Comments on: Seriously, How Old is Your Primary Photo on Your Dating Profile?

By: hamsterdance

hamsterdance — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 02:44:27 +0000

I don’t have an active profile right now, but all of my pics are from the last year. The most recent one was my Halloween costume. I do have a couple of full body or from the knees up shots as well.

By: Angela

Angela — Sat, 09 May 2009 02:22:48 +0000

Mine are less than 6 months old. Yes the old bait and switch. I am leery of the single photo. I like to see at least 4 photos,including one full body shot. . What are people thinking? What do they say when they show up on the first date? I would tell the person that they misrepresented themselves and leave! Generally, I ask if the photo is recent. One guy said no , it was 6 years old and I asked him to send me a recent one. Five days later he sent it, BIG difference. He was much heavier and looked much older. Needless to say we never met .

By: John

John — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 15:44:33 +0000

I met a woman online abour 5 years ago. She didn’t look at all like her profile pic. When I asked her how old her photo was she told me “about 10 years, but I stlill look the same”. Not quite. Five years later, she is still on the dating site and using the SAME photo.

I learned….look for profiles with at least two photos taken at different times. And a profile with only head shots, the person is probably hiding something.

By: Joanna

Joanna — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 20:07:02 +0000

I’m impressed with all the posters here and their up to date photos.

I’ve often noticed that some people age more quickly than they might think. A lot of people over 35 can put on 10 lbs in just a year, and not everyone carries their weight well. 10 lbs a year is just 100 calories extra a day – and 100 calories is a quarter of a cinnamon danish!

I’m a fan of putting up lots of up to date pictures, but, as a women I find the age requirement a problem. Why not let people put their age in the profile if they chose to, but give an age range in the sections that go through a search engine?

As long as your picture is up to date, this would result in fewer women having to fake their age so they’ll actually turn up in a search. After all, some women do work hard on maintaining their figures, and they won’t get a chance to even be seen if they admit they are over 40.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 22:42:30 +0000

@Cilla,
I agree with A-L. Most people assume that if you don’t have a full-body shot posted then you are hiding something. You may not feel inclined to pander to this fear, but it may cause you to unnecessarily miss out on a good match.

By: A-L

A-L — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 00:14:54 +0000

Cilla,

Do you have a digital camera with a self-timer (or access to one)? That way you can take shot after shot of yourself, without annoying your friends, until you get the picture you want. Just use a tripod or set it on a stable surface (counter, bookshelf, etc). I think by having a good full-body shot available, it will definitely help your prospects.

By: Rachelle

Rachelle — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 22:39:51 +0000

All my photos are taken within the year. (2008)

I try to take new ones every 3 months or so.

I am surprised to hear guy friends stories of meeting up with someone who doesn’t look like their photo. I truly do not understand this and what the person who posts older pics is thinking. Usually my guy friends end up feeling deceived and cut the date short if not walk out.

By: JuJu

JuJu — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 22:15:56 +0000

Oh, and the verbal descriptions aren’t worth crap, in my experience.

Not saying that all this applies to you personally, but this just might be the way others take it.

By: JuJu

JuJu — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 21:51:41 +0000

Well, Cilla and others, based on my own disappointment from all the ways people misrepresent themselves (one guy turned out to be at least 100 lb heavier than he was in his 5-year-old pic, for example), I have come to consider these omissions or lack of recent and clear photographs as disrespect for my time. (Well, that of everyone those people deal with online.)

By: moonsical

moonsical — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 20:06:45 +0000

If I have a shot that includes all of my I post it. I don’t see the big deal with that. I don’t think that gets the “wrong” men any more excited. Lol.

moon