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Take Evan’s advice and worry more about whether or not he’s into YOU.

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Just come out with it and ask, is what I say. Decide then how you want to proceed.

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Interestingly, the same thing happened to me in college. Apparently, a lot of people thought I was lesbian. I couldn’t understand why they thought this, since I had a crush on a new guy pretty much every week. Well….I found out from friends that it was because I 1) Wore my hair short at the time, and 2) Looked angry a lot. For the record, I was angry a lot at that particular time because I was going through some heavy personal issues.

So- this is how people came to a certain decision about me 1) My haircut, and 2) An expression on my face. And of course all lesbians walk around with short hair and angry expressions all the time, right?

Just like a straight guy is incapable of being well-rounded, empathetic, and attractive, right? Sheesh….no wonder society is in the state it’s in. Sometimes I think a nunnery is the best option for me- at least Hindu/Buddhist ascetics are unlikely to make ridiculous stereotypes about people, considering their minds are expanded and everything.

PS- One more thing- a lot of gay men, sadly, have grown up with a lot of self-hatred because of their sexual identity. Of course, prejudice and self-hatred still do exist. But Evan’s professor said that because gay men are generally good-looking, articulate, etc. to take it as a compliment. There doesn’t seem to be anything wrong with that statement on its face, right? But there’s that underlying notion there, per my previous statement, that straight men are the obvious opposite. What’s the opposite of good-looking, articulate, and sensitive? Neanderthal. So it’s okay to think of straight men as fat, ugly, stupid slobs.

Well, what if you eliminate gender here and substitute race? Say a light-skinned Puerto Rican person, for example, asks his professor why everyone thinks he’s white. The professor says, “Oh, well, white people are generally good-looking and intelligent and articulate. Take it as a compliment.” How do you think people would react to this?

It’s the same thing here….only, because gay men have been horribly treated over the centuries, some of us think it’s okay for these ‘good’ stereotypes (if there is such a thing) to exist to ‘alleviate’ the past somewhat. I say it’s bullshit. I could go on and on about this, but I won’t because I’ll be typing forever. The real thing is, how do we solve this stereotyping problem- we’ve all seen that it does no good. I have no answers, other than to avoid making such stereotypes myself.

Mark may not know. Mark may not answer honestly.

The best fall back advice is Evan’s standard: look at how he treats you and ask yourself if you are happy with that.

Yes I would think so. I would have long before I became “together” with him. Like when he first seemed interested in ME: “So what’s the deal with you and Brandon? Do you have a thing going?”

What’s so difficult about that?