Each of these women represented an archetype – and within one hour, all of their blind spots became apparent. The Asian woman was driven by lust and chose a joke of a man because he was “hot”. The Hispanic woman ended up with a guy who was an explorer and looked like a cologne ad model, but he couldn’t string together a sentence or have an original thought. The family values woman said the word marriage about six times on her date, and was judgmental when her date said something she didn’t like. The nerd magnet went for a cute singer-songwriter because he was interested in Watchmen, but will quickly realize that he’s just a 23-year-old kid with big dreams. Surprisingly, it was the blonde who went against the grain who proved to be the most relationship savvy.
And a funny guy with character is more important than a cute guy with a guitar.
When the fat guy offered to step aside for a man “who had more in common” with the blonde, she refused. When the fat guy asked on the date “why she chose him”, you could see his insecurities bubbling up. Most women a) wouldn’t have chosen him and b) would have judged him for wearing his heart on his sleeve. But not the blonde. She told him that he made her laugh and proved, by offering to step aside, that he was willing to put her needs first. And a funny guy with character is more important than a cute guy with a guitar. Amen.
Don’t get me wrong, this is a typical reality TV train wreck, with people you can laugh at, just like American Idol tryouts. But viewed through the right lens, you can easily discern which of the guys have the right idea how to impress a woman, and which of the women have the right attitude about what’s important to look for in a man. In their failings, you could probably learn something yourself.
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