How Many Emails Do The Most Attractive Women Get Online?

How Many Emails Do The Most Attractive Women Get Online?

In preparation for my free teleclass next Tuesday, I’m going to be asking two new online questions each day and would greatly appreciate your responses. With your participation, I think we can all learn something fundamental about online dating. So here’s my first question:

How many emails do you think the most attractive women in their 20’s and 30’s get per a week on a major dating site?

Please respond in the comments below.

Talk to you soon!


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  1. 151

    I’m 18 and I get 150+ views a week, and more messages than I can count but I don’t think I’m super attractive or anything. If you weed out the weirdos i’d say I get 85-100 views and 30-50 messages, maybe 60 on a good day. 20-30 year olds probably get more than I do. 

  2. 152

    I joined match on Monday I’m 25 female , I have received in the last five days 100 emails , 60 people who are interested and maybe 60 winks 150 likes on a photos. It’s a bit of a over load and a lot of flittering over 100 different guys and only maybe 2 have got my attention. My roommate also joined the same time as me we are similar in looks but we have a lot of guys who have emailed both of us and said the same thing. I think the concept is great especially if you live in a big city you get the chance to meet people you would otherwise not meet but I don’t think it’s for me.

  3. 153

    I’m a 20 year old female and I got 30 messages my first day with it up. Some creepy, most friendly. I try to respond to most messages because I appreciate people putting themselves out there but if I look at their page and I’m genuinely not interested at all, or if they’re over 30, married, or offensive in what they say to me then I won’t. Most of the messages said something about info from my profile, so I think having interesting bios is a big factor for getting attention

  4. 154

    I just signed up for POF. I’m 32 with 2 kids. Within 3 hours I had 50 emails. It’s been 3 days and I have gotten 150 emails so far (200+ who want to “meet me”). Most are just guys going “Ur hot” or “How are you?” 2 maybe 3 guys stood out from all of those, and even those guys didn’t say anything spectacular. It’s quite overwhelming. I do feel bad not responding to the guys that actually take the time to write something and mention things from my profile. But I just don’t have the time to respond to them all. So I’m not responding at all, unless I’m interested. So far I’ve only responded to 2 guys. I’m not really sure how many I want to respond to- that wold be overwhelming as well.

  5. 155

    I put up my profile around four in the afternoon, and by the next day I had 746 views, 200 friend requests,188 live likes.

  6. 156

    I’m confused. Are people talking about the emails they get in their main inbox (like Yahoo and gmail [not including daily matches)] or emails from the inbox?

  7. 157

    I’ve received 125 emails in 3 days and 482 vies. I’m a 30 year old woman.

  8. 158

    This is depressing but true. I am an average-looking, slim woman in my early 30s. Many of the messages I get are from men who are much older, can’t speak English well, and/or are overweight. And most of the men I initiate contact with don’t respond. It does wonders for my self-esteem. 

  9. 159

    I started my online dating profile about 10 days ago.  I don’t think I am hot, but I am not bad looking myself.  In the beginning, I got over 10/day, and now I have 60 messages and about 272 likes.  

  10. 160

    Wow, I’m looking at all these women…even older ones getting 100+ responses. I consider myself an average girl. I’m 31 yrs, never married, no kids, petite 5’0, ethnically South Asian, medium build, face more on the “cute” side. I have mostly face shots on my profile. No “hot” pics as such. My profile is short and light-hearted. I am slim-average (not skinny), not overweight or chubby but it seems my profile gets as little emails/hits as overweight girls.
    I only get 4-5  emails per week and sometimes not even that. There are dry spells. I’ve been rated “high” on OK cupid by 170 people….but the total number of emails is less than 100 in ONE YEAR. Hm….
    Also, I never ever get lewd messages. No one calling me “sexy” or “hot” or if I want to have  a “good time” with them. Just really boring Hi, How are you? Cute smile…etc. 
    Where does that put me? Below average? I hardly get asked out in real life and even online it is just a few people. I have gone on only one date so far from my Ok Cupid profile and did not like the guy.

    I’ve never been called “ugly” in my life…mostly just “cute”, rarely pretty and only once beautiful. But from my lack of prospects, online and offline, I would be classified as unattractive, I suppose. 

    If someone is attractive enough to get 500 emails in a week–they probably don’t even need to be online. It seems the top 10-20% women get most of the attention and for us ordinary or below women, the traffic is slow.

  11. 161

    I’ve been on for 48 hours, and I’ve gotten 125 messages so far. Also 74 winks, 76 “likes”, 19 “favorites.” I’m an attractive, well-educated 24-year-old.

    I came to this thread because I Googled to see if this is normal — it is overwhelming to filter through so many emails when clearly most of the people haven’t looked to see whether what I’m looking for matches their description.

    It also makes me feel mean to delete so many messages without responding, but there’s no way to respond to everyone. I’m only going to respond if we seem to have a lot in common and you’ve made the effort to say something substantially more substantive than “You’re cute! Got any plans this weekend?” 

  12. 162

    I’m almost 20 and about 130-150 new people send me messages every week (about 20 a day)

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