Comments on: My Girlfriend Wants to Get More Sexual “Experience” Before Getting Engaged. What Should I Do? http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-girlfriend-wants-to-get-more-sexual-%e2%80%9cexperience%e2%80%9d-before-getting-engaged-what-should-i-do/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 06:12:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: pat http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-girlfriend-wants-to-get-more-sexual-%e2%80%9cexperience%e2%80%9d-before-getting-engaged-what-should-i-do/comment-page-2/#comment-255929 pat Sun, 05 Feb 2012 19:09:45 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-girlfriend-wants-to-get-more-sexual-%e2%80%9cexperience%e2%80%9d-before-getting-engaged-what-should-i-do/#comment-255929 Dump her. Find someone who respects you. Dump her. Find someone who respects you.

]]> By: andy http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-girlfriend-wants-to-get-more-sexual-%e2%80%9cexperience%e2%80%9d-before-getting-engaged-what-should-i-do/comment-page-2/#comment-255662 andy Sun, 05 Feb 2012 03:27:50 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-girlfriend-wants-to-get-more-sexual-%e2%80%9cexperience%e2%80%9d-before-getting-engaged-what-should-i-do/#comment-255662 If me and my girlfriend were in the same position I would let her have sex with other men as long as it was only sex, this girl wants more experience and if you love and trust eachother then it shouldnt be a problem she has needs and not surprising if your the onlyone she has had sex with If me and my girlfriend were in the same position I would let her have sex with other men as long as it was only sex, this girl wants more experience and if you love and trust eachother then it shouldnt be a problem she has needs and not surprising if your the onlyone she has had sex with

]]> By: d http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-girlfriend-wants-to-get-more-sexual-%e2%80%9cexperience%e2%80%9d-before-getting-engaged-what-should-i-do/comment-page-2/#comment-252901 d Mon, 30 Jan 2012 01:19:49 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-girlfriend-wants-to-get-more-sexual-%e2%80%9cexperience%e2%80%9d-before-getting-engaged-what-should-i-do/#comment-252901 I had a friend in college who was deeply in love with one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen.  He was a stud himself.  Football star, very good looking, funny, charming, etc. and a good friend.  He could have been a player if he wanted to, but he was in love with only her so he proposed.  She then said that she wasn't sure, needed to date other men to know for sure before committing, etc. He was heartbroken, so you know what he did?  He started sleeping with all her friends, every girl on the floor she lived on, etc.  Soon word got back to her and she immediately went to him and said, "Listen, I don't need to see any other men, I love you let's get married". So that's what you must do my friend, "if" you want to marry her.  Personally I would never marry her.  She's selfish and puts her own wants and desires over that of your relationship.  But love makes people blind and they have to often go through it before they can <em>see </em>through it. Good luck!  I had a friend in college who was deeply in love with one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen.  He was a stud himself.  Football star, very good looking, funny, charming, etc. and a good friend.  He could have been a player if he wanted to, but he was in love with only her so he proposed.  She then said that she wasn’t sure, needed to date other men to know for sure before committing, etc.

He was heartbroken, so you know what he did?  He started sleeping with all her friends, every girl on the floor she lived on, etc.  Soon word got back to her and she immediately went to him and said, “Listen, I don’t need to see any other men, I love you let’s get married”.

So that’s what you must do my friend, “if” you want to marry her.  Personally I would never marry her.  She’s selfish and puts her own wants and desires over that of your relationship.  But love makes people blind and they have to often go through it before they can see through it.

Good luck! 

]]> By: Tom http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-girlfriend-wants-to-get-more-sexual-%e2%80%9cexperience%e2%80%9d-before-getting-engaged-what-should-i-do/comment-page-2/#comment-249602 Tom Fri, 20 Jan 2012 13:05:47 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-girlfriend-wants-to-get-more-sexual-%e2%80%9cexperience%e2%80%9d-before-getting-engaged-what-should-i-do/#comment-249602 I can understand why she would feel inadequate, but it really isn't fair to Chris. She should be thinking about it from his perspective as well. How would she feel if he said, "I haven't fucked enough girls. I'm gonna go bang some chicks, see ya next week." I doubt she'd just be like "okay then" and smile. It's true that experience with other people can help get rid of curiosity that later on can lead to divorce, but once you say yes to marrying someone, you've gotta let that shit go. She shouldn't think just because he has had sex before her and she was a virgin before him that she is entitled to sex with other men. I'm the jealous type so I would be like "If you do, I'm leaving you." but I can see how it could help them both as well. My point is, while it may help her and him with trust and any inadequacy in the long run (if they get married), it's really not fair to him at all and she should learn to actually love him. If you love someone and you're about to marry them, fucking someone else just because you want more experience (which in this case I think it's her just wanting to know what it feels like to be with someone else) isn't at all fair to the other person. Now if two people are swingers then good for them. No jealousy issues. But if a simple blowjob pisses you off, then I think you shouldn't let her do it, or dump her. She has no right to say that to you when she already promised herself to you. My advice of what to do is talk to her about it, and maybe just spice up your sex lives. Sex in public, make a sex tape, try something kinky. It's very possible she just needs a little more sexual excitement. But as ass-holish as it sounds, her saying that is cruel and while she is being honest, it's still insensitive, considering how devastating a blowjob during a break was. To finish this, I say again, talk to her about it and if possible get her to just trash the idea, and if not then I suggest going on a break from each other. I can understand why she would feel inadequate, but it really isn’t fair to Chris. She should be thinking about it from his perspective as well. How would she feel if he said, “I haven’t fucked enough girls. I’m gonna go bang some chicks, see ya next week.” I doubt she’d just be like “okay then” and smile. It’s true that experience with other people can help get rid of curiosity that later on can lead to divorce, but once you say yes to marrying someone, you’ve gotta let that shit go. She shouldn’t think just because he has had sex before her and she was a virgin before him that she is entitled to sex with other men. I’m the jealous type so I would be like “If you do, I’m leaving you.” but I can see how it could help them both as well. My point is, while it may help her and him with trust and any inadequacy in the long run (if they get married), it’s really not fair to him at all and she should learn to actually love him. If you love someone and you’re about to marry them, fucking someone else just because you want more experience (which in this case I think it’s her just wanting to know what it feels like to be with someone else) isn’t at all fair to the other person. Now if two people are swingers then good for them. No jealousy issues. But if a simple blowjob pisses you off, then I think you shouldn’t let her do it, or dump her. She has no right to say that to you when she already promised herself to you. My advice of what to do is talk to her about it, and maybe just spice up your sex lives. Sex in public, make a sex tape, try something kinky. It’s very possible she just needs a little more sexual excitement. But as ass-holish as it sounds, her saying that is cruel and while she is being honest, it’s still insensitive, considering how devastating a blowjob during a break was. To finish this, I say again, talk to her about it and if possible get her to just trash the idea, and if not then I suggest going on a break from each other.

]]> By: Jonathan http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-girlfriend-wants-to-get-more-sexual-%e2%80%9cexperience%e2%80%9d-before-getting-engaged-what-should-i-do/comment-page-2/#comment-249453 Jonathan Fri, 20 Jan 2012 06:37:12 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-girlfriend-wants-to-get-more-sexual-%e2%80%9cexperience%e2%80%9d-before-getting-engaged-what-should-i-do/#comment-249453 Would it be wrong to ask what has come of this? I married young. My ex wife was 21 and I 22. We had been together for over 11 years since High School, and had only slept with each other. I started getting hints that she wanted to experiment with other people before we got married so I set something up with someone I knew she thought was cute and a friend of mine. I guess it was a pretty innocent 3 sum where she had oral with him while sex with me. It tore me up over the years knowing that she had enjoyed it. After 6 years of marriage, buying a house together she decided it would be in her best interest to leave me a for a co-worker of hers who was over 45 years old. 26 - 45.... Took me a while to get over her but I went from being with one woman ever to 15 to 16 in less than 2 years! Never thought of being with anybody else when I was married. Anyways the point im getting at like a lot of others have said If shes wanting to mess around now telling you that she loves you. You can almost guarantee shes gonna get what she wants. I hope you decided to break up with her and move on! But I would like to know how the story ends!!!  P.S. Im dating a cool and hot 21 year old and almost 30 lol! Would it be wrong to ask what has come of this?

I married young. My ex wife was 21 and I 22. We had been together for over 11 years since High School, and had only slept with each other. I started getting hints that she wanted to experiment with other people before we got married so I set something up with someone I knew she thought was cute and a friend of mine. I guess it was a pretty innocent 3 sum where she had oral with him while sex with me. It tore me up over the years knowing that she had enjoyed it. After 6 years of marriage, buying a house together she decided it would be in her best interest to leave me a for a co-worker of hers who was over 45 years old. 26 – 45…. Took me a while to get over her but I went from being with one woman ever to 15 to 16 in less than 2 years! Never thought of being with anybody else when I was married. Anyways the point im getting at like a lot of others have said If shes wanting to mess around now telling you that she loves you. You can almost guarantee shes gonna get what she wants. I hope you decided to break up with her and move on! But I would like to know how the story ends!!!  P.S. Im dating a cool and hot 21 year old and almost 30 lol!

]]> By: Daya http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-girlfriend-wants-to-get-more-sexual-%e2%80%9cexperience%e2%80%9d-before-getting-engaged-what-should-i-do/comment-page-2/#comment-246450 Daya Sat, 14 Jan 2012 21:50:14 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-girlfriend-wants-to-get-more-sexual-%e2%80%9cexperience%e2%80%9d-before-getting-engaged-what-should-i-do/#comment-246450 To all the guys posting above talking about how this guy probably isnt pleasing her properly and giving her orgasms, because you guys give your girls 14 or 9 or 4 in a session. That's complete bull. If your girl is telling you she had more than 1 in a session shes just trying to do you a favor. Many girls will squeeze and moan and tell you they had 5 orgasms and youre amazing when in reality, if you know anything about sex, once a girl has a real legit orgasm her vagina will swell immensely to the point where youll have trouble even getting a single finger back in. Its possible to experience "2" but actually its just one that gives the sensations of leaving and returning because of the adrenaline that starts pumping and messing with your brain. To all the guys posting above talking about how this guy probably isnt pleasing her properly and giving her orgasms, because you guys give your girls 14 or 9 or 4 in a session. That’s complete bull. If your girl is telling you she had more than 1 in a session shes just trying to do you a favor. Many girls will squeeze and moan and tell you they had 5 orgasms and youre amazing when in reality, if you know anything about sex, once a girl has a real legit orgasm her vagina will swell immensely to the point where youll have trouble even getting a single finger back in. Its possible to experience “2″ but actually its just one that gives the sensations of leaving and returning because of the adrenaline that starts pumping and messing with your brain.

]]> By: Billy http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-girlfriend-wants-to-get-more-sexual-%e2%80%9cexperience%e2%80%9d-before-getting-engaged-what-should-i-do/comment-page-2/#comment-245788 Billy Fri, 13 Jan 2012 20:25:50 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-girlfriend-wants-to-get-more-sexual-%e2%80%9cexperience%e2%80%9d-before-getting-engaged-what-should-i-do/#comment-245788 I'd break up with her...you'll eventually fall in love again, except this time, with someone who only wants you and doesn't want to suck off and have sex with other men.  Trust me - deal with the heartbreak, and you'll be happier for the rest of your life. Or you can avoid heartbreak now, but you'll be dealing with this stress anyways and end up heartbroken anyways. You obviously aren't okay with the thought of her sleeping with other men, so you definitely won't be okay when she actually does it.  And if sex really means that much to her, she'll prolly end up a cheater anyways. Okay, she was curious, so she went and had oral sex with a guy. You'd think that'd be enough, but now she wants to go further, with other guys? Obviously she liked being with another man and wants to do so again, so please man, just leave her, you'll be way happier in the long run. I’d break up with her…you’ll eventually fall in love again, except this time, with someone who only wants you and doesn’t want to suck off and have sex with other men. 

Trust me – deal with the heartbreak, and you’ll be happier for the rest of your life. Or you can avoid heartbreak now, but you’ll be dealing with this stress anyways and end up heartbroken anyways. You obviously aren’t okay with the thought of her sleeping with other men, so you definitely won’t be okay when she actually does it. 

And if sex really means that much to her, she’ll prolly end up a cheater anyways. Okay, she was curious, so she went and had oral sex with a guy. You’d think that’d be enough, but now she wants to go further, with other guys? Obviously she liked being with another man and wants to do so again, so please man, just leave her, you’ll be way happier in the long run.

]]> By: LCFR http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-girlfriend-wants-to-get-more-sexual-%e2%80%9cexperience%e2%80%9d-before-getting-engaged-what-should-i-do/comment-page-2/#comment-199343 LCFR Wed, 09 Nov 2011 09:54:50 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-girlfriend-wants-to-get-more-sexual-%e2%80%9cexperience%e2%80%9d-before-getting-engaged-what-should-i-do/#comment-199343 BRO! you are an idiot for putting up with her shit, so she gave some dude a blowjob and you took her because she is not sure if she has experience? what a lame load of shit that is.  If people love each other this issue should not exist. So after when she gets married she gets unsure again and then you will be a door mat and she runs off again, fuck this. Luckily there are plenty of women who give it up so easily and you dont have to commit. STOP BEING A WOOSE and tell the bitch to take a hike! Save yourself some headache.  BRO! you are an idiot for putting up with her shit, so she gave some dude a blowjob and you took her because she is not sure if she has experience? what a lame load of shit that is. 

If people love each other this issue should not exist. So after when she gets married she gets unsure again and then you will be a door mat and she runs off again, fuck this. Luckily there are plenty of women who give it up so easily and you dont have to commit.

STOP BEING A WOOSE and tell the bitch to take a hike! Save yourself some headache. 

]]> By: Yosh http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-girlfriend-wants-to-get-more-sexual-%e2%80%9cexperience%e2%80%9d-before-getting-engaged-what-should-i-do/comment-page-2/#comment-193837 Yosh Fri, 28 Oct 2011 05:48:46 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-girlfriend-wants-to-get-more-sexual-%e2%80%9cexperience%e2%80%9d-before-getting-engaged-what-should-i-do/#comment-193837 Oh my god, 30 is the new 20?!!?! That makes me feel a lot better! Thanks Evan! Oh my god, 30 is the new 20?!!?! That makes me feel a lot better! Thanks Evan!

]]> By: ted http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-girlfriend-wants-to-get-more-sexual-%e2%80%9cexperience%e2%80%9d-before-getting-engaged-what-should-i-do/comment-page-2/#comment-193470 ted Thu, 27 Oct 2011 01:58:28 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/my-girlfriend-wants-to-get-more-sexual-%e2%80%9cexperience%e2%80%9d-before-getting-engaged-what-should-i-do/#comment-193470 if youve been together all this time over 3 years no so you say, i dont get why she has to get expeience before you are married. i think shes just looking for a way out . the only thing she seems sure about is moving out ( i hope since youre no longer exclusive) as this woman i met used to say. i hope she at least has the decency to move out so you dont have to meet her new whatever.  i would start preparing myself for a breakup if i were you good luck   if youve been together all this time over 3 years no so you say, i dont get why she has to get expeience before you are married. i think shes just looking for a way out . the only thing she seems sure about is moving out ( i hope since youre no longer exclusive) as this woman i met used to say. i hope she at least has the decency to move out so you dont have to meet her new whatever. 
i would start preparing myself for a breakup if i were you
good luck
 

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