Why Men Don’t Write to Curvy Women on the Internet

Hi Evan,

I have been online dating for about two months and it’s been so-so thus far.  My problem is deciding how to list my body type.  I’m 5’3″ and an hourglass-ish size 10, so while I’m not obese, I’m definitely not “athletic and toned.”  I chose pictures that I think accurately show this.

Anyway, at first I listed myself as “A few pounds extra” thinking it was an honest description.  Well, two male co-workers were talking about online dating and mentioned that they’d never contact a girl that was in that class or “curvy”, because any time they’d met one in the past, she’d been much heavier than in her pictures.

I’m wondering if this is why guys will view me a lot, but won’t make contact. The guys who have made contact have been people that I probably would not have dated normally, i.e., no steady job or just a little odd.

Any suggestions?

Nicci

On the next episode of Online Mythbusters, we will learn:

  • Why women don’t list their true weights or body types!
  • Why men avoid “curvy” women!
  • Why men look at you and don’t write to you!
  • Why odd men with no jobs contact you!

You have to be asking yourself – is it REALLY in my best interests to tell the truth if 95% of guys are going to dismiss me for doing so?

The good news, Nicci, is that all of the answers can be derived from the same exact technique – flipping things over to consider the other person’s point of view.

Let’s start with you, because a) you wrote me the note, and b) you’re an online dating anomaly – an honest size 10 who doesn’t claim to be athletic and toned.

However, after talking to your male co-workers and observing that you’re not being contacted, you have to be asking yourself – is it REALLY in my best interests to tell the truth if 95% of guys are going to dismiss me for doing so? This is the online dating dilemma that faces MILLIONS of people each day. If I’m a 5’4” man, I know that it’s going to be hard to get a date if I tell the truth. If I’m a 50-year-old man who makes less than $30,000/year, I’m going to be somewhat handicapped. And few people face more discrimination than women in their 50’s and 60’s, who only seem to get email from men who are MUCH older.

Most of these people are good people – and yet they give in to the temptation to lie. Why? Because telling the truth is a FAILING strategy. This is the explanation for why women don’t tell the truth about their bodies. Simply put, there’s very little reward for having integrity. At the very least, heavier women (like shorter men) feel that if they can convince someone to go out with them, they’d have a chance in person….

Except this isn’t true either, because most people feel duped by the disconnect between your description and real life stature. Heavier people almost always do better in “real life” than online.

Next myth to be busted: why men don’t go out with “curvy” women. Well, you touched on it yourself, Nicci, in your email. In their attempts to be honest (but not scare off men), women will click on descriptors like “a few pounds extra”, “curvy”,  or “voluptuous”. All are considered euphemisms for “fat” by men. This creates a vicious circle. Women know that men prefer thin, so they adjust their descriptions accordingly. Men have learned to mistrust these body types, and therefore only look at women who are “firm and toned”, “slim/slender”, or “athletic”. And when the slightly overweight woman shows up on a date with a man who was expecting “athletic”, both parties are in for a night of disappointment.

Focus on what you can control – YOU – and let go of what you can’t – MEN.

Why do men look at you and not write to you? First of all, I think that’s a problem that’s more in your head than in reality. Fact is, we all window shop online. How many men have you looked at? 1000? How many did you write to? 12? Should 988 men feel rejected because you didn’t initiate contact? Please. Ignore how many people look at you. It is misleading and can only serve as a tool that makes you feel rejected. If no one’s WRITING to you, however, there is something to think about. Which is why I’ve helped thousands of people rebrand and market themselves successfully online over the past nine years. Better photos, better essays, better usernames, better email technique. Do everything 25% better and it can make a remarkable difference in your life.

Still, no matter how much rebranding we do, life is still not going to be fair. Men are still largely going to prefer young, thin women. Women are still going to prefer tall, successful men. All we can do is tackle this confidently, and not get too thrown by the many bumps in the road. The man who wants you is going to WANT a curvy girl. No point in getting bent out of shape about the ones who prefer skinny chicks, y’know?

Finally, the last myth we’re gonna bust is that there’s something about your profile that’s attracting the wrong kind of men. I swear to God, I have heard this complaint every single day for nearly a decade. And it always baffles me. So let’s play the game I play with my clients on the phone:

Me: If you were to go to an airport and look around the terminal, what percentage of men would you date?

Her: I don’t know. 5%? 2%, maybe?

Me: Then why would you expect the percentage to be any higher online? If, by definition, 95% of men are wrong for you, it should be expected that many will be unemployed, uneducated, older and inappropriate. Get over it. They’re allowed to take a crack at you, and you’re allowed to ignore them. Focus your energies on attracting and maintaining the 5% that you want. THAT’s what we’ll do together.

And so it is, Nicci. Focus on what you can control – YOU – and let go of what you can’t – MEN.

Understanding this about online dating is essential to your success. And if you’ve struggled with the same frustrations as Nicci – not enough good men, all the wrong men writing to you – my Finding the One Online system is a one-stop-shop to get you the kind of attention you deserve.

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Warmest wishes,

Your friend,

Evan

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  1. 151
    Nicole

    @Julia,
    It’s ridiculous that people won’t use their own eyes.  There are plenty of women who fit into a size 8 who don’t have nice bodies, some are boxy, some are pear shapes, some are apples, some are upside down triangles.  It’s not a lie that some women are hourglasses and don’t get big bellies even when they gain weight.  Just like there are women who aren’t overweight but every extra ounce goes to their stomach or back.    I have friends who wear much smaller sizes than me but still have little pooches or bellies that stick out that I don’t have even though I’m heavier than them.  

    I see plenty of men who are heavy call themselves average or athletic but I don’t really care, since I have too functioning eyes and can figure out my own opinion of what they are, which is in the end, my opinion and not a fact anyway.

    But if a lady has a full body shot and you find your proportions to be attractive, I’m not sure why so many men are afraid of whether a small waist  wears a size 2 or a size 14.  

    So if a woman really has a good hip to waist ration and a flat stomach, I’m not sure why you and so many other people want to co-opt the term curvy and I don’t know why people are so afraid of meeting someone who won’t become their husband or wife.  

    If you meet a lady and find her unattractive or too large, don’t call her back.  Case closed.  Pretty easy.   

    But at the end of the day, the downside to online dating is that it makes use think we have all of these choices and it sometimes makes us judge people that we don’t when we meet them in real life.  It makes us hold out for someone a little more “perfect” even though that doesn’t exist.  I personally have a hard time deciding based on a picture or personal stats if I’d like someone.

  2. 152
    Lucy

    I’m curvy. I have big boobs, big butt, and a tiny waist. I work out and I eat healthily. The fact I have curves is not a problem in attracting men. However I also have a large frame and that could only change if someone shaved down my bones. It’s no secret that men don’t find women with large frames as attractive. Although I’m fit and healthy, many guys will pass me over because of my large frame. 

    There’s some media distortion too. There is no way I could ever have a porn star body and have non-existent hips, disproportionately large boobs and long legs (I’m only 5ft 5″). But that is what is deemed to be the ideal type.

  3. 153
    Julia

    Ok Nicole, I can’t follow you at all, do you find it offensive that I describe myself as curvy?

    I don’t think men are opposed to curvy women in actuality, I think they screen out women who describe themselves as curvy on dating sites because women who are very overweight describe themselves as curvy. Therefore, those of use who are really of a curvy body type who don’t want to be screened out would do better to describe as average, fit, thin etc.

    Unless of course, Nicole, you are saying that at size 8 I am very overweight, which I guess can be at a point of contention, I am not but I am not going to argue you about that.

  4. 154
    Yuri

    I’m going to be honest here.  I’ve had online dating profiles.  They have Slim/Athletic/Average/A few pounds extra and whatever else you want to throw in the mix.

    I am also a size 8/10.  Do I consider myself a few pounds extra? No. I’m average. Why? The average American woman is a size 14. Therefore, I am technically BELOW average.

    To be honest, I have never had a guy complain. I’ve gotten messages that I’m hot, gorgeous, beautiful, whatever. No one ever said that I was above average in size. Everyone said I look just like my pictures, even better. That’s something they said they RARELY ever get to say to women on the dating website I used. I didn’t lie on my page. I was accurate. How can I verify this? Well, every first date I ever went on, I got call backs. 100% success – no lie. Had they been swindled into dating a bigger girl, I probably would not have been called back. Did I swindle them? Absolutely not.

    Honestly, I feel like saying you are a few pounds extra when you are a size 10 is you thinking you are obese.  I am assuming your BMI is healthy and AVERAGE. I rarely see a size 10 female at average height who is overweight.

    If your BMI was say 30, then yes, you would be a few pounds extra.  I entreat you to use the search engine on your dating website and see what the guys look like who use that label on themselves. They are generally overweight. You are not. You are just not slim. There is a difference.

    So please, give yourself some credit. Take into consideration what men and women look like when they label themselves as a few pounds extra. See if you ACTUALLY fit into that category. If not, perhaps you should consider changing it to something more accurate.

    Like I said, I have yet to meet a guy that has been disappointed with buying me dinner. ;)

  5. 155
    Melody

    I say that I’m curvy or a few extra pounds (both are true). I have no trouble getting messages and I have no trouble turning those conversations into dates. Some guys do like curvy women.

  6. 156
    kay

    Iv’e read through most of these responses and am still laughing and shaking my head……wondering, ‘what is wrong with you people?’  lol  

    Just watch the movie, ‘Shallow Hal.’   Melody and some others make a statement that is as true as is the shallower side. 

    I too am curvy with extra pounds…and I never have trouble getting messages nor turning those conversations into dates.

     Matter of fact, they have ended up long term relationships…and the men I’ve gone out with are not jobless, less than intelligent, or unattractive.   But then again….I find that I am attracted to highly intelligent and creative men.  The gym rat type just doesn’t do it for me. 

    Now…that being said, most of the gentlemen I’ve had a ltr with have been in fairly good shape.  That goes with intelligence…taking good care of the body will allow it to continue longer.  I do the same by working out each day and consuming a healthy diet.  

    After listening to the comments made by some of the gentlemen on here regarding ‘fat’ women…well, lets be realistic here.  If it’s such an issue with the whole ‘surface’ thing…then odds are, you’re not looking that deeply for a ltr.  Granted..there are many beautiful, thin women out there who are awesome people, as there are men who are gym rats.   I think, bottom line, if one judges with the eyes, and can’t get beyond the size of the thighs,…. then  what they’re looking for is validation of their self worth viaa societal popularity call.  Nothing wrong with that…just be honest about it and state it as such.  It would make you feel ‘embarrassed’ to be seen in public with a chubbier girl.  Love isn’t really what is going on there.

  7. 157
    E

    S*it this article is wrong. I love love love Curvy women but in the right way. Now days some women consider fat/obese as “curvy”. Fat/obese is just that fat/obese, it does not at all mean curvy. Curvy to me is hourglass shape with slight curves. Now on to curvy on online profiles as for myself I write curvy women and have gone out with several. Curvy women are HOT. Athletic toned, slender, about average doesn’t do it for me. About average there are  a few women that have the kind of curviness but for the most part about average women are not that attractive in my opinion. Athletic/toned and slender are basically the same, pretty skinny, almost skin and bones, the calorie counters. Yeah I of course like healthy but I don’t care for skin and bones at the same time not fat either but just that little bit of extra is awesome!!!   

  8. 158
    Curvilicious Latin

    When I was 45 pounds more than now, I never had problems getting the attention of men (even very fit ones) in any dating site.  In my body type description I used to put “voluptous” (not “curvy” options in there). 
    However, I must admit that after my  body makeover (proud of it), and going from a size  12 to a size 6-8 (depending of the brand),  and having a kind of JLo figure with small waist, flat belly,  nice rounded butt and toned legs;  I got the triple of attention I had before, but…. there is a “but”…. 
    When I was overweight,  most of the guys that contacted me, said that they found me attractive, but they always mentioned that they liked my profile, because I seemed smart, funny, classy and a very cultured lady.     
    After I got more fit, most of the emails I got began like this:  “You´re hot”, “You have an awesome body”, “You look like a model”, “You look incredible young for your age”, “You´re sexy”.. and most of them, didn´t even take the time to read my profile.  Go figure!. 
    I got to a point where I thought I should take my pictures off for a while, because it was getting uncomfortable.   As a woman who consider herself a great catch in terms of personality and talents, to be contacted only for my physical appearance, was becoming a big turn off for me. 
    I´d say Nicci go to the “Average” description, and as she did, put full body pictures to show how she really looks like.
    I think the best presentation card, is to show your best features in a positive way with a nice picture and a “catchy” profile, and let other judges by themselves. 
    However, if someone needs you to fit 100% into a very subjetive (as we all have seen) as curvy, toned, slender description, to be attracted to you.. oh well.. their loss. 

  9. 159
    Brad Cok

    I truly want a curvy woman. Skinney is just not sexy. I don’t care what they list I’ll write to them and take it from there. Some of my best dates were with over weight women. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!!!

  10. 160
    Dk

    I think it has more to do with working with what you’ve got. The woman in the picture above the post appears to be curvy, but you can’t tell me that her in box wouldn’t be flooded with responses from me ( good ones and bad ones).
    If you say that you are curvy, voluptuous, a few extra pounds or whatever and then someone scrolls over to see your photo…. And u look sexy or beautiful they will respond. Period.
    You can’t look frumpy or bland and blame your lack of responses on being “curvy”

  11. 161
    Nikki

    Curvy, overweight women get used because they are starved for love.  These women become meal tickets, and used sexually because they dont get alot and are desparate.  Stop fooling yourself ladies, use the time and money you spend on trying to find the right description for yourself to loving yourself to make healthy choices and cut the weight.  

  12. 162
    researcher

    Nikki 161
    If you got educated on the subject, perhaps you would not be so hostile toward women.
    You really should read about hormone imbalances and realize how blessed you are right now.  When you are older, you unfortunately may be a victim to a hormone imbalance yourself, I hope not.  I study hormone imbalances as part of my job.  Some of these women eat way less than you do and work out just as much and still cannot lose the weight.  Doctors are working on different medicines to try and address the situation.  A lot has to do with insulin resistance, thyroid and d-chiro-inositol in your body.  I don’t expect you to be a medical researcher, but just to assume someone is lazy because they are overweight and that they will give it up for any loser because they are “starved for love” is a very sad assumption.  If you are not the one who someday has one of these hormone imbalances, I guarantee you that one of your close female friends will.  Do you really suggest that a woman who is 30 pounds overweight should not be lovable because you think she is “not loving herself” just because of a medical problem.. for the rest of her life.. just because she really tried and tried and could not lose the weight?  Would you say the same thing to a bald woman in chemo?  She may be loving herself plenty and then she runs into someone with your attitude making it much much harder.

  13. 163
    Lisa K

    I read this blog w/some interest, although I don’t online date and don’t plan to for a reason put out in this post-“heavier people do better in real life than online.” Now, I’m not overweight, but the truth is that by narrowing my search criteria to the type of person I *think* I’m looking for-age, financial security, looks, whatever-I have automatically cut off 95% of the people who *don’t* meet that criteria and yet might make absolutely amazing partners, but would be received exactly as this letter writer receives them. She automatically excludes anyone in job transition or who doesn’t meet society’s criteria for “normal”. No wonder there are so many loveless women out there…

  14. 164
    starthrower68

    @ Researcher you are correct; however, the attitude in our culture toward anyone who doesn’t fit the ideal is like Nikki’s.

  15. 165
    Magdalena

    Nicci!
    Just keep being honest so long as your photos are up to verify your size 10 body – which actually IS average at 5’3″ tall.  Just think, at your height, if you lost 10-15 lbs you’d be a size 6 which is considered “petite”  or “small”.
    The reason for this is because us shorter gals (I am the same height as you) lose sizes faster than tall gals who lose weight.  For example, a woman who is a size 10 at 5’10” would be considered slim.  But it would be harder for her to get into a size 8.  She would have to lose about 10-15 lbs for just one size smaller..whereas you can drop a couple sizes.  (only if you wanted to).  I am making the point that these men who are usually going bald, are bald, or are fat and bald; actually (and often) believe that they deserve Barbie.  It’s true!  The ego of a man is pathetic.  So, my advice is to hold to the truth about yourself and be patient for that one great guy who won’t mind you being “average sized”.  He’s out there…he’s just not the common man. 

    Another thing I would do (but I am brazen) is I would write the profile with my size and photos and then add “and you gents who may be interested; please list your dick size and send me a full body photo naked.  Thank you in advance”!  :) 
    But like I said – I am a brazen bitch.  But I am right.

  16. 166
    Rose

    Is this true?
    I haven’t found this to be true.
    Do men really find skinny women more attractive.
    Give men a picture of Nigella lawson and Gillian mckeath and ask which they find more attractive?
    Marilyn Manroe or Kate moss
    Women are supposed to have sexy curves.
    Anyway my body size is size sexy as my sexiness comes from inside me.
     
     

  17. 167
    Rose

    Reason I feel unimpressed with online dating.
    It focuses on external surface level factors like this.
    When what I am interested in is the inner core values and someones ability to do and be in a deep connected relationship.
    If someone isn’t contacting you because they think you are too fat, is that really someone you would want to be in a relationship with?
    Blessing  in disguise that they haven’t contacted you and you haven’t had to waste any of your time with them.
    Same in real life if someone isn’t approaching you  because they think you are ‘fat’ thank god for that, yes please stay away and don’t engage with me as I wouldn’t want to engage with someone who judged me on my weight.My weight is not who I am

  18. 168
    Danielle

     Okay, this makes sense. But what about profiles that actively omit physical disabilities? I was conversing with what I saw as a nice, polite guy and we moved the conversation to the phone. After several calls, we made plans to meet up.
    When I saw him, he was walking, very slowly, with a cane. He’s had his leg amputated below the knee. While the meeting was pleasant enough, the fact that he hid this issue turned me off completely.
    Evan, the man did not mention any physical issues on his profile, nor in phone conversation. His explanation: “But, that isn’t who I am.” My argument (which I did not broach at the meeting) is, it may not be who you are, but it impacts how your capability to handle and contribute in a relationship.
    I’ve dated men in wheelchairs, so I have no issues with dating disabled men, to a certain degree. What I can’t get over, was the fact that I felt deceived by his omission – especially during the phone calls. I said as much to him in a message later. His response was the same “It isn’t who I am.”
    Your thoughts?

  19. 169
    Forty, Fat & Fab

    I think Evan’s advice was best… not to describe your body at all.  The pics speak for themselves! PS – all you beeshes saying you have J-Lo butts, Pfft. Pics or it didn’t happen!
    I too, have a hard time basing a future opinion of a guy on a photo and some stats.  I’m way more likely to respond to a funny, honest ‘essay’ type of ad done by a guy considering himself ‘average’ looking (or doesn’t describe his looks at all but does use photos), than an almost empty ad placed by a ‘hot’ guy (with what little wording in it being misspelled. Also, ‘hot’ is subjective).
    BTW, I’m 5’5″ and just about as wide (kidding) and have never had a complaint in person.  Online?  I would never describe myself as ‘curvy’ because it’s an outright lie.  Honestly, I look like a Buick as a float in a parade if I try to wear a dress, and I wish all these plus-size websites would stop telling me I should!  Look.  I got a belly, okay? I don’t have great waist definition, and am small-chested. I get told all the time by men all over that I’m cute, sexy, gorgeous, etc., yet most have only seen my face or a shot of me from the chest, up.  Realistically, I could spend my life being miserable trying to lose all the weight (I have tried everything) or I can accept myself as I am—which is healthy (I like to walk, swim, etc.) and sorta pretty—enough to land a guy who I know will like me for me, since I’m far from being a model.
    I realize attraction’s important, but I’m just one of those people who doesn’t place physical attributes as “top qualities” for potential suitors  (except one—I’m weak for dark eyes that sparkle/eyes that smile—they really turn me on).  I think finding someone to banter back and forth with who’s smart and funny, sweet, honest, shares some of my similar tastes and puts up with a spelling Nazi like me—all add up to make the person gorgeous, in my opinion—even if they might be kinda average on the outside, initially.  Not everyone in the world is a stunner, and even that is subjective to you and I.  I’ve met some people in person who I found to be extremely good looking, just not photogenic.  
    For the folks who are listing off things they find unattractive in potential dates, I only wonder how many really good dates you might be missing out on with people who have huge, awesome personalities but happen to be cushy and have cankles or are too ‘skinny’!  Get over yourselves!  I mean, I don’t like how blond or ginger men look (if ever I’m forced to choose), but that doesn’t mean I couldn’t fall for and be swept off my feet by one, if he’s got all the right qualities that make me adore him.  So I keep my mind open. Then again, I might just be one in a million people that feels this way.  Meh.
    I’ve been talking to a man who is super-into me just as I am (and yes, he has a spine and no, he’s not a doormat looking for just any attention).  He thinks my intellect is above anyone else’s whom he knows, that I’m sexy and have a cute baby face and tells me I look 32 even though I just turned 40 in April.  He dug out his guitar recently because our shared taste in music awakened and inspired him to play again and he’s eating healthy because he WANTS to, not because anyone told him he should. He says I challenge his mind, make him smile/feel happy.
    In any case, I’m starting to think dating sites are an effing joke and a waste of time these days. I’m thinking of taking down all my ads anyway, since I really like this guy—he just happens to be long distance, so we’ll see where it takes us.  I prefer to get to know people’s personalities and interests via G+ and go from there. And +1000 to everything Nicole said (#132 & #151).
    Later, I gotta go break through a brick wall (eh, I blame my Kool-Aid Man shape)!

  20. 170
    Beverly C

    I like Evan’s writings, but I have to disagree with this one overall.  “…there’s very little reward for having integrity.”  This is a comment that Evan made about telling the truth in online profiles.  How sad!  The reward for having integrity is being clear inside yourself, isn’t it?  Any situation that punishes integrity is a situation to avoid, in my book.  Also it’s mentioned that women naturally prefer tall, successful men.  The last man I was involved with was tall, successful, also narcissistic and manipulative.  So now I think it’s best to put those qualities kind of low on the list of important ones.  Which is why online dating is weird.  You’re trying to find a good match among people who are misrepresenting themselves, and gauging people on shallow attributes that have nothing to do with successful relating!  “Tall man = honest communicator.”  No correlation.  In that case a short, poor man might work out better!          

  21. 171
    vanessa

    i self-describe as “Curvy,” as well, and it has not been an issue at all…i still get a lot of guys writing and complimenting my looks…i think it is really a myth that men prefer skinny. our culture happens to put more value on that at the moment (though historically, plump was worshipped as a sign of wealth and the ability to luxuriously indulge) but i think men are attracted to all kinds of bodies and i’d rather be honest. if someone is so shallow as to not give a Curvy gal a chance, it’s probably for the best…

  22. 172
    Laurel

    Bullshit!!!
    When I was young and I was really thin for my height (6ft 2), guys hated me for my “lack of curvs” I’m only 22, I gained weight due to medication and haven’t been able to shake it off. If a guy likes you, then he will like you. End of. 
     
    I am honest about my weight with people, but I always tell them why I gained the weight, but if I am honest, I don’t care the opinions of others. I might not be stick thin, but I can script, direct and animate films, better than some of the thinner students in my year. Which to me is a better quality. 
     

  23. 173
    Ed

    This article is good and well written. However, the only thing that most guys look for is what the woman looks like in her pictures. The rest is mostly secondary. I have viewed a handful of profiles of real lookers with awful things written in their profiles that makes me click the back button. But this whole ‘rebranding’ of a woman’s profile is not necessary. I think you provide a good service, but the money a woman would give you to rebrand her profile would be better spent on a personal trainer in most cases.

  24. 174
    hunter

    @ ED #173, Personal trainer!!..Ha, ha.!! how funny, but true, you have made a good point, a mans’ biggest sex organ are his eyes….

  25. 175
    Rose

    I got plenty of men contacting me obviously through photos who had not even bothered to read my profiles.
    I was not interested in the men who did this and weeded them out very quickly. I didn’t want to become involved with  men who were shallow and superficial in that way just looking at my pictures and not bothering to read what I had wriiten. I wanted someone who had more depth to them. 

  26. 176
    Anaserene

    Bev,
    Men want Barbie Dolls, e.g. women with impossible 36-23-36 dimensions.
     
     

  27. 177
    marisa

    i have always been a size 6. i am 5’6″. my doctor put me on medication 2 years ago and now i’m a 12. when i was thinner i had tons of guys asking me out and honestly…they were mostly the bad guys. now that i’ve gained weight the men that ask me out are alot better quality. i have been on a diet to get back to a size 8 because thats how i feel most comfortable. the right guy is out there girl… and he is gonna love all of you not just the size of your booty…goodluck!!

  28. 178
    judy

    I’d just go for it.  I’ve been out of with two rather overweight men – and, although it didn’t work it for different reasons, they were both potentially ok.

  29. 179
    hunter

    @176,
     
    …sure we do, in our fantasies….one reason, why some men can’t find dates….

  30. 180
    Andy

    The obvious problem with the ‘curvy’ classification is that fat women will use them in an attempt to sucker us into dating them.
     
    The solution is to add more variations of the curvy body type in dating sites, such as slim/curvy, average/curvy, and fat/curvy.  A slim curvy woman would be what a guy thinks of when he thinks of a curvaceous beauty with a slim waist and wide hips.  
     
    The fatties probably wouldn’t call themselves slim/curvy.  They probably wouldn’t go with fat/curvy classification either because they know that nobody will date them.  So the fatties would likely quarantine themselves in the average/curvy section.  Knowing this we could filter them out while still enjoying the curves we love.

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