How Many Emails Do The Most Attractive Women Get Online?

How Many Emails Do The Most Attractive Women Get Online?

In preparation for my free teleclass next Tuesday, I’m going to be asking two new online questions each day and would greatly appreciate your responses. With your participation, I think we can all learn something fundamental about online dating. So here’s my first question:

How many emails do you think the most attractive women in their 20’s and 30’s get per a week on a major dating site?

Please respond in the comments below.

Talk to you soon!


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  1. 181

    I’m a 37 year old woman… I get told all the time that I look much younger. For me it depends on the site. On Plenty of Fish I receive about 200 messages if I go on for 24 hours however I mostly keep my profile hidden so that’s probably why… I seem “new”. On OK Cupid & Match I get about 15 messages a day. I stumbled across this message board because I find online dating very overwhelming & want to find out how to filter. It’s becoming a second full time job :-(

  2. 182

    Hmm….I’m in my mid-fifties, live in DC, and am very attractive in a Scandinavian kind of way. I get about six e-mails a month. Profile is well written and weeds out a lot of fellows looking for a bimbo. Between that and the fact that I’m six feet tall probably intimidates the “hell-o” out of most men.

  3. 183

    A guy friend rated me a 7 or 8 out of 10, I am 37 and I received 20 to 30 emails a day, plus about 70 likes. What was frustrating was that half of them ignored my requests, for example, couples answered when I specifically said men only, casual encounters replied when I asked for long term only, people outside my requested age range responded.

    Thanks for the tips about writing back and saying “no thanks”. I did it once, received a nasty email, but I will make sure to write back regardless now, as I was not sure what to do.

  4. 184

    I’m starting to feel like quasimoto. I received 3 emails in 3 weeks. 200+ views in 3 weeks. 17 likes. favorited only once by a guy who did not list black women as a preference.
    I always thought I was attractive but my self esteem has lowered a bit and my cancelled profile and will move on. I hate match especially because I can’t get a refund on a three month subscription.

    This is ridiculous if race is really the reason. I’m getting my Masters in International Law, very in shape, late 20’s, and attractive. I only get views from old men and men who are shorter than me. Depressing.

  5. 185

    I am a “attractive woman in my 20s” and I just received 100 messages on POF in one day.

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