Comments on: Pity the Pretty: An Ode to Attractive Women Who Can’t Find Boyfriends http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/pity-the-pretty-an-ode-to-attractive-women-who-cant-find-boyfriends/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 06:12:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: larry G http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/pity-the-pretty-an-ode-to-attractive-women-who-cant-find-boyfriends/comment-page-3/#comment-255165 larry G Sat, 04 Feb 2012 03:15:50 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/pity-the-pretty-an-ode-to-attractive-women-who-cant-find-boyfriends/#comment-255165 Beauty can be a CURSE. My family is filled with beautiful gals and i have witnessed the pitfalls . I have dated some great looking woman over the years and since she has a laundry list of possibilities you never know where you stand.   We are drawn to beauty life a moth to a flame and its something that we - us guys secretly want.   "If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life Never make a pretty women your wife Go for my personal point of view Get an ugly girl to marry you" A player wants a trophy and the shy guy is afraid to approach her . No win there for the beautiful women. The first thing that thinks about you is your beauty and never what's inside- integrity. Look for the guy who can get past your looks sometimes and treats you like a queen. He's the one to keep. Look for the diamond in the ruff who appreciates that you gave him the time of day.  Gratitude can last a life time.    Beauty can be a CURSE. My family is filled with beautiful gals and i have witnessed the pitfalls . I have dated some great looking woman over the years and since she has a laundry list of possibilities you never know where you stand.  

We are drawn to beauty life a moth to a flame and its something that we – us guys secretly want. 

 ”If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty women your wife
Go for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you”

A player wants a trophy and the shy guy is afraid to approach her . No win there for the beautiful women. The first thing that thinks about you is your beauty and never what’s inside- integrity.

Look for the guy who can get past your looks sometimes and treats you like a queen. He’s the one to keep.

Look for the diamond in the ruff who appreciates that you gave him the time of day. 

Gratitude can last a life time.   

]]> By: Miranda http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/pity-the-pretty-an-ode-to-attractive-women-who-cant-find-boyfriends/comment-page-3/#comment-249948 Miranda Sat, 21 Jan 2012 03:32:35 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/pity-the-pretty-an-ode-to-attractive-women-who-cant-find-boyfriends/#comment-249948 Eh, I don't know. I am generally considered very attractive. I have done some modeling, people tend to effuse about my appearance a lot.   I will admit, its difficult for me to meet men unless I am out drinking... I think partially because I'm very shy without a couple drinks and so I come off as aloof to most people. However, once I get a first date, I ALWAYS get a second date and I have no problem at all turning a date into a relationship.  In fact, I usually have the opposite problem where I am the one who just wants sex and they wind up wanting a relationship. Then again, I think part of this is that I really won't go out with guys unless I feel like I have some chemistry with them ahead of time.   Like some people have suggested, maybe you just need to loosen up a bit and not be so withholding. I pretty much always have sex on the first date, sometimes I even have sex before having a date. I just try to really put my personality out there and let guys know that I might look pretty but I'm actually just a huge nerd. I also dress pretty modestly and don't pile on tons of makeup until I am in a steady relationship.   I think you just have to focus on emphasizing your personality and maybe pick the right look. Guys just wanna screw "hot" girls, but they fall in love with "beautiful" girls. Don't be afraid to seem a little vulnerable... it will make you less intimidating. I tend to play up my nerdiness/social awkwardness a bit and for whatever reason guys go for it. Eh, I don’t know. I am generally considered very attractive. I have done some modeling, people tend to effuse about my appearance a lot.
 
I will admit, its difficult for me to meet men unless I am out drinking… I think partially because I’m very shy without a couple drinks and so I come off as aloof to most people. However, once I get a first date, I ALWAYS get a second date and I have no problem at all turning a date into a relationship.  In fact, I usually have the opposite problem where I am the one who just wants sex and they wind up wanting a relationship. Then again, I think part of this is that I really won’t go out with guys unless I feel like I have some chemistry with them ahead of time.
 
Like some people have suggested, maybe you just need to loosen up a bit and not be so withholding. I pretty much always have sex on the first date, sometimes I even have sex before having a date. I just try to really put my personality out there and let guys know that I might look pretty but I’m actually just a huge nerd. I also dress pretty modestly and don’t pile on tons of makeup until I am in a steady relationship.
 
I think you just have to focus on emphasizing your personality and maybe pick the right look. Guys just wanna screw “hot” girls, but they fall in love with “beautiful” girls. Don’t be afraid to seem a little vulnerable… it will make you less intimidating. I tend to play up my nerdiness/social awkwardness a bit and for whatever reason guys go for it.

]]> By: Gabe Asher http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/pity-the-pretty-an-ode-to-attractive-women-who-cant-find-boyfriends/comment-page-3/#comment-249015 Gabe Asher Thu, 19 Jan 2012 07:44:40 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/pity-the-pretty-an-ode-to-attractive-women-who-cant-find-boyfriends/#comment-249015 An overlooked factor, the bitch shield. We've all seen it, fought it, even laughed at it. Most truly hot chicks develop a bitch shield early in life out of necesity. It's the easiest way out of pick-up attempt. They know if they give one nice smile, or re-engage the conversation, the guy will never leave.. . A strange phenomenon I witness is average looking chicks with bitch shields. Not a good program for her. She has envied really hot chicks and has chosen to act them, not realizing the hot chick does it out of necesity. So now you have an average looking chick with a bitch shield. She's screwed, whereas a super hot girl with a bitch shield will STILL get action. . Another thing that happens is when a hot girl loses her sexual power as she ages, but doesn't drop the bitch shield because she is so used to it. This is a downward spiral of bitterness as she gets approached less, making her more bitter, and more bitch face etc. Very common among aging beauties. An overlooked factor, the bitch shield. We’ve all seen it, fought it, even laughed at it. Most truly hot chicks develop a bitch shield early in life out of necesity. It’s the easiest way out of pick-up attempt. They know if they give one nice smile, or re-engage the conversation, the guy will never leave..
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A strange phenomenon I witness is average looking chicks with bitch shields. Not a good program for her. She has envied really hot chicks and has chosen to act them, not realizing the hot chick does it out of necesity. So now you have an average looking chick with a bitch shield. She’s screwed, whereas a super hot girl with a bitch shield will STILL get action.
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Another thing that happens is when a hot girl loses her sexual power as she ages, but doesn’t drop the bitch shield because she is so used to it. This is a downward spiral of bitterness as she gets approached less, making her more bitter, and more bitch face etc. Very common among aging beauties.

]]> By: Gabe Asher http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/pity-the-pretty-an-ode-to-attractive-women-who-cant-find-boyfriends/comment-page-3/#comment-248991 Gabe Asher Thu, 19 Jan 2012 06:19:19 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/pity-the-pretty-an-ode-to-attractive-women-who-cant-find-boyfriends/#comment-248991 Pretty women have more choices, but less options. Most people fall into the 4-6 range, which makes them average. This gives people in that range a LOT of choices for potential mates. A woman who is a 9-10 is only going to date another 9-10, making her options nearly non-existent, as there are many more hot chicks than high value dudes. . Respect. Tough to be a chick. Hot or not. Pretty women have more choices, but less options. Most people fall into the 4-6 range, which makes them average. This gives people in that range a LOT of choices for potential mates. A woman who is a 9-10 is only going to date another 9-10, making her options nearly non-existent, as there are many more hot chicks than high value dudes.
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Respect. Tough to be a chick. Hot or not.

]]> By: Ron Diggity http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/pity-the-pretty-an-ode-to-attractive-women-who-cant-find-boyfriends/comment-page-3/#comment-237729 Ron Diggity Tue, 03 Jan 2012 02:51:51 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/pity-the-pretty-an-ode-to-attractive-women-who-cant-find-boyfriends/#comment-237729 This article really struck a personal chord with me.  People never really understand how hard life can be for us ridiculously attractive people : ( But the practical person in me says that less attractive people have many of the same "you'll never know" worries, as well as a whole host of others - and they don't get to drown their sorrows in free vacations to the Carribean and VIP treatment at the hottest clubs. I also compeltely disagree that men want to bag celebrities b/c they are famous. They more simply due b/c they are attractive.  Women on the other hand put more stock in that social status thing. I'm proud of Evan pointing out that attractive women are often socially handicapped from a life of preferential treatment.  Really, most all women are to some degree, but perfect 10's? To be honest, I don't know how they could escape it. This article really struck a personal chord with me.  People never really understand how hard life can be for us ridiculously attractive people : (

But the practical person in me says that less attractive people have many of the same “you’ll never know” worries, as well as a whole host of others – and they don’t get to drown their sorrows in free vacations to the Carribean and VIP treatment at the hottest clubs.

I also compeltely disagree that men want to bag celebrities b/c they are famous. They more simply due b/c they are attractive.  Women on the other hand put more stock in that social status thing.

I’m proud of Evan pointing out that attractive women are often socially handicapped from a life of preferential treatment.  Really, most all women are to some degree, but perfect 10′s? To be honest, I don’t know how they could escape it.

]]> By: Rachel http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/pity-the-pretty-an-ode-to-attractive-women-who-cant-find-boyfriends/comment-page-3/#comment-231076 Rachel Mon, 26 Dec 2011 17:08:16 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/pity-the-pretty-an-ode-to-attractive-women-who-cant-find-boyfriends/#comment-231076 I am not attractive and a lot of guys I meet only want to sleep with me. There are a lot of guys out there like that. I am not attractive and a lot of guys I meet only want to sleep with me. There are a lot of guys out there like that.

]]> By: Fabiola Martinez http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/pity-the-pretty-an-ode-to-attractive-women-who-cant-find-boyfriends/comment-page-3/#comment-220723 Fabiola Martinez Fri, 16 Dec 2011 00:43:39 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/pity-the-pretty-an-ode-to-attractive-women-who-cant-find-boyfriends/#comment-220723 Oh my god! So everywhere is the same thing! I'm in Mexico, not having dates so often now, due the same reason.  What to do then?  I'll read all the comments though.  Kind regards, Evan. Oh my god! So everywhere is the same thing! I’m in Mexico, not having dates so often now, due the same reason.  What to do then?  I’ll read all the comments though.  Kind regards, Evan.

]]> By: Saint Stephen http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/pity-the-pretty-an-ode-to-attractive-women-who-cant-find-boyfriends/comment-page-3/#comment-220711 Saint Stephen Fri, 16 Dec 2011 00:31:12 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/pity-the-pretty-an-ode-to-attractive-women-who-cant-find-boyfriends/#comment-220711 @<strong>Goldie </strong>U're right and i agree with you that is completely shitty to bang an attractive girl for bragging sake. But you seem to forgetting something, and that is who this attractive women date. Extrapolating based on my anecdotal experience, I've always seen a scenario where this attractive women select the best looking blokes even with little or no regards to the man's character. Hey i'm not saying anything is wrong with an attractive women selecting an equally attractive male, but the problem is the attractive women by far outnumber attractive men. And for every above average attractive guy their are 10 equally above average attractive women like that for him- all seeking to date him. If he's only gonna marry one then the rest becomes notches added to his belt. That been said. I have a friend who seems to be every woman's desire. He's 6 2" tall, very attractive and solidly built. He takes his pick from the best looking women and changes them like pack of cards, month after months (Of course this are women most men will love and adore and would even cringe at the thought of gambling with their hearts). It came a day i called him out on his behavior towards women, and he responded by saying, what's his business if they all want to be with an attractive dude. He ended the conversation by telling me that they all turn into his rabbit post-banging. Sad but true, as the women all seem happy and smily the first month but look sad and gloomy by the second. Not trying to sound harsh but whenever i see a pretty woman sniveling about lack of boyfriend i immediately envisage a shallow woman who selects men based on looks- not character.  @Goldie
U’re right and i agree with you that is completely shitty to bang an attractive girl for bragging sake.

But you seem to forgetting something, and that is who this attractive women date. Extrapolating based on my anecdotal experience, I’ve always seen a scenario where this attractive women select the best looking blokes even with little or no regards to the man’s character. Hey i’m not saying anything is wrong with an attractive women selecting an equally attractive male, but the problem is the attractive women by far outnumber attractive men. And for every above average attractive guy their are 10 equally above average attractive women like that for him- all seeking to date him. If he’s only gonna marry one then the rest becomes notches added to his belt.

That been said. I have a friend who seems to be every woman’s desire. He’s 6 2″ tall, very attractive and solidly built. He takes his pick from the best looking women and changes them like pack of cards, month after months (Of course this are women most men will love and adore and would even cringe at the thought of gambling with their hearts).
It came a day i called him out on his behavior towards women, and he responded by saying, what’s his business if they all want to be with an attractive dude.
He ended the conversation by telling me that they all turn into his rabbit post-banging. Sad but true, as the women all seem happy and smily the first month but look sad and gloomy by the second.

Not trying to sound harsh but whenever i see a pretty woman sniveling about lack of boyfriend i immediately envisage a shallow woman who selects men based on looks- not character. 

]]> By: Goldie http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/pity-the-pretty-an-ode-to-attractive-women-who-cant-find-boyfriends/comment-page-3/#comment-220546 Goldie Thu, 15 Dec 2011 21:12:44 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/pity-the-pretty-an-ode-to-attractive-women-who-cant-find-boyfriends/#comment-220546 @ Michael #128, see this is exactly what the problem is, or at least part of the problem. Very attractive women are being stereotyped. People see a very attractive woman and automatically assume things about her, not all of them good. That's one thing. Another, back to your comment, there's nothing wrong with sex, I'm sure very attractive women want it too, but problem is, some people treat them as status symbols. People would try to have sex, or some semblance of a relationship, with a very attractive woman, not because they like her as a person, not because they think she's a good match for them as a person, but for bragging rights, so they can later tell their friends "I banged a hot chick". This, IMO, is the really crappy part.   Of course, we're all being stereotyped in one way or the other, pretty girls are no exception. No one has it easy. @ Michael #128, see this is exactly what the problem is, or at least part of the problem. Very attractive women are being stereotyped. People see a very attractive woman and automatically assume things about her, not all of them good. That’s one thing. Another, back to your comment, there’s nothing wrong with sex, I’m sure very attractive women want it too, but problem is, some people treat them as status symbols. People would try to have sex, or some semblance of a relationship, with a very attractive woman, not because they like her as a person, not because they think she’s a good match for them as a person, but for bragging rights, so they can later tell their friends “I banged a hot chick”. This, IMO, is the really crappy part.
 
Of course, we’re all being stereotyped in one way or the other, pretty girls are no exception. No one has it easy.

]]> By: Michael http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/pity-the-pretty-an-ode-to-attractive-women-who-cant-find-boyfriends/comment-page-3/#comment-220531 Michael Thu, 15 Dec 2011 20:46:32 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/pity-the-pretty-an-ode-to-attractive-women-who-cant-find-boyfriends/#comment-220531 LOL... I have NO sympathy for the pretty woman's "struggles." Any woman can make herself look less pretty. If she's tired of being treated as a sex object, then she should simply make herself less attractive. That way, she won't have to worry about the special treatment "issues." In my opinion, most attractive women want to have their cake and eat it, too. They want to wear clothing that accentuates their curves, yet they will complain when the "wrong" man stares at them. They flirt with male suitors, yet they will lament when men seduce them. I could go on... The truth is: men carry approximately 20X more testosterone than women, so men are just being...men. We're sexual creatures. We think about sex all day long. Constantly. Pretty women know this--and that's why they dress sexy and excude flirtatiousness. They know it's all about wielding power over men. LOL…

I have NO sympathy for the pretty woman’s “struggles.”

Any woman can make herself look less pretty. If she’s tired of being treated as a sex object, then she should simply make herself less attractive. That way, she won’t have to worry about the special treatment “issues.”

In my opinion, most attractive women want to have their cake and eat it, too.

They want to wear clothing that accentuates their curves, yet they will complain when the “wrong” man stares at them.

They flirt with male suitors, yet they will lament when men seduce them.

I could go on…

The truth is: men carry approximately 20X more testosterone than women, so men are just being…men. We’re sexual creatures. We think about sex all day long. Constantly.

Pretty women know this–and that’s why they dress sexy and excude flirtatiousness. They know it’s all about wielding power over men.

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