Comments on: Next on CBS…Evan Marc Katz Says You Should Lie! http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/ Mon, 06 Sep 2010 05:40:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Leslie http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-41843 Leslie Sun, 30 Aug 2009 03:38:59 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-41843 If I find out a guy has lied about ANYTHING, he's history. It's a major character flaw. If I find out a guy has lied about ANYTHING, he’s history. It’s a major character flaw.

]]> By: Mandy http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-29956 Mandy Fri, 15 May 2009 12:47:53 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-29956 Evan, love your candor with touchy subject matter. As for age...it definitely can be a touchy subject, but it's just a Number, people...too bad it's such a societal hang-up that some of us find it necessary to embellish our age on match making sites for 'marketing' purposes. Consider this: The age hang-up thingy is limiting our options and maybe causing us to miss out on Great friends, not to mention, potentially, the Love of our lives! Just a suggestion...try a more inclusive (broader range of ages) match making search, next time; you may be pleasantly surprised in who you find! Evan, love your candor with touchy subject matter. As for age…it definitely can be a touchy subject, but it’s just a Number, people…too bad it’s such a societal hang-up that some of us find it necessary to embellish our age on match making sites for ‘marketing’ purposes. Consider this: The age hang-up thingy is limiting our options and maybe causing us to miss out on Great friends, not to mention, potentially, the Love of our lives! Just a suggestion…try a more inclusive (broader range of ages) match making search, next time; you may be pleasantly surprised in who you find!

]]> By: JM http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-29864 JM Thu, 14 May 2009 18:26:56 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-29864 Likewise Steve, if you're ever in the big apple, perhaps we can meet for the early bird special! ;) Likewise Steve, if you’re ever in the big apple, perhaps we can meet for the early bird special! ;)

]]> By: Karl R http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-29775 Karl R Wed, 13 May 2009 21:04:22 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-29775 <b>-NN- said:</b> (#14) <i>"I don't see anyones age tattood to their forehead,"</i> Your age is written all over your face. Maybe not to an exact number, but at least to the general vicinity. If I randomly chose a man 10 years older than you and one 10 years younger than you, do you think you would be able to tell which was which? I think you would have to try extremely hard to find two individuals where the answer wouldn't be obvious. <b>-NN- said:</b> (#14) <i>"why would I tell age online either?"</i> When I'm on Match.com, I'd prefer to look through the women somewhat close to my age. I think I can rule out the teenagers and the octagenarians without even glancing at their profiles. -NN- said: (#14)
“I don’t see anyones age tattood to their forehead,”

Your age is written all over your face. Maybe not to an exact number, but at least to the general vicinity. If I randomly chose a man 10 years older than you and one 10 years younger than you, do you think you would be able to tell which was which?

I think you would have to try extremely hard to find two individuals where the answer wouldn’t be obvious.

-NN- said: (#14)
“why would I tell age online either?”

When I’m on Match.com, I’d prefer to look through the women somewhat close to my age. I think I can rule out the teenagers and the octagenarians without even glancing at their profiles.

]]> By: Steve http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-29742 Steve Wed, 13 May 2009 14:32:16 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-29742 @JM, post #14. Hah! If you are ever in DC I'll buy you a drink. That is, if you don't mind being seen with a punky 43 year old :) @JM, post #14.

Hah! If you are ever in DC I’ll buy you a drink. That is, if you don’t mind being seen with a punky 43 year old :)

]]> By: JM http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-29665 JM Tue, 12 May 2009 21:45:25 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-29665 This could not have been any more timely. I have a blind date scheduled for tomorrow. His profile said 49; after some googling (which I like to call 'due diligence') I discovered that he is really 51. Not a big deal as he sounds like a nice guy [we've spoken on the phone a few times], but as Paul pointed out above, "it is still lying". I can speak from experience that deception is rampant on online sites - age, height, photos, etc. It's a complete "bait and switch", and as Evan mentioned during his TV segment, based on insecurity. I'm 48 but look and feel much younger [I don't mention that in my profile Steve ;)], however, if a guy has a problem with that "number", he's probably not the right guy for me. It's a shame we live in a society where the only way we think we can "succeed" in love and in our professional lives, is to embellish our credentials. This could not have been any more timely. I have a blind date scheduled for tomorrow. His profile said 49; after some googling (which I like to call ‘due diligence’) I discovered that he is really 51. Not a big deal as he sounds like a nice guy [we've spoken on the phone a few times], but as Paul pointed out above, “it is still lying”. I can speak from experience that deception is rampant on online sites – age, height, photos, etc. It’s a complete “bait and switch”, and as Evan mentioned during his TV segment, based on insecurity. I’m 48 but look and feel much younger [I don't mention that in my profile Steve ;) ], however, if a guy has a problem with that “number”, he’s probably not the right guy for me. It’s a shame we live in a society where the only way we think we can “succeed” in love and in our professional lives, is to embellish our credentials.

]]> By: -NN- http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-29653 -NN- Tue, 12 May 2009 20:10:41 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-29653 I don't see anyones age tattood to their forehead, therefore why would I tell age online either? Picture tells the truth, and for those who want to be analretentive and know my age.. I am not interested in them. I rather select a right man - because some people are just over the hill despite their age, and others have miles to go - even at the age of 47. But then again, I am not trying to breed, since I think my life is complete without children, and even a man is just extra goodies to what I already have. I don’t see anyones age tattood to their forehead, therefore why would I tell age online either?
Picture tells the truth, and for those who want to be analretentive and know my age.. I am not interested in them.

I rather select a right man – because some people are just over the hill despite their age, and others have miles to go – even at the age of 47.
But then again, I am not trying to breed, since I think my life is complete without children, and even a man is just extra goodies to what I already have.

]]> By: Paul http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-29637 Paul Tue, 12 May 2009 18:44:37 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-29637 I totally agree with LK post#10 on this one, and disagree with Evan. I know the reality, I know the arguments and all. And I do see some people putting it in their profiles how old they really are but list as a younger age to get into more searches. I get all of that. But it is still lying and to me, speaks to integrity. If all your after is a "good time" and are just out trying to get your physical needs met, then you will probably lie. If you are out to create a relationship that is going to last for the rest of your life, do you really want to start that relationship out with a lie? Frankly if someone will lie about something like that, even though it is a pretty small thing, they could, and probably will also lie about something else. I say be 100% completely honest and you should have no problems if you have followed Evans advice and put some time and effort into your profile and don't do the mistakes most people make. I read Evans articles about how to write profiles and it was literally everything...I get replies back all the time saying what a great profile mine is, that it is the best they've ever read. And you know what? It is because I am a great guy, can put a sentence together, have my poop in a group pretty much, and people like me. That's what comes through and that is what attracts. if some gal that is 35 doesn't pick me because I'm 50, guess what...she is too young for me anyway! I'm a firm believer in staying pretty close (6-7 years give or take in either direction) to your age range. I totally agree with LK post#10 on this one, and disagree with Evan. I know the reality, I know the arguments and all. And I do see some people putting it in their profiles how old they really are but list as a younger age to get into more searches. I get all of that. But it is still lying and to me, speaks to integrity. If all your after is a “good time” and are just out trying to get your physical needs met, then you will probably lie. If you are out to create a relationship that is going to last for the rest of your life, do you really want to start that relationship out with a lie? Frankly if someone will lie about something like that, even though it is a pretty small thing, they could, and probably will also lie about something else. I say be 100% completely honest and you should have no problems if you have followed Evans advice and put some time and effort into your profile and don’t do the mistakes most people make. I read Evans articles about how to write profiles and it was literally everything…I get replies back all the time saying what a great profile mine is, that it is the best they’ve ever read. And you know what? It is because I am a great guy, can put a sentence together, have my poop in a group pretty much, and people like me. That’s what comes through and that is what attracts. if some gal that is 35 doesn’t pick me because I’m 50, guess what…she is too young for me anyway! I’m a firm believer in staying pretty close (6-7 years give or take in either direction) to your age range.

]]> By: Jennifer http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-29627 Jennifer Tue, 12 May 2009 17:22:51 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-29627 @LK #10 you make a really good point. There is a certain age I won't consider dating no matter how great he is and that's that. But, I believe there are enough people who are on the fence about age limits (ie, they don't *think* they want to date a 45 year old, but once they meet the right one they are happy and get over the age thing) to make it worth someone's while to get a bit creative. For example, I can understand someone putting 40 so that they appear in your search results but in their profile stating that they are 45. It doesn't make me question their trustworthiness since they state their real age explicitly in their profile and it gives them a chance to meet a woman they otherwise wouldn't have been able to. But flat out lying and bringing it up on a later date? I'd have a huge issue with that, even if I was on the fence. @LK #10 you make a really good point. There is a certain age I won’t consider dating no matter how great he is and that’s that. But, I believe there are enough people who are on the fence about age limits (ie, they don’t *think* they want to date a 45 year old, but once they meet the right one they are happy and get over the age thing) to make it worth someone’s while to get a bit creative.

For example, I can understand someone putting 40 so that they appear in your search results but in their profile stating that they are 45. It doesn’t make me question their trustworthiness since they state their real age explicitly in their profile and it gives them a chance to meet a woman they otherwise wouldn’t have been able to. But flat out lying and bringing it up on a later date? I’d have a huge issue with that, even if I was on the fence.

]]> By: LK http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-29614 LK Tue, 12 May 2009 15:41:40 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-29614 I'm a 32yo single woman who wants to have a family. I don't want to date a guy much more than 10 years older than me and would really prefer someone within 5-7 years of my age. The reason has nothing to do with stereotypes or aesthetics. It's because I want to have children, and I don't really think it's fair to a kid for his/her father to be almost 50 when s/he is born. I don't want to have to shop for colleges and retirement communities at the same time. I also don't want to spend the last 20 years of my life as a widow. I get really turned off by guys who lie about their age. Some guys also list their age as, say, 42 and then say in their profile that they're really 47 but wanted to show up in searches. Guess what? If I'm not looking for a 47yo, then I'm not looking for a 47yo. NEXT! I went on a date with a guy who was slightly over my age range as it was, and then I looked him up on Facebook and discovered that he was five years older than that. He was an airhead anyway so I would not have gone out with him again regardless, but I was not happy about being lied to. I was in a dating web site chat room the other day and there was a 45yo guy stating that he will only date women from 28-35. Good luck with that, dude. What is wrong with women within a few years of your age? Why do guys have such a complex about this? I’m a 32yo single woman who wants to have a family. I don’t want to date a guy much more than 10 years older than me and would really prefer someone within 5-7 years of my age. The reason has nothing to do with stereotypes or aesthetics. It’s because I want to have children, and I don’t really think it’s fair to a kid for his/her father to be almost 50 when s/he is born. I don’t want to have to shop for colleges and retirement communities at the same time. I also don’t want to spend the last 20 years of my life as a widow.

I get really turned off by guys who lie about their age. Some guys also list their age as, say, 42 and then say in their profile that they’re really 47 but wanted to show up in searches. Guess what? If I’m not looking for a 47yo, then I’m not looking for a 47yo. NEXT!

I went on a date with a guy who was slightly over my age range as it was, and then I looked him up on Facebook and discovered that he was five years older than that. He was an airhead anyway so I would not have gone out with him again regardless, but I was not happy about being lied to.

I was in a dating web site chat room the other day and there was a 45yo guy stating that he will only date women from 28-35. Good luck with that, dude. What is wrong with women within a few years of your age? Why do guys have such a complex about this?

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