Comments on: My Constant Text Messaging Has Driven My Boyfriend Away. What Should I Do? http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-constant-text-messaging-has-driven-my-boyfriend-away-what-should-i-do/ Wed, 22 May 2013 18:56:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: MH http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-constant-text-messaging-has-driven-my-boyfriend-away-what-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-306858 MH Mon, 14 May 2012 18:32:40 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=2181#comment-306858 I’m just as guilty with this and probably have scared guys off. It’s best to wait for a response and if you don’t get one, don’t stress over it.

]]> By: enlightened http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-constant-text-messaging-has-driven-my-boyfriend-away-what-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-266383 enlightened Wed, 29 Feb 2012 05:03:07 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=2181#comment-266383  
You should of have  just texted him twice and left it something that shows you’re not completely heartless. By you texting him you kind made him think your needy and can’t life without him.  I have spoken to many people about this the best thing is to leave it be. Do you want him to think you can’t live without him. Stop texting him and show him you can if he texts you be casual if he doesn’t then you know he’s not for you. Let him miss you, let him wonder why you stoped and if he really wants to know watch him chase for answers. P.s. agree with Mara that i have friend like that and i see her actions so i put myself in the guys shoes and I agree with jersey girl we can get swept up in emotions when texting a person but no matter what I have learnt it’s not worth losing your dignity and being known as the girl who was clingy for answers
 

]]> By: saint stephen http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-constant-text-messaging-has-driven-my-boyfriend-away-what-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-178941 saint stephen Thu, 08 Sep 2011 12:57:57 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=2181#comment-178941 @ starthrower68 #33

What is wrong in a lady initiating contact with her boyfriend when she is feeling emotional? whats the essence of having a boyfriend then? I’m a very busy person yet my girlfriend does that all the time, still i didn’t kick her away.
at least i knew what i was up for before entering the relationship.

Such emotional needy character has to do with the persons upbringing so you can’t change them, is either you love them the way they are or you leave them.

The problem here which every one has failed to realize is that the guy in  this scenario do not love her sufficiently to be able to put up with the communicative/emotional/needy attitude.

]]> By: Dana http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-constant-text-messaging-has-driven-my-boyfriend-away-what-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-144596 Dana Sat, 12 Mar 2011 23:58:53 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=2181#comment-144596 Hi Roberta,
in my opinion the biggest problem is actually that it was you who was making so much efforts and contacting him every day instead of it being the other way round. I am speaking from personal experience as few year ago after I had separated from my husband and not having that much experience with dating which includes the usage of mobile phones, I too made the mistake of texting a guy too much (sadly I had kept in touch more than he did) and as a result that eventually drove him away. I was very upset at the time but now when looking back I know he wasn’t the one for me anyway as he was only interested in occasional booty call. The lesson I have learned from this experience and from dating books and newsletters is that even though that it can be very frustrating not being able to do anything and only be able to wait, men hate being pursued by texting, emailing or calling, they prefer to be the one who is in charge when dating is involved and that is the way it is am afraid. Or at least that is the way I see it. Hope this helps at least a little.

]]> By: starthrower68 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-constant-text-messaging-has-driven-my-boyfriend-away-what-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-72048 starthrower68 Sun, 20 Jun 2010 02:16:14 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=2181#comment-72048 I read somewhere – it currently escapes me – that a smart woman will not even have a guy she’s dating as friend on FaceBook (or other such social media) or on any of the intant messaging programs, because it provides too much temptation to check up on him and see who he’s talking to, what he’s doing, or to initiate contact when she is feeling emotional.  Seems like a sound policy to me.  

]]> By: Cindy http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-constant-text-messaging-has-driven-my-boyfriend-away-what-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-54544 Cindy Sun, 03 Jan 2010 07:16:43 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=2181#comment-54544 @Mara your comments struck a nerve, my boyfriend is always asking for reassurance in our relationship. He also easily bored, and then he says he’s depressed. And recently he was laid off, and he misconstrued his relationship with his boss, expecting that his boss wouldn’t do this to him as they were ‘friends’. I just want to shake him and say “GET OVER II”. I believe it is a sign of a mature person to have realistic expectations in a relationship. Falling in love is grand, your partner staying in love with you requires …. self restraint.

]]> By: Laura http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-constant-text-messaging-has-driven-my-boyfriend-away-what-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-54537 Laura Sun, 03 Jan 2010 04:54:53 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=2181#comment-54537 In the beginning of any relationship “less history, more mystery!!”

]]> By: ladyfabu http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-constant-text-messaging-has-driven-my-boyfriend-away-what-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-54292 ladyfabu Tue, 29 Dec 2009 15:09:30 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=2181#comment-54292 What about the guy who says he prefers text or emails and not phone convos? Granted we did have some issues that were discussed by email and a convo about the possibility, but I have learned to back off, I have a life he does too. Still smarts when you send a brthday message over 22 days ago and it is not acknowledged most men don’t know what they want until after its gone then they have refret! I might add that this person is out of state and into his business so things can be challenging.

]]> By: Karl R http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-constant-text-messaging-has-driven-my-boyfriend-away-what-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-53250 Karl R Mon, 14 Dec 2009 16:34:19 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=2181#comment-53250 JerseyGirl said: (#27)
“I dislike how Evan blogs about accepting men for who they are while this blog clearly was telling women to change part of who they are.”

You’re mischaracterizing what Evan says.

If Evan is talking to you, he will advise you to accept men as they are, and change who you are.

If Evan is talking to me, he will advise me to accept women as they are, and change who I am.

The only person I can change is me. The only person you can change is you.

Most of Evan’s clients are women. Most of the questions he answers are from women. The majority of the people on this blog are women. Therefore, Evan is giving that piece of advice to women more frequently than men.

When Evan gives that piece of advice, there are two reactions he might get:

1. I’m right. They’re wrong. They should be the ones to change, not me.

- or -

2. I can’t change them. I can change me. I should change myself, or I should accept the situation as it is.

From what I can tell, you’re in the first set of people. I’m in the second set. If you look at option 2 carefully, you’ll notice that “right” and “wrong” aren’t part of the equation. That’s because they’re an irrelevant distraction.

I will admit, my ability to compartmentalize makes it easier for me to follow option 2, instead of getting hung up on option 1.

]]> By: Joe http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-constant-text-messaging-has-driven-my-boyfriend-away-what-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-53235 Joe Mon, 14 Dec 2009 13:18:44 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=2181#comment-53235 JerseyGirl, just one question: do you think it’s possible for you to change the behavior of men?

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