Comments on: Next on CBS…Evan Marc Katz Says You Should Lie! http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 05:00:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Dondi http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-147273 Dondi Mon, 28 Mar 2011 20:46:42 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-147273 Stick within your generation.  That’s what I would say.  For me that means 10 years in either direction.  My significant other is 10 years my senior, and imagine that I was about to blow him off when we initially met, but only because I thought he was in his 20s.   I did not lie about my age, btw.  Not only do I look youngish for my years (40) but I also look tall for my height!  LOL.  But seriously, I can understand certain people who want children having to be more discriminating due to age.  Women over 25 and men over 40 often experience fertility issues.  Yes, its sad people feel they need to lie or should I say society is structured in such a way that makes us feel worthless as we age.  Like the old woman Evan was mentioning on the crew team.  I could understand her point of view.  When I tell people I’m 40 it sucks all the air out of the room and the younger people suddenly start behaving toward me as if I’m an octogenarian.   There’s so much stereotyping and distancing going on because we’re youth obsessed and fear death (what older people represent).  We also don’t see enough older people in real life, no wonder kids think 40 is old.  Would they think that if they regularly had contact with true old folks? The old old and increasingly the middle aged 55 and older are segregated in “retirement communities.” Where we don’t have to gaze upon their aging carcasses or deal with the fact that they’re people like everyone else who have interests and passions.  In the dating realm, people do need to face facts, however.  Young men and women typically want people closer to their age, older men want women 10 or more years younger than they are and older women have to settle for men who may be significantly older.   I’m attached, but if it were to end tomorrow, I’m comfortable with the fact that men who are 50 or older will be interested in me.  For the record, there are some hot guys in those age ranges.  Looking youthful and fit would allow me to skim the cream off of that crop.    Stick within your generation.  That’s what I would say.  For me that means 10 years in either direction.  My significant other is 10 years my senior, and imagine that I was about to blow him off when we initially met, but only because I thought he was in his 20s.   I did not lie about my age, btw.  Not only do I look youngish for my years (40) but I also look tall for my height!  LOL.  But seriously, I can understand certain people who want children having to be more discriminating due to age.  Women over 25 and men over 40 often experience fertility issues.  Yes, its sad people feel they need to lie or should I say society is structured in such a way that makes us feel worthless as we age.  Like the old woman Evan was mentioning on the crew team.  I could understand her point of view.  When I tell people I’m 40 it sucks all the air out of the room and the younger people suddenly start behaving toward me as if I’m an octogenarian.   There’s so much stereotyping and distancing going on because we’re youth obsessed and fear death (what older people represent).  We also don’t see enough older people in real life, no wonder kids think 40 is old.  Would they think that if they regularly had contact with true old folks? The old old and increasingly the middle aged 55 and older are segregated in “retirement communities.” Where we don’t have to gaze upon their aging carcasses or deal with the fact that they’re people like everyone else who have interests and passions.  In the dating realm, people do need to face facts, however.  Young men and women typically want people closer to their age, older men want women 10 or more years younger than they are and older women have to settle for men who may be significantly older.   I’m attached, but if it were to end tomorrow, I’m comfortable with the fact that men who are 50 or older will be interested in me.  For the record, there are some hot guys in those age ranges.  Looking youthful and fit would allow me to skim the cream off of that crop. 
 

]]> By: m http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-85620 m Tue, 12 Oct 2010 22:18:19 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-85620 I think the "tall for my height" thing is kind of cute and funny, actually. Shows a man has a sense of humor without him having to bellow "I HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR" elsewhere in his profile. :-) I think the “tall for my height” thing is kind of cute and funny, actually.
Shows a man has a sense of humor without him having to bellow “I HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR” elsewhere in his profile.
:-)

]]> By: Leslie http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-41843 Leslie Sun, 30 Aug 2009 03:38:59 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-41843 If I find out a guy has lied about ANYTHING, he's history. It's a major character flaw. If I find out a guy has lied about ANYTHING, he’s history. It’s a major character flaw.

]]> By: Mandy http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-29956 Mandy Fri, 15 May 2009 12:47:53 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-29956 Evan, love your candor with touchy subject matter. As for age...it definitely can be a touchy subject, but it's just a Number, people...too bad it's such a societal hang-up that some of us find it necessary to embellish our age on match making sites for 'marketing' purposes. Consider this: The age hang-up thingy is limiting our options and maybe causing us to miss out on Great friends, not to mention, potentially, the Love of our lives! Just a suggestion...try a more inclusive (broader range of ages) match making search, next time; you may be pleasantly surprised in who you find! Evan, love your candor with touchy subject matter. As for age…it definitely can be a touchy subject, but it’s just a Number, people…too bad it’s such a societal hang-up that some of us find it necessary to embellish our age on match making sites for ‘marketing’ purposes. Consider this: The age hang-up thingy is limiting our options and maybe causing us to miss out on Great friends, not to mention, potentially, the Love of our lives! Just a suggestion…try a more inclusive (broader range of ages) match making search, next time; you may be pleasantly surprised in who you find!

]]> By: JM http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-29864 JM Thu, 14 May 2009 18:26:56 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-29864 Likewise Steve, if you're ever in the big apple, perhaps we can meet for the early bird special! ;) Likewise Steve, if you’re ever in the big apple, perhaps we can meet for the early bird special! ;)

]]> By: Karl R http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-29775 Karl R Wed, 13 May 2009 21:04:22 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-29775 <b>-NN- said:</b> (#14) <i>"I don't see anyones age tattood to their forehead,"</i> Your age is written all over your face. Maybe not to an exact number, but at least to the general vicinity. If I randomly chose a man 10 years older than you and one 10 years younger than you, do you think you would be able to tell which was which? I think you would have to try extremely hard to find two individuals where the answer wouldn't be obvious. <b>-NN- said:</b> (#14) <i>"why would I tell age online either?"</i> When I'm on Match.com, I'd prefer to look through the women somewhat close to my age. I think I can rule out the teenagers and the octagenarians without even glancing at their profiles. -NN- said: (#14)
“I don’t see anyones age tattood to their forehead,”

Your age is written all over your face. Maybe not to an exact number, but at least to the general vicinity. If I randomly chose a man 10 years older than you and one 10 years younger than you, do you think you would be able to tell which was which?

I think you would have to try extremely hard to find two individuals where the answer wouldn’t be obvious.

-NN- said: (#14)
“why would I tell age online either?”

When I’m on Match.com, I’d prefer to look through the women somewhat close to my age. I think I can rule out the teenagers and the octagenarians without even glancing at their profiles.

]]> By: Steve http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-29742 Steve Wed, 13 May 2009 14:32:16 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-29742 @JM, post #14. Hah! If you are ever in DC I'll buy you a drink. That is, if you don't mind being seen with a punky 43 year old :) @JM, post #14.

Hah! If you are ever in DC I’ll buy you a drink. That is, if you don’t mind being seen with a punky 43 year old :)

]]> By: JM http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-29665 JM Tue, 12 May 2009 21:45:25 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-29665 This could not have been any more timely. I have a blind date scheduled for tomorrow. His profile said 49; after some googling (which I like to call 'due diligence') I discovered that he is really 51. Not a big deal as he sounds like a nice guy [we've spoken on the phone a few times], but as Paul pointed out above, "it is still lying". I can speak from experience that deception is rampant on online sites - age, height, photos, etc. It's a complete "bait and switch", and as Evan mentioned during his TV segment, based on insecurity. I'm 48 but look and feel much younger [I don't mention that in my profile Steve ;)], however, if a guy has a problem with that "number", he's probably not the right guy for me. It's a shame we live in a society where the only way we think we can "succeed" in love and in our professional lives, is to embellish our credentials. This could not have been any more timely. I have a blind date scheduled for tomorrow. His profile said 49; after some googling (which I like to call ‘due diligence’) I discovered that he is really 51. Not a big deal as he sounds like a nice guy [we've spoken on the phone a few times], but as Paul pointed out above, “it is still lying”. I can speak from experience that deception is rampant on online sites – age, height, photos, etc. It’s a complete “bait and switch”, and as Evan mentioned during his TV segment, based on insecurity. I’m 48 but look and feel much younger [I don't mention that in my profile Steve ;) ], however, if a guy has a problem with that “number”, he’s probably not the right guy for me. It’s a shame we live in a society where the only way we think we can “succeed” in love and in our professional lives, is to embellish our credentials.

]]> By: -NN- http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-29653 -NN- Tue, 12 May 2009 20:10:41 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-29653 I don't see anyones age tattood to their forehead, therefore why would I tell age online either? Picture tells the truth, and for those who want to be analretentive and know my age.. I am not interested in them. I rather select a right man - because some people are just over the hill despite their age, and others have miles to go - even at the age of 47. But then again, I am not trying to breed, since I think my life is complete without children, and even a man is just extra goodies to what I already have. I don’t see anyones age tattood to their forehead, therefore why would I tell age online either?
Picture tells the truth, and for those who want to be analretentive and know my age.. I am not interested in them.

I rather select a right man – because some people are just over the hill despite their age, and others have miles to go – even at the age of 47.
But then again, I am not trying to breed, since I think my life is complete without children, and even a man is just extra goodies to what I already have.

]]> By: Paul http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/next-on-cbsevan-marc-katz-says-you-should-lie/comment-page-1/#comment-29637 Paul Tue, 12 May 2009 18:44:37 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1176#comment-29637 I totally agree with LK post#10 on this one, and disagree with Evan. I know the reality, I know the arguments and all. And I do see some people putting it in their profiles how old they really are but list as a younger age to get into more searches. I get all of that. But it is still lying and to me, speaks to integrity. If all your after is a "good time" and are just out trying to get your physical needs met, then you will probably lie. If you are out to create a relationship that is going to last for the rest of your life, do you really want to start that relationship out with a lie? Frankly if someone will lie about something like that, even though it is a pretty small thing, they could, and probably will also lie about something else. I say be 100% completely honest and you should have no problems if you have followed Evans advice and put some time and effort into your profile and don't do the mistakes most people make. I read Evans articles about how to write profiles and it was literally everything...I get replies back all the time saying what a great profile mine is, that it is the best they've ever read. And you know what? It is because I am a great guy, can put a sentence together, have my poop in a group pretty much, and people like me. That's what comes through and that is what attracts. if some gal that is 35 doesn't pick me because I'm 50, guess what...she is too young for me anyway! I'm a firm believer in staying pretty close (6-7 years give or take in either direction) to your age range. I totally agree with LK post#10 on this one, and disagree with Evan. I know the reality, I know the arguments and all. And I do see some people putting it in their profiles how old they really are but list as a younger age to get into more searches. I get all of that. But it is still lying and to me, speaks to integrity. If all your after is a “good time” and are just out trying to get your physical needs met, then you will probably lie. If you are out to create a relationship that is going to last for the rest of your life, do you really want to start that relationship out with a lie? Frankly if someone will lie about something like that, even though it is a pretty small thing, they could, and probably will also lie about something else. I say be 100% completely honest and you should have no problems if you have followed Evans advice and put some time and effort into your profile and don’t do the mistakes most people make. I read Evans articles about how to write profiles and it was literally everything…I get replies back all the time saying what a great profile mine is, that it is the best they’ve ever read. And you know what? It is because I am a great guy, can put a sentence together, have my poop in a group pretty much, and people like me. That’s what comes through and that is what attracts. if some gal that is 35 doesn’t pick me because I’m 50, guess what…she is too young for me anyway! I’m a firm believer in staying pretty close (6-7 years give or take in either direction) to your age range.

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