How Many Emails Do The Most Attractive Women Get Online?

How Many Emails Do The Most Attractive Women Get Online?

In preparation for my free teleclass next Tuesday, I’m going to be asking two new online questions each day and would greatly appreciate your responses. With your participation, I think we can all learn something fundamental about online dating. So here’s my first question:

How many emails do you think the most attractive women in their 20’s and 30’s get per a week on a major dating site?

Please respond in the comments below.

Talk to you soon!

Evan

P.S. Don’t worry – our regular Thursday reader questions will still be answered as long as I’m in town.

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  1. 1
    Adi

    first depends from the profile, but I think up to ten per week

  2. 2
    Shira

    I think they get 2 to 3 e-mails per day.

  3. 3
    Cindy

    I am a 40 something, attractive woman and I probably get an average of 20-25 new emails/winks from men on a weekly basis. So, I imagine the pool for the younger MOST attractive women is much higher, possibly 50-60 hits per week! For those I’m not interested in for whatever reason (usually distance) I try to be considerate by responding and saying no, thank you. And I actually get a thank you back for acknowledging them. I would say that is the #1 complaint I hear from men, that they don’t get any response from the emails they send out. I try to explain to them that women get so many more emails and sometimes it’s difficult to respond to everyone.

    1. 3.1
      Paul

      Yes Cindy this exactly why men say thank you back because most women don’t even bother replying and it’s pretty cold.

    1. 4.1
      Bert

      I believe Evan is probably right. If I’m really interested in someone I’ll send her an email, a simile or two and maybe a message all in the same day. Guess I know that’s probably over doing it but if it was me I’d love for some woman to send me that many. I’m looking for someone who likes the things I like and I’d like that so…………..lol 

  4. 5
    April

    When I first started online dating, I was in my late thirties, and even I usually got about 10 emails a day. So I can only imagine that a hot 26-year-old would get three times as many.

  5. 6
    happy girl

    I am not in my 30’s but 40’s and I get at least 6 to 10 a day not really emails but winks and emails..sometimes more

    1. 6.1
      Nadine

      I’m a 40 year old attractive woman with a good profile and I barely get any. Maybe 1 or 2 a day. Not sure what I am doing wrong.

  6. 7
    Lori

    I’d say between 10 and 15 a day based on looks alone. More if she has an interesting profile…

  7. 8
    happy girl

    I agree with Cindy..most men complain that women don’t even bother to respond. I have tried to email back a response as much as I can and have had very nice emails back thanking me and letting me know that they really appreciate my email. It is disheartning for men as well as it would be for women if there is not even a polite email back. I think we forget that behind that profile and photo posted ( or sometimes not a photo) is a person.

  8. 9
    Sheryl

    I’d say about 100 a week plus winks.

  9. 10
    Joe

    Somewhat off-topic, but I don’t think it’s necessary to respond to every wink/icebreaker/whatever if you’re getting tons of contacts. If you’re not worth someone’s time to craft a nicely written personal note–even a short one–why should you spend your time even responding to him/her with a canned thanks-but-no-thanks response?

  10. 11
    Terri

    If she is hot on a major site like Match.com I am guessing 10-20 a day initially. Once they determine she has been there awhile it would back off a bit. I get 10 a day when I am perceived as the new girl in the room and I am an attractive (not hot) 54 year old!

  11. 12
    Elli

    Hi,
    I’m 56, have pics posted with my face only (personal preference, although I’m in shape). When I first join a website (JDate, Yahoo Personals, POF, eHarmony) I have 50-100 emails in the first week. After that it stays that way for a couple months. When it dwindles down, I still get 5-10 per week. About half of those emails are from men between 25-45 years of age (and I am NOT interested in very young men). I would think that a good looking woman in her 20’s would need a personal secretary to handle the influx of emails!

    1. 12.1
      Kevin

      I recognize that women get avalanche of responses from men. However, based on most of the women I’ve spoken to, at least 90% are either married, engaged, players, or perverts. which drives single women away from these sites. Here, it seems, quantity far outstrips quality.

      1. 12.1.1
        Jenn

        That’s a misconception that women get an avalanche of replies. Only the hottest women get barraged with emails, and even then, they only do so as long as their “new car smell” is still fresh. Over time, the emails do diminish. Then there are us normal chicks who have never gotten hundreds of replies, no matter how good our profile and pictures are. Over time, the response rate for us is so bad that there might as well be crickets chirping whenever we check our inboxes.

        1. Bert

          I’m sure there are some guys that don’t leave when that “new car” smell is gone. I’m one of them. I’m looking for someone who I have a lot in common with. I’m the guy that probably over does it on emails and smiles but that’s just me. When I find one I’m interested in my heart takes over and my brain slams on the brakes, lol. 

  12. 13
    $Francisco

    Seventy-five or more per week.

  13. 14
    outsidethebellcurve

    I’m a guy, but I tried an interesting test….

    I put up a pretty crappy profile… a la “I love to hang out, goto bars, museums, and restaurants, but I’m just as happy sitting at watching watching netflix.” … then, I went to google images, and found a picture of a hot girl. I attached the above-mentioned profile with the picture of the hot girl, and waited….

    Within the first day, I had been written to by more than 70 guys. By the end of the week, almost 300. So, that’s my guess: between 250-300.

  14. 15
    JB

    My “hottie” female recon profile got about 85 in the first week. She’s 43,divorced,no kids and about an “8” or “9”. I can’t believe the amount of idiots that still “wink” …..LOL You ladies are right,there’s an endless amount of dorks,dweebs,and doofus’s out there !!…LOL Unless you ARE a model most women won’t respond to a wink. Winks should be banned from all pay sites as well as free profiles. On Plenty Of Fish it doesn’t matter obviously. In 10 years of online dating I’ve never once used a wink.

  15. 16
    Norman

    If she’s new to the site, probably 50-100 a day for the first week or two, then it should taper off to something a little more manageable. I’ve known women who had to hide their profiles after the flood of message they initially received because they felt so overwhelmed.

  16. 17
    JuJu

    Depends on the site (and I never used a paid one other than for a free intro). Memorably, on Craigslist I was getting several e-mails per minute (I did put up my pics in the ad), but that’s probably common on that site.

  17. 18
    JuJu

    I should add, however, that my wording filtered out most (in terms of intellect).

  18. 19
    Zann

    I think it totally depends on what dating site is being used. Evan, I’ve heard you mention in other posts that young, “hot” women (& I assume we’re talking about physical attributes here)can get hundreds of contacts a week. So, I’ll guess 250. To be honest, I’m 55 and consider myself attractive, young-looking, and physically fit, but the most frequent response I get from men who write me is that they loved my writing in my profile. I’ve been on a 3-month break from online dating, but before that was on Singlesnet and Salon Personals. The norm for Singlesnet would be around 8-10 contacts a day, although many of them were from guys in other states or countries, inappropriate age range. The Salon site tends to be extremely liberal, which I like, but also tends to attract a rather non-mainstream male, and contacts from that site are pretty limited. It goes in spurts and varies pretty dramatically — I’d get a couple a day, but sometimes no contacts at all for weeks, just “views.”

  19. 20
    Doll

    My estimate would be in excess of over 100, I too, consider myself an average looking woman. When I have been on a dating site, I got in excess of that number per week. By the way I’m 54, I can only imagine there are even more in the dating pool between 20-30, with more looking for someone in that age bracket.

  20. 21
    Linda

    Interesting question. I made a mistake when signing up for a free trial at True.com. When it was time to upload a photo, I clicked on something to see what it was and the photo uploaded and I was unable to delete it. The photo was a picture of my friend’s secretary. She received over 100 messages a day. I thought “wow, what a great site!’ I deleted all of the messages, contacted the service and changed the name on the profile and replaced the photo with mine. To date, I have had not one response.

    I’m sure you’re all thinking I’m a real dog, right? That’s not true, I notice attention from men I pass on the street and they will sometimes stop me and tell me I’m gorgeous, or I look great.

    A difference is that her picture was a close up of her face and mine are more distant pictures.

  21. 22
    sara

    From my experience:
    I’ve been on and off multiple online dating website from the age of 28-32. I think I’m attractive, and I write a well-written and thorough dating profile. When you first sign up on a dating website, there’s “the new girl” syndrome. The first month or so I would easily receive 40-50 winks or emails per week. After that, the number dwindeled to perhaps 10 per week.

  22. 23
    A-L

    What’s the population of the town the girl is posting in? I bet a girl in a major metropolitan area (L.A., Chicago, Houston, Philadelphia, etc) is going to get a much bigger response than someone in mid-sized towns (Tampa, Kansas City, Richmond), and girls in mid-sized towns are going to get a lot more than girls in rural areas. Plus, as others have mentioned, there’s the new girl factor to consider.

    So here are my sets of guesses:

    New hot girl in big metropolis: 300
    New hot girl in mid-sized city: 150
    New hot girl in rural area: 50

    Old hot girl in big metropolis: 100
    Old hot girl in mid-sized city: 30
    Old hot girl in rural area: 10
    (Old being defined as not new to the site)

  23. 24
    A-L

    I’m amending my previous post:

    New hot girl in big metropolis: 500

  24. 25
    Hot Alpha Female

    When I was on RSVP an Australian Dating site I was probably got about 40-50 emails a week.

    It was ridiculous.

    And because there were so many, I was extremely selective of the people who i responded to and their emails had to REALLY stand out and be something speical … for me to even read the whole thing let alone reply.

    Hope this helps

    Hot Alpha Female

  25. 26
    Hot Alpha Female

    Evan.

    I got over 500 responses in 2 months. So thats like 40-50 emails a week.

    That is quite a lot to handle. So it was important that the emails I replied to really JUMPED out from the crowd.

    Emails that started went along the lines of “Hi how are you, tell me about yourself” – were simply overlooked.

    Hope this helps

    Hot Alpha Female

  26. 27
    Elle

    I think they get 10 emails per week.

  27. 28
    Macy

    I’m a fairly attractive 50 something woman. When I put new pictures on Match, I receive 10-20 e-mails plus winks a day for the first 5-6 weeks. I would average 350-400 e-mails (but that is counting e-mailing back and forth with some of the guys) a month, for years. I live in a fairly big city, but not anywhere near the size of Atlanta. I imagine a much younger, attractive woman in a large city could average 50+ e-mails/winks a day.

  28. 29
    Evan Marc Katz

    Okay, guys, what did you learn here today? It’s a lot MORE competitive than you even knew.

    That’s why you should register for my free teleclass next Tuesday:

    http://www.findingtheoneonline.com/teleseminar/

    Oh, and for the women who generously offered their own stories, your takeaway should be that if you want to stem the tide of unwanted unsolicited emails, you should take down your photo and only contact the men who interest YOU!

  29. 30
    Lance

    Wanted to add my 2c. I know an attractive girl in Boston who got between 100-200 per week when she was doing match. I also know a younger chick, age 24, who got 500 in 48 hours when she posted in the Berkeley area. She went on exactly two dates from those 500 and then took down her profile because it was too much to keep up with.

    Yeah, it’s competitive. It’s kinda almost exactly like going to a BAR, where the hottest chicks get the most guys hitting on them. With both avenues, you can give yourself advantages with good game.

    As a guy who’s done the match thing for years, I’ve received less than a dozen, unsolicited emails total, where every single one of the emailers were not even close to being hot. I guess I’m not tall enough!

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