Here’s the downside of writing blog posts six weeks in advance.
I heard about this story in which a woman – a 27-year-old US medical student named Elizabeth Raine planned to auction off her virginity to the highest bidder.
But in between the time I discovered this and then blogged about it, the whole thing ended up unraveling.
Turns out her real name is Hanna Kern.
You think sex is going to be life changing and transformative, yet it’s just another fun physical act that can bring you to orgasm.
Turns out she really did want to sell her virginity to pay for medical school.
Turns out that the bidders – who went up to $801,000 – didn’t actually have any money.
Turns out that she pulled the plug on the experiment when it turned out that it wasn’t going to work.
Turns out she’s started a new blog, Musings of a Virgin Whore.
So what do we make of this mess? Well, I think that apart from Ms. Kern’s questionable methodology, it’s a very personal decision about what virginity means and the value we place upon it. There are awkward men who pay for prostitutes to get it over with. There are men and women who are waiting for love before having sex. There are college kids who just want to devirginize themselves but haven’t found any takers (I was one of them until age 19). There are guys like the 22-year-old Santa Barbara murderer who feel their virginity hanging over their heads as prominently as a Scarlet V. And, of course, there are the people whose decision is religious – yet there aren’t as many as you think, since 97% of people have had premarital sex.
It’s a very personal decision about what virginity means and the value we place upon it.
Despite what some Christians have written to me in previous posts about virginity, I don’t judge anyone for not having sex. It’s a personal decision. Just know that if you’re an adult looking for someone who hasn’t had premarital sex, you’ve reduced your dating pool to 3% of the population – and that’s before you’ve considered things like looks, intelligence, money, compatibility, communication, and yes, sexual compatibility. God bless you virgins for your convictions, but you’re making your job a lot harder than it has to be.
As almost everyone else who has had sex has already figured out – sex just isn’t that big a deal. You think it’s going to be life changing and transformative, yet it’s just another fun physical act that can bring you to orgasm. When you create LIFE, sex takes on a greater importance, but recreationally, it’s just one of many things you will end up doing with your spouse when you’re married for 40 years. Might as well get some practice with other people before you lock it in.
But what do I know? I’m just a slut with a blog.
Anyway, what are your thoughts about the value of virginity? Should women value it so much? Should men value it in women? Would you consent to sex with the highest bidder if you were being paid $800,000? I sure would…