Comments on: My Ex Girlfriend Wants To Be Friends With Benefits But I Still Have Feelings For Her http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-ex-girlfriend-wants-to-be-friends-with-benefits-but-i-still-have-feelings-for-her/ Tue, 21 May 2013 16:56:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: dave http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-ex-girlfriend-wants-to-be-friends-with-benefits-but-i-still-have-feelings-for-her/comment-page-1/#comment-261732 dave Mon, 20 Feb 2012 08:31:31 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=890#comment-261732 Erin you sound EXACTLY like my ex (FWB). What your doing is evil, but it’s a fruit which can’t be left alone for us in love with our ex. If I could be strong enough to stay away from her and not have sex with her then I would. She’s doing the whole “I don’t want a realationship with anyone I just want to get to know myself better…” 2 months later “omg I actually can’t live without your dick” we were together for a couple of years and I love her more then life itself… so how do I say “No I need to stay away from you” when I’d choose being with her over anything. I’m a bit of a womaniser as well and I’ve been with a few since my ex which has done nothing for me, I’m going on dates with other women ect, (apparently ex is not, she’s getting to know herself better… if you believe that) lol I’m only having sex with her because 1) I love it. 2) Love her 3) It’s there for the taking… blah blah was gonna make a massive list :P but yeah another main reason is “Maybe she will decide to take me back on full time?” “Maybe if I find someone else and finish my FWB with my ex she’ll realise that she needs me ect” 

I think we cling on to our ex’s who we still love simply because if we totally cut them off we’ll never know what “could of happened” but I know and im sure anyone else in this sort of situation knows, “I’m going to get hurt” but if the odds are 95% i’ll get hurt and 5% I’ll live happily ever after then I’m ready to roll the dice. Cause she’s worth the risk… but after going through this, I would NEVER EVER do it someone 

]]> By: Erin http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-ex-girlfriend-wants-to-be-friends-with-benefits-but-i-still-have-feelings-for-her/comment-page-1/#comment-254851 Erin Fri, 03 Feb 2012 08:23:20 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=890#comment-254851 well, i guess im one of the very few women that is actually perfectly content with having my ex as a fwb. we have tried the friends with benefits thing one other time in the past, but it wasnt working because we were both still angry at each other about the breakup. this time, its actually working, at least for me it is. i do not want to get back together with him, but im starting to sense that he is slowly regaining his feeling of love for me. i have talked to him and told him that i still care about him as a friend, but i just dont see a future with him. he says he is ok with that, but his actions say something different. maybe im wrong, idk. im just using him for sex  and he claims to be doing the same. i know alot of people are saying that its not a good idea to continue sleeping together because it always ends up with feelings getting hurt and hearts being broken for the other person. but what if the other person already knows this, yet still seems to get mad when you have to keep telling them youre just using them for sex and nothing more? in my case, i do not feel the slightest bit of guilt when we have sex. yeah, he may want to be more than just friends with benefits, but he already knows the deal and is choosing to continue to sleep with me so, again, why should i feel guilty? lol. i look at it as….if you cant handle the fact that i just want to remain fwb, then maybe you should stop sleeping with me. right? i am not going to stop sleeping with my ex until he doesnt want to anymore. hey, a girls gotta get her jollies off just as much as guys do. lol. my ex and i have been sleeping together for a year or so and i still havent developed feelings for him and i probably never will. its just sex for me. oh well, he will leave once he gets tired of fwb. so, in my opinion, i think fwb can work, even if its one sided. haha. what can i say? im selfish.

]]> By: Mike http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-ex-girlfriend-wants-to-be-friends-with-benefits-but-i-still-have-feelings-for-her/comment-page-1/#comment-224626 Mike Tue, 20 Dec 2011 00:39:18 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=890#comment-224626 Having some sex, is better than having no sex.  Look at it this way you don’t have to work and pay for dates for either a few weeks or up until your married if you get one of those “old fashion” girls.  Just take what you can get and if she finds someone else before you do, just make sure to hide your emotions when you are around her.  Make it look like everything in your life is perfect and then if you are like me you will want to work as hard as you can to make her jealous. 

But again the sex you can get is worth it. 

]]> By: Clayton http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-ex-girlfriend-wants-to-be-friends-with-benefits-but-i-still-have-feelings-for-her/comment-page-1/#comment-217967 Clayton Mon, 12 Dec 2011 15:26:15 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=890#comment-217967 It may seem like a good idea to hang out with her, but you will continue to be introvert if you don’t spend time working on meeting new people. If you do not want a relationship, not does she, avoid continuing the sex. It will, as you described, make you feel worse in the end. Meet new people, cut her out…until there are zero feelings left.

]]> By: Joe simo http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-ex-girlfriend-wants-to-be-friends-with-benefits-but-i-still-have-feelings-for-her/comment-page-1/#comment-191483 Joe simo Fri, 21 Oct 2011 01:18:19 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=890#comment-191483 You are both very young and this being your first for each other makes it that much harder to let eachother go and move on I’m not saying that’s the best thing to do, but my theory in life is” if you are happy and the people you care about are too that’s all that matters” for instance you can have all the money in the world and anything you want but that counts for nothing if your un happy . Don’t hurt eachother and stay friends always you will regret it if u don’t all the best

]]> By: Bob teh Knob http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-ex-girlfriend-wants-to-be-friends-with-benefits-but-i-still-have-feelings-for-her/comment-page-1/#comment-186991 Bob teh Knob Fri, 07 Oct 2011 22:35:41 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=890#comment-186991 DON’T DO IT.

]]> By: TJ http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-ex-girlfriend-wants-to-be-friends-with-benefits-but-i-still-have-feelings-for-her/comment-page-1/#comment-138735 TJ Fri, 11 Feb 2011 17:46:44 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=890#comment-138735 No doubt about it. Being 21 and in college is an awkward and scary point in life for some. College, living on your own, the real world, finding a job,  relationships, new friends, and the best and most important part – making decisions on your own. Life is all about living and learning from our positive and negative experiences. This is how we grow and become the wise man with gray hair. No matter what the outcome of this predicament you have yourself caught up in, you will have learned a valuable lesson in the end. Whether it be “never give up hope” because you look back 20 years from now married to this girl and were thankful you didn’t quit on her OR you learn that trying to piece together a broken puzzle with missing pieces is simply a lost cause and a huge waste of time and energy that could be spent meeting someone new and exciting. Whatever the path you take, you will have LIVED. This is what life is all about. Making mistakes is part of it. Don’t worry about things so much as life has a crazy way of always working itself out. Embrace the air you breath today for it could be your last at any minute and don’t worry! There will be a day you look back with great wisdom and laugh about it for it was an exciting and confusing time in your life. Don’t sweat it man, but do realize their may be emotional consequences that could possibly follow if the wrong path is taken. Yet, being human, this is what makes life worth living. Experiencing the good and the bad. For without it, what’s the purpose?  Good Luck.

]]> By: advice to get my ex back http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-ex-girlfriend-wants-to-be-friends-with-benefits-but-i-still-have-feelings-for-her/comment-page-1/#comment-74367 advice to get my ex back Fri, 09 Jul 2010 15:49:39 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=890#comment-74367 Just stop playing that kind of messy game. Try to give her the respect she must have as a girl or teach her to respect her self.  Sorry but I always find relationships sacred.

]]> By: mary http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-ex-girlfriend-wants-to-be-friends-with-benefits-but-i-still-have-feelings-for-her/comment-page-1/#comment-54948 mary Mon, 11 Jan 2010 05:35:04 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=890#comment-54948 get this: my so-called bf leaves me for 6 to 8 months a year to spend time with his mommy to go partying at bars, shows, renfair, nam show, you name it.
i am not welcome to go with them; in fact, there is a demonstration of histrionics on their part before every event to insure i am not included.
my not being present–according to what bf has reported to me–makes it more convenient for him to hook up with other bitches.
heh yeah. what’s funny is that he isn’t nearly hot enough to pull that shit off. i am, though.
yet, i wouldn’t do that to another human being. for whatever reason i went through this nonsense with him, i know someone out there deserves the sensitivity i have, and the respect for humanity everyone deserves.
it is over, most definitely. i deserve to be without bottom feeders dragging me down.

]]> By: hunter http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-ex-girlfriend-wants-to-be-friends-with-benefits-but-i-still-have-feelings-for-her/comment-page-1/#comment-25465 hunter Sun, 05 Apr 2009 03:18:41 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=890#comment-25465 Maybe, I have heard therapist tell women, find 2 men, one for his money, and the other for his sex. Can’t have one do both things.

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