While I’m happily married and try to help others become happily married, in no way do I think that my lifestyle is the only viable lifestyle. Readers with alternative lifestyles may get annoyed when I continually cite articles about monogamy, marriage, and children and I want you to know that I only write those pieces because that is my target audience.
Sounds like a breath of fresh air, doesn’t it? All the romance and sparks “without the monotony and obligation of a full-time relationship.”
But I’m not remotely judgmental when people decide that they value their freedom and independence over marriage. To each her own. This is what spurred Helen Croydon to create her own dating site, PartTimeLove. “Croydon asserts that a low-maintenance or part-time relationship is distinctively different than the eloquently named “booty call,” or the even more lucid “casual encounter” in that the goal is lasting love. (She) admits it’s not for everyone. She envisions her demographic as users in their mid-to-late 30s and early 40s who are set in their ways and might find it difficult to adapt domestically to a new partner. “They’re realistic on the fairytale,” she says.”
It sounds like a breath of fresh air, doesn’t it? All the romance and sparks “without the monotony and obligation of a full-time relationship.”
Of course, like any new paradigm, PartTimeDating has it’s own flaws: namely that one partner will likely feel stronger than the other and will be dissatisfied in a relationship that is, by its very definition, limited. In other words, there are millions of people who are having these “Part-Time” relationships – but unlike the founder suggests, the reason they’re doing it is because they DON’T want to fall in love and get married. Hell, my MOM wants a relationship like this. In her words, “I don’t want to take care of an old man!”
Just know that this isn’t a new paradigm at all. The only difference about Croydon’s website is that it’s officially sanctioned. This is a place where women can no longer complain that men only text a couple of times a week, because by virtue of being on the site, that’s exactly what they’re signing up for.
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