital in atheism.”
 
james,
You’re not making sense. Evan is an atheist. He’s married. I know lots of other atheists who are married. If/when they get married, the time before that marriage is “premarital”, by definition.
 
Due to the lack of stigma against sex amongst atheists, they quite frequently have sex prior to marriage, so that would be premarital sex.
 
Anna said: (#76)
“Whether or not you’re religious, pre-marital sex is just plain inappropriate, and I have had it with people saying that saving yourself for marriage is anachronistic. There’s no other respectful way.”
 
I respect my wife. I had premarital sex with her. Are you so arrogant as to believe that you understand my feelings towards my wife better than I do?
 
I’m willing to believe that you don’t respect my wife (or me) because we had premarital sex, But not everyone in the world feels the same way you do. I am perfectly capable of respecting my wife (and myself) even if you don’t.
 
Anna said: (#76)
“What’s up with the atheist Jewish thing anyway? If you’re not practicing the faith, you can’t use the label.”
 
“Can’t” use the label? Is there a law to stop Evan? Have you become the final arbiter of what is correct usage of the English language?
 
“Jewish” is used to refer to the religion and the ethnicity. Regardless of Evan’s religion, his ethnicity is unchanged.
 
Anna said: (#76)
“Women, and men, are not objects for you to exploit.”
 
I’m assuming that you’re using this definition of exploit: “to use selfishly for one’s own ends”
Let me know if you’re using a different definition of the term.
 
You believe my wife exploited me because we had sex before we got married? Since we both put effort in to make certain that our partner got the same pleasure out of sex as we did, how is her action selfish? Since we were both voluntary participants in the sex act, how was she using me?
 
Anna said: (#76)
“I wish there was a nice Catholic, or Christian, guy who loved me.”
 
Perhaps you express yourself poorly, but you sound very arrogant and judgmental in your post. If that’s the way you normally express yourself, then the nice Catholic and Christian guys probably get the same impression of you.
 
Generally speaking, nice Christian guys will be looking for nice Christian women. Most Christians will define “nice” by whether a person possesses Christian virtues … including a forgiving nature and humble attitude. If you’re coming across as arrogant and judgmental, then you’re broadcasting that you’re not a nice Christian woman (even if people are getting the wrong impression of you).
 
Perhaps if you learned to express yourself differently, you’d have more success.

]]> By: james http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-catholic-boyfriend-refuses-to-have-sex-with-me-should-i-try-to-seduce-him/comment-page-2/#comment-607004 james Sun, 30 Dec 2012 04:50:11 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-catholic-boyfriend-refuses-to-have-sex-with-me-should-i-try-to-seduce-him/#comment-607004 Lance – you’re atheist and you believe in premarital sex…. dude, that makes no sense. there’s no premarital in atheism. 

]]> By: Anna http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-catholic-boyfriend-refuses-to-have-sex-with-me-should-i-try-to-seduce-him/comment-page-2/#comment-356410 Anna Mon, 02 Jul 2012 22:22:52 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-catholic-boyfriend-refuses-to-have-sex-with-me-should-i-try-to-seduce-him/#comment-356410 I am devoutly Catholic and have dreamed of finding someone who can respect, and even share my values.  I have never had a boyfriend.  Whether or not you’re religious, pre-marital sex is just plain inappropriate, and I have had it with people saying that saving yourself for marriage is anachronistic.  There’s no other respectful way.  Women, and men, are not objects for you to exploit.  There is nothing worse than after-thought marriages. We are stuck in a society that has gotten love all twisted and backward.  The term is objectively disordered.  That nice Catholic guy has no business dating this immoral woman.  What’s up with the atheist Jewish thing anyway?  If you’re not practicing the faith, you can’t use the label.  I wish there was a nice Catholic, or Christian, guy who loved me.  But I’m always odd-girl out.

]]> By: Glory http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-catholic-boyfriend-refuses-to-have-sex-with-me-should-i-try-to-seduce-him/comment-page-2/#comment-292089 Glory Fri, 20 Apr 2012 21:11:55 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-catholic-boyfriend-refuses-to-have-sex-with-me-should-i-try-to-seduce-him/#comment-292089 Julia I am an atheist with an old fuddy duddy jewish family and I have a catholic boyfriend. I convinced mine with reason and logic as well as temptation. It does work and there is no harm in it. Just do your best to convince him its not a bad thing. He’s an adult he should understand that its part of life. If hes that against it then I suggest leaving him and find someone new. Good luck!

]]> By: Debra Aponte http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-catholic-boyfriend-refuses-to-have-sex-with-me-should-i-try-to-seduce-him/comment-page-2/#comment-290388 Debra Aponte Tue, 17 Apr 2012 17:34:09 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-catholic-boyfriend-refuses-to-have-sex-with-me-should-i-try-to-seduce-him/#comment-290388 Leave this man alone, as you are causing him to commit an act that he sees as immoral. Find someone who has similar attitudes as you do.

]]> By: Joseph http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-catholic-boyfriend-refuses-to-have-sex-with-me-should-i-try-to-seduce-him/comment-page-2/#comment-247901 Joseph Tue, 17 Jan 2012 07:27:28 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-catholic-boyfriend-refuses-to-have-sex-with-me-should-i-try-to-seduce-him/#comment-247901 Julia
I am a Catholic guy and deeply so, and I can tell you right now he is even regretting wholeheartedly the oral sex saga he had and will not fall into the same predicament again. We believe that love and sex are not the same thing, sex or better known as “knowing one’s wife” is reserved for that special person that a man pours his heart and his life into, that one special person he will lay down his life for, the special person that will be his Queen for the rest of his days.

Pre-marital sex besides being wrong confuses courtship and one settles for the less than ideal life partner hence the skyrocketing divorce statistics, and as Catholics we don’t divorce hence the need to be sure before you jump in. Pre-marital sex is what we call fornication, adultery, sexual immorality, impurity and if he is like me then seduction will not work; if you get desperate and take off all your clothes, bend over, or open them wide or whatever, he will walk out and never look back and in future he will not stay in your company (just the two of you) where there are no other people and that will be the absolute end of the relationship (we avoid near occasions of sin).

In case you are wondering, I am not gay, I am a father of two. Please respect his morals, choices and beliefs even if you think he is wrong to think so.

]]> By: Saint Stephen http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-catholic-boyfriend-refuses-to-have-sex-with-me-should-i-try-to-seduce-him/comment-page-2/#comment-223211 Saint Stephen Sun, 18 Dec 2011 15:54:05 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-catholic-boyfriend-refuses-to-have-sex-with-me-should-i-try-to-seduce-him/#comment-223211 @Jonalyn
I guess u’ve never heard about self discipline/control before.

]]> By: Jonalyn http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-catholic-boyfriend-refuses-to-have-sex-with-me-should-i-try-to-seduce-him/comment-page-2/#comment-222780 Jonalyn Sun, 18 Dec 2011 05:54:13 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-catholic-boyfriend-refuses-to-have-sex-with-me-should-i-try-to-seduce-him/#comment-222780 He is definitely gay. Hes uncomfortable with oral in the past and if he (as a man) can control himself to this extent either he is gay or has a non existent sex drive

]]> By: Christianliver123 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-catholic-boyfriend-refuses-to-have-sex-with-me-should-i-try-to-seduce-him/comment-page-2/#comment-219275 Christianliver123 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 03:39:10 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-catholic-boyfriend-refuses-to-have-sex-with-me-should-i-try-to-seduce-him/#comment-219275 Do NOT make him do ANYTHING he doesn’t want to. I am a catholic myself and very offended how you don’t care for what his beliefs are and what he thinks and believes. If you actually care about him you won’t try and change him! Catholics believe that premarital sex is wrong! Don’t do anything he doesn’t want to and don’t pressure him EVER!

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