Are the People That You Want To Meet Online More Physically Attractive Than You Are?

Are the people that you want to meet online more physically attractive than you are?

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  1. 91

    @ Mavis

    ” i admit i’m not gorgeous or “hot” but if the fat, balding guy is holding out a “hottie,””

    In all likelihood, he isn’t.

    OLD studies show that women receive emails in close proportion to their perceived attractiveness(with only the bottom 25% of females being ‘snubbed’, compared to the bottom 60% of males – which shows that the odds are in the favor of females, as if we didn’t already know).

    “and no i don’t want to date a guy who just “settled” for me because he couldn’t do better.”

    And how would you propose to infer that?

    Are you sure this isn’t just a clever way of saying, that YOU don’t want to accept a man who YOU think can’t do better?

    If so, then don’t you see what a losing strategy this is?

    Like all self-interested organisms, men pursue positive outcomes.

    So, if you are intent on holding out for some guy who somehow, against all reasonable expectations, is(and will remain!) *oblivious* to better options with higher value women, then you are either deluded, or indulging too much romance fiction.

    But, what is the obsession that many females have with *only* playing the long odds?

    Is it all just in pursuit of a peer-validated ego trip?

    Everyone settles on *someone* when they make a decision to invest singularly in getting to know that person better.

    After that, any emotional bonding changes the whole dynamic – individuals are no longer a weighted
    statistic, but an evolved emotional quantity in someone eles’s life.

    So the whole ‘settling’ interval is only relevant where an individual is just a composite of unqualified assessments in a stranger’s mind.

  2. 92
    Freddie Anon

    if she is ugly i wont get an errection
    if she is too hot i wont trust others around her when we are not together
    so i want her to be a 6 or 7, i have been a 4 and an 8 in my life i still like her to be a 6 or 7 either way

  3. 93
    Sparkling Emerald

    I try to find someone that I think is “as cute” as me.  Any one noticeably much more attractive, is usually dating down for easy booty, and as a time filler until they can find someone hotter.  I tend to not be attracted to guys who are noticeably less attractive than me.  However, non-physical qualities (character, confidence, the way they carry themselves) can alter how I perceive their physical attractiveness. (up or down)
    Over 30 years ago, I read a book on choosing a marriage partner by Dr Joyce Brothers, and she recommended AGAINST what she called “looks discrepant” marriages.  She advised going with someone who was about your equal in the physical attractiveness category.  She said that generally speaking the more attractive person would have the upper hand.  At first I was really rather shocked that a professional would give this advice, it seemed so shallow.  But I must admit, from most of what I have observed and experienced, I think her advice was quite wise.

  4. 94

    Both online and in real life, the ones who really attract me are the intellectuals who can have fun.  Attractive men are only attractive to me if they have those qualities.

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