My Faithful Boyfriend Wants to Get A Better Job Before We Get Married. Is He Just Making Empty Promises?
The truth is – you don’t know a fraction of what there is to know about life and love at age 25. In 5 years, you’ll look back at the 25-year-old Adele and shake your head. At 35, you’ll look back at 30-year-old Adele and do the same thing. There is simply no better teacher than life experience – and the further along you get, the more you realize that you don’t know anything.
It’s like that aphorism: “We plan. God laughs.” Ask anybody over the age of 40 if their life has gone according to the plans they had at 25, and they’ll likely give you a warm, semi-patronizing hug.
So throw out your timetable, your ticking clock, and your plans, and go back to supporting your loving boyfriend.
That’s what I’m giving you right now as well.
I want to give you permission to just “be” – to live your life, not according to the arbitrary plans you set for yourself, but rather, to go with the flow that your relationship dictates. See, if you’re in love with this man, and you’re planning a future, guess what? It’s also HIS future. Which is why YOUR desire to have a ring and kids in 2 years is semi-irrelevant. Is he in the position to provide for you and those kids? If not, it sounds to me like he’s taking a smart, methodical route to becoming the man you’d want him to be.
So throw out your timetable, your ticking clock, and your plans, and go back to supporting your loving boyfriend. After all, that’s exactly what he’s trying to do for you.
And if you’re another reader who doesn’t think your boyfriend is as solid as Adele’s boyfriend, please check out these three articles that may illuminate your current situation:
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