How Many Emails Do The Most Attractive Women Get Online?

How Many Emails Do The Most Attractive Women Get Online?

In preparation for my free teleclass next Tuesday, I’m going to be asking two new online questions each day and would greatly appreciate your responses. With your participation, I think we can all learn something fundamental about online dating. So here’s my first question:

How many emails do you think the most attractive women in their 20’s and 30’s get per a week on a major dating site?

Please respond in the comments below.

Talk to you soon!

Evan

P.S. Don’t worry – our regular Thursday reader questions will still be answered as long as I’m in town.

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  1. 151
    keri

    I’m 18 and I get 150+ views a week, and more messages than I can count but I don’t think I’m super attractive or anything. If you weed out the weirdos i’d say I get 85-100 views and 30-50 messages, maybe 60 on a good day. 20-30 year olds probably get more than I do. 

  2. 152
    Katie

    I joined match on Monday I’m 25 female , I have received in the last five days 100 emails , 60 people who are interested and maybe 60 winks 150 likes on a photos. It’s a bit of a over load and a lot of flittering over 100 different guys and only maybe 2 have got my attention. My roommate also joined the same time as me we are similar in looks but we have a lot of guys who have emailed both of us and said the same thing. I think the concept is great especially if you live in a big city you get the chance to meet people you would otherwise not meet but I don’t think it’s for me.

  3. 153
    Marissa

    I’m a 20 year old female and I got 30 messages my first day with it up. Some creepy, most friendly. I try to respond to most messages because I appreciate people putting themselves out there but if I look at their page and I’m genuinely not interested at all, or if they’re over 30, married, or offensive in what they say to me then I won’t. Most of the messages said something about info from my profile, so I think having interesting bios is a big factor for getting attention

  4. 154
    Abby

    I just signed up for POF. I’m 32 with 2 kids. Within 3 hours I had 50 emails. It’s been 3 days and I have gotten 150 emails so far (200+ who want to “meet me”). Most are just guys going “Ur hot” or “How are you?” 2 maybe 3 guys stood out from all of those, and even those guys didn’t say anything spectacular. It’s quite overwhelming. I do feel bad not responding to the guys that actually take the time to write something and mention things from my profile. But I just don’t have the time to respond to them all. So I’m not responding at all, unless I’m interested. So far I’ve only responded to 2 guys. I’m not really sure how many I want to respond to- that wold be overwhelming as well.

  5. 155
    tracylia

    I put up my profile around four in the afternoon, and by the next day I had 746 views, 200 friend requests,188 live likes.

  6. 156
    Lilly

    I’m confused. Are people talking about the emails they get in their main inbox (like Yahoo and gmail [not including daily matches)] or emails from the match.com inbox?

  7. 157
    Anonymous

    I’ve received 125 match.com emails in 3 days and 482 vies. I’m a 30 year old woman.

  8. 158
    Mavis

    This is depressing but true. I am an average-looking, slim woman in my early 30s. Many of the messages I get are from men who are much older, can’t speak English well, and/or are overweight. And most of the men I initiate contact with don’t respond. It does wonders for my self-esteem. 

  9. 159
    Ivy

    I started my online dating profile about 10 days ago.  I don’t think I am hot, but I am not bad looking myself.  In the beginning, I got over 10/day, and now I have 60 messages and about 272 likes.  

  10. 160
    maya

    Wow, I’m looking at all these women…even older ones getting 100+ responses. I consider myself an average girl. I’m 31 yrs, never married, no kids, petite 5’0, ethnically South Asian, medium build, face more on the “cute” side. I have mostly face shots on my profile. No “hot” pics as such. My profile is short and light-hearted. I am slim-average (not skinny), not overweight or chubby but it seems my profile gets as little emails/hits as overweight girls.
    I only get 4-5  emails per week and sometimes not even that. There are dry spells. I’ve been rated “high” on OK cupid by 170 people….but the total number of emails is less than 100 in ONE YEAR. Hm….
    Also, I never ever get lewd messages. No one calling me “sexy” or “hot” or if I want to have  a “good time” with them. Just really boring Hi, How are you? Cute smile…etc. 
    Where does that put me? Below average? I hardly get asked out in real life and even online it is just a few people. I have gone on only one date so far from my Ok Cupid profile and did not like the guy.

    I’ve never been called “ugly” in my life…mostly just “cute”, rarely pretty and only once beautiful. But from my lack of prospects, online and offline, I would be classified as unattractive, I suppose. 

    If someone is attractive enough to get 500 emails in a week–they probably don’t even need to be online. It seems the top 10-20% women get most of the attention and for us ordinary or below women, the traffic is slow.

  11. 161
    Liv

    I’ve been on Match.com for 48 hours, and I’ve gotten 125 messages so far. Also 74 winks, 76 “likes”, 19 “favorites.” I’m an attractive, well-educated 24-year-old.

    I came to this thread because I Googled to see if this is normal — it is overwhelming to filter through so many emails when clearly most of the people haven’t looked to see whether what I’m looking for matches their description.

    It also makes me feel mean to delete so many messages without responding, but there’s no way to respond to everyone. I’m only going to respond if we seem to have a lot in common and you’ve made the effort to say something substantially more substantive than “You’re cute! Got any plans this weekend?” 

  12. 162
    Alyssa

    I’m almost 20 and about 130-150 new people send me messages every week (about 20 a day)

  13. 163
    Liz

    I’ve been told that I am very attractive and I just signed up for a dating website a week ago. I’ve averaged 70 new messages a day.  I’d imagine that more attractive women out there could easily get 1000 messages the first week. After that, it probably tapers off a bit. It also would depend a lot on the nature of the woman’s photo, and if it is a “hook up” dating site or one geared toward people looking for a serious relationship. In my case, my photo is fairly conservative and it was Plenty of Fish. I do have a blonde friend who signed up for a site in Spain and got 1000 the first day! Blows my mind. Now where’s my bleach… :)

  14. 164
    Amy

    I joined major dating site and within 2 weeks i received 63 messages, 
    I had no idea that many men would be interested..
    I guess I don’t give myself enough credit, I’m my worst critic.lol 

  15. 165
    Agirl

    I am 48 and just upgraded my profile on Mon and received over 97 new emails by Sat. In 36 hours I had received over 70. I did, however, do an extensive search and send out over 20 short emails to guys I was interested in. I took the time to have decent (untouched, realistic) pictures taken and posted 15 so guys could see what I looked like. I also spent a few hours on my written profile to be sure it was accurate, approachable, warm & friendly.

  16. 166
    Agirl

    I just wanted to follow up on my above comment and say that the 97 emails I received in 5 days were received from only one dating website (I am only on one), and that 90% of the emails were from decent guys looking for committed relationships, and were within my stated age group (45-55 yrs). I received very few emails from guys who were older than 58, and none appeared to be looking for casual hook-ups.
    All the pictures I posted were recent and taken within the last 3 months. I had the pictures taken with a fairly decent camera and chose three different outfits/looks which portrayed my personality and style. I did not post pictures that were indecent, revealing, slutty or suggestive. They did, however, show off my best features.
    In my written profile I only listed what I was looking for vs what I am not looking for. I believe many people make the mistake of listing too many absolutes, must haves, and deal breakers that come across as rigid and unapproachable.
    My age also falls within the range of the fastest growing demographic for divorce in the US. I was pleasantly surprised at the number and quality of single guys available!
     

  17. 167
    Nadine

    I’m a 40 year old attractive woman with a good profile and I barely get any. Maybe 1 or 2 a day. Not sure what I am doing wrong. I would say 20’s 30’s maybe 10

    1. 167.1
      flonie

      I thought I was the only one that had slim pickings to chose from.  I wouldn’t say I’m necessarily attractive, maybe cute but that’s it. Like HKP, I’ve found people misrepresent themselves on the online sites.
       
      Like the guy who says he’s 6″ tall but his profile pics show he’s around maybe under 5″2 (there’s nothing wrong with being that height but be honest).
       

  18. 168
    HKP

    I’m 49, have no fat, great figure, I would say 7.5 for looks.  I get 50 views per day on average over a 6 month span.  I get about 10-15 Likes/Winked/Favorited on Match.  I just hit 9,000 views in a little over 5 months.   I did the calculation, and I’m there is a ridiculously small chance I will date them.  Like .10%.   I’ve gone on 40 first dates since starting online dating a year ago.   It’s just not working.  The men lie, their pics look NOTHING like them in person.   Or they don’t know how to behave like men. 

  19. 169
    Nadine

    I joined a dating website for the first time this monday, September 2, 2014. And I have a whopping 175 messages is three days! I don’t consider myself to be super Duper attractive model status or anything. But eHarmony definitely have a lot of good people to pick from.  

  20. 170
    flonie

    I didn’t get so much interest on match.com but I found on POF i get maybe 1 – 2 messages a day.  I’ve sent out a few “flirts” on there but it really depends.  Sometimes I’ll get a response and sometimes I won’t.  I find the guys that do respond don’t really have interest in me as a person, they just talk about themselves. After a few one sided msgs I move on and stop communicating.

  21. 171
    Jenna

    Im an average 31 year old on Match. I received about 15 emails a day and 10 winks.

  22. 172
    jky90

    I’m doing research for an article and I, along with my roomate, just made a dating profile last night around this time. I’m 24 and attractive and have a fun profile and I have 274 messages waiting for me, along with 749 “likes” all from around the southeastern part of the US. Her page is exactly the same in responses.

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