Have You Ever Lied About Anything in Your Profile?

Have you ever lied about anything in your profile?

I have. I’m really 5’9″, not 5’10″…

Adding an inch or two to their height seems to be a common lie among men.

Among women, subtracting a few years from their age is common.

What were your dates reactions when they found out you lied?

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  1. 1
    Slim Pickens

    Ha, I did the exact same thing. 5-10 instead of 5-9. But actually I am more like 5-9 3/4 so it’s a pretty small lie. I seem to be looking down at an awful lot of other guys who claim they are 5-9 and they’re not even close. I hear the “you seem taller” when I say I’m 5-9 too, which is no doubt partly due to all those midgets adding 2,3,4 inches to their own height.

    That’s about it though, everything else I write in my profile and email messages is absolutely true. I would not tolerate anyone lying to me, not about anything major, so why would I do it to them? And when it comes to a physical attribute you will know instantly that you have a liar on your hands, so what’s the point?

  2. 2
    Geek's Dream Girl

    I’ve always put “About Average” for my body type, even though I’ve always been more “Curvy”. But to be fair, I included pictures that showed my body type, so I was only deceiving the search engine. :-)

  3. 3
    Honey

    I would probably lie about my weight but fortunately they don’t make you list that! My BF listed himself at 5’8″ when he says he’s 5’7″, but I think he’s STILL lying over 2 years later…he’s 5’6″ IMHO!

  4. 4
    Honey

    I would always post a recent pic (as far as the weight thing), I just wouldn’t want to put the number down :-)

  5. 5
    Karl R

    I’ve never lied. I have omitted information.

    For example, I live in a city where most people own cars. I choose not to. I don’t include that information in my profile.

    I realize that some people consider that to be deceptive. In my opinion, I can’t include every piece of information about myself (nor would I, even if I could). A woman can learn that information after she spends a date or two getting to know me.

  6. 6
    Jimmy E

    I lived with my parents for about 6 months in my mid 20s. I said that I was living with roommates, which was sort of true.

  7. 7
    happy girl

    Yes, only about my age…I was adamant not to do that , but I did take off a few years. Do I feel good about doing that Not really, but if you have men in their late 50′s and even 60′s contacting you!!!.

  8. 8
    xpuff

    Gah, all you liars about height have been the bane of my existence!!!! Well, until I learned that 5’10″ on a dating site almost always means 5’8″ and adjusted my expectations accordingly and looked with suspicion on anyone stating they were 5’9″-6’0″.

    I’ve never lied about anything. I always got comments about how similar to my profile pics I looked and always got asked out a second time so I was fairly confident that I was representing myself fairly and accurately.

  9. 9
    A-L

    I’ve never lied. The part that I’ve felt questionable about is checking the box for “average” body. I wear a size 8-10, so technically I am average. But if I was talking with my friends I’d probably say I was overweight, or at least needed to lose a few pounds.

  10. 10
    JuJu

    JimmyE, I lived with my parents for a year and a half after leaving my husband – is that something to be embarrassed about?? Wouldn’t even occur to me to hide the fact, but then, I don’t see how this information is relevant to my _current_ profile anyway.

    Nah, I never lied. I don’t think that complete strangers are entitled to all sorts of information about me, on the other hand, so I am not likely to talk about past relationships, or money, or other such private things in my ad (can’t agree with age and height fields, however, as some other people have mentioned).

  11. 11
    Carol

    I have fudged about my age a couple of years a few times, but after trying it I have to admit it’s too much trouble to keep everything straight. I did see a bigger range of options when I made myself 3 years younger but eventually I realized that if someone can’t handle my age as it is, he’s probably not my guy.

  12. 12
    moonsical

    If anything I might mention the better description of my present title, “Culinary Associate,” rather than say, “Pizza Lady at a Residence Hall.” Career path and job longevity/stability historically has been a bit of a trial for me. I’m definitely not driven or decisive in that area, so that is where my shame lies!

    moon

  13. 13
    Jennifer

    I’ve never lied about anything on my profile.
    @Karl- I think it would be odd if someone mentioned that they didn’t have a carin their profile, so I don’t even see that as a lie of omission. I think leaving out that information is perfectly normal and not at all deceptive

    @A-L- sixe 8 is actually smaller than average in the U.S., so you’re not lying either :-)

  14. 14
    lisaq

    Nope. Never, ever. It frustrates me to meet someone only to find out that they lied. I don’t want to be the person that puts someone else in that position.

  15. 15
    Jane

    Number one, honesty is important to me so how could I lie without adding a double standard as an additional transgression.

    Secondly, why create disappointment at the onset of a relationship–or wreck the possibility of one because you weren’t accurate?

    For a lot of people, there is no third.

  16. 16
    Gail

    I haven’t lied on my profile but the last guy I dated sure did! He said he was “caucasian” but was really a mixed race(obviously not too proud of that fact). Said he was 5’6″ and in fact was more like 5’4” Indicated he had been separated 6 yrs. Actually his wife lived down the street from him and he and his wife and “friends” had dinner every Friday night. I was invited to his house for dinner and the final straw was the WEDDING picture on display. There can be lots of deceit behind some peoples profiles and one can’t be too careful. Height etc is one thing but married is another.

  17. 17
    JuJu

    This one happened to a friend – in the “family” field the man said “would like to start one”, whereas in reality he already had two children from a previous marriage. She broke it off with him over that.

  18. 18
    Sara

    Good question!!! Nothing comes to mind, but I know for a fact that I exaggerated my interest in “being active.” Nobody wants a lazy bum!

  19. 19
    Cilla

    I took a year off my age, because I realized I was being excluded from a lot of searches that used 5-year increments as a cut-off. (I was 46, but a number of men stopped looking at women over 45.)

    I always confessed to men in our first conversations that I had done that, and no one seemed to care. In fact, most men told me I looked significantly younger than my age anyway.

    Now if I am interested in a man and think I won’t show up in his search criteria because of age, I contact him first or put him my favorites to let him know I’m attracted. If he’s interested back, he’ll get in touch.

  20. 20
    Rachelle

    I’ve never lied about anything. Body type, age, height…

    I’m 36 and I do notice that alot of guys cut off at 35. With that said, I have been contacted by guys whose prefered age range was up to 30. I just assume they perhaps got tired of seeing the same faces and do a broader search…

    I have run into a lot of men who fudge about their height!

    I’m 5’8″. I like to wear at least 2 inch heels. I will catch you in a lie everytime!

  21. 21
    hunter

    Lie after lie, after lie,,,,hhhmmmhh…its not really a lie, isn’t it more like, diplomacy, tactfulness, maybe,…just a little tinsy, tiny, manipulative……

  22. 22
    change

    I’m about 5’10 so I don’t have to worry about lying about height. But my license says 5’9 but that might be because I got it at 16 and never bothered to change it. Maybe I’m actually 5’9 1/2 but I think if you wear shoes you can seem taller like Doc Martins. George Costanza on seinfeld wore Timberlands to appear taller to women! But with internet dating, I think there are obviously more single shorter guys out there who use online dating and its probably true that more curvy women use online dating than not.

  23. 23
    mic

    In online dating, many men lie about their height. That’s been studied.

    “I think there are obviously more single shorter guys out there who use online dating and its probably true that more curvy women use online dating than not.”

    Probably so, and the general physical attractiveness of online daters probably is lower than that of the relationship-seeking population in general. Online dating sites are going to need to better address that and the lying. Instead of running ads that falsely imply that online dating is a sea of beauties :)

  24. 24
    JuJu

    mic,

    can’t say I understand what exactly you are proposing the dating sites do. Besides, do you hold, say, beer commercials to the same standard?

    This reminds me of a JDate ad I once saw in Times Square, which in my opinion was totally unsuccessful. It showed a couple in an embrace – an attractive woman in her upper 20′s-lower 30′s and an unattractive man about 15 years her senior. Let’s just say, based on THAT ad, I’d never be inclined to go on the site. I can see how the woman in the poster could entice a lot of men to try it out, but if that man is a realistic representation of what they can offer, I’d rather take my chances elsewhere.

  25. 25
    The InBetweener

    As far as LIES go, I guess a lie would be any UNTRUTH?

    Let’s see, I’ve omitted my first name and just used my middle name.

    I’ve said I was currently AT work, when I really just happened to be working from home that day.

    I said I was born in Lebanon. I was actually. Just not the country.

    I’m 5’5 3/4 bare footed but I never put that in my profile. I usually just put down 5’5-5’6. Mainly because, when you first meet someone in person, it’s almost never barefooted.

    Those are my “untruths”. The thing I never understood with people that lie online is, how can someone lie about something that will be visible upon sight?

  26. 26
    raindrop

    i liked about my first name, used a new fake name to people i met 4 years ago, and we r in touch until now, i know it sounds evil but its the truth ive recently confessed and told him my real name only cuz we r getting serious realtionship meeting for marriage, where as before we were goood friends

    but ill never ever do it again made me feel sooo guilty ashamed devasted and hated my entire life for my bad doings

    i never lied about my age hight weight religion anything else just my name

  27. 27
    Seductress Within

    No never lied. I wouldn’t be very trusting of my date if he did.

    Most men that I’ve met from an online dating site say “wow, you look exactly like your picture. That almost never happens. I’m always a little nervous to see how different she’ll be.”
    I don’t know how many men lie, but women must do it regularly if the majority of the men I’ve met seem surprised to meet me and “everything checks out”.

    What is up with that? Why would anyone want to start what could be a relationship with lies or misrepresentations, however small?

  28. 28
    hunter

    My applause on your last paragraph. I agree with you.

  29. 29
    Kenley

    Plenty of men have misrepresentative photos too — not just women. I think some people do it because they honestly don’t believe they look different. Others do it because they hope that once you meet them and get to know them, you won’t care that they don’t look exactly like their pictures. I also think that some might due it simply because of laziness — they just don’t feel like updating their profiles or their pictures. However, you’d think that in the extremely unforgiving world of online dating people would realize a dishonest strategy is a losing one, but it doesn’t appear that they do.

  30. 30
    hunter

    Some women don’t call them lies, and they don’t call it misrepresenting. I think the word they use is, “Manipulative”.

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