Should I Disclose the Number of Sexual Partners I’ve Had In the Past?

Should I Disclose the Number of Sexual Parthners I've Had In the Past?

I’ve been reading for a while, and I find myself hopping on your blog whenever I meet a new guy or am faced with a new situation. But have yet to find something to address my question, given all the differences in the way men and women view sex and relationships and communication: What are the rules about disclosing your number of sexual partners and should it matter?

Now of course I think about this more so in a safety sense, not that I need to know how many girls a guy has slept with but more so I want to know that he is safe for me to sleep with. Inevitably though, this question of numbers comes up and I always hate when my number is higher than his or significantly lower. I know it sounds silly but it’s hard to know what a man is thinking when you share this type of thing. Is it better to just keep it to yourself? Do numbers really matter?

Megan

Dear Megan,

LOVE YOU for asking this question. As always, my opinion is just my opinion. Feel free to disagree. (And I know you will!)

So, like the whole “Who Pays” thing, there are different rules for men and women. Mainly because the sexual double standard is alive and well. I don’t endorse this. I report this.

The average number of partners a man purports to have in a lifetime is around 11. The average number of partners a woman purports to have is closer to 6. Of course, this is not true.

Says Dr. Norman Brown of the University of Alberta:

“Every time a man has sex with a woman, a woman has to have sex with a man. So either there are some very lucky joes out there or someone is not getting their numbers right,” Brown said.

I know I haven’t answered your question, Megan, but I thought I would puncture a hole in the “men are promiscuous/women are chaste” thing. If a man’s sleeping with a woman, a woman’s sleeping with a man and everybody’s numbers are going up. So there.

And as far as I’m concerned it is NOBODY’S BUSINESS HOW MANY PEOPLE YOU’VE SLEPT WITH.

And as far as I’m concerned it is NOBODY’S BUSINESS HOW MANY PEOPLE YOU’VE SLEPT WITH.

Similarly, it’s none of your business how many people he’s slept with. This is a classic “don’t ask, don’t tell” situation, on par with “Are you dating anyone else right now?” and “Have you ever had a drug fueled orgy with six Polynesian dwarves?” If you say yes, you’ve got a lot of explaining to do, and frankly, you shouldn’t have to explain….

Before you jump all over me, this is not the same as “Do you have any STDs?” That is a pointed and specific health-related question, where full disclosure is essential. But some guy can sleep with 100 women and not get herpes and some woman can go down on one guy and get herpes. And although one’s odds certainly do go up with multiple sexual partners, a number doesn’t necessarily reveal any greater truths.

Take me. I’ve had a pretty decent single run (more than 10, less than Wilt Chamberlain), but have NEVER had unprotected sex with a non-girlfriend. Is that better or worse than a guy who has slept with eight women but never used a condom?

I recall one well-meaning woman who asked me on our first date what my “number” was. I laughed and told her it was none of her business. She playfully said that she could handle it. I playfully told her that it was irrelevant: I was with her at this moment, and my past history bore little relevance. The more I refused to answer, the more she dug in. Finally, she said, “Whatever you say, it won’t bother me. As long as the number is less than X.” And when I gave her a look that revealed that her guesstimate was low, her jaw dropped. Way to not judge me!

Years ago, my best friend went out with a woman in her mid-30’s who confessed that she’d been with over 30 men in her life. My friend FREAKED out, because his number was lower than hers, and because he couldn’t bear to picture her being pounded by 30 different guys. I told him he was being ridiculous. If this woman was never married, never dated a guy for more than a year, and was exclusive with a new boyfriend every six months, she will easily top 30 men at that age. Sleeping with fifteen people in the year after your divorce is a lot more promiscuous than sleeping with thirty people in your whole life.

Thus, a man has no right to know your number, lest he judge you by a different standard than he judges himself. If he insists, give him a little white lie. It’s none of his business and he doesn’t deserve the truth. Seriously. As long as you’re not sleeping with anyone while you’re dating him, whatever you did in your past is between you and your conscience.

As long as you’re not sleeping with anyone while you’re dating him, whatever you did in your past is between you and your conscience.

So Megan, it’s not that numbers don’t matter. It’s that they can be deceiving. Questions about numbers only beget more questions and create more insecurity. The only thing you need to know about his sexual past is whether he’s disease free. If he is, judge him for his merits, his efforts towards you, and how he treats you.

But certainly don’t get on his case because he had a successful sex life for the fifteen adult years before he met you.

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  1. 61
    Kurt S.

    All guys care about how many men a women has slept with if they are contemplating marriage.  No man wants to marry a promiscuous woman.  Women would be well-advised to not sleep around.

    1. 61.1
      HI

      that’s a generalization, but i would prefer not to marry a promiscuous man either.

  2. 62
    Denise

    Women would be well-advised to not sleep around.

    Love the double standard.  That’s the criteria for deciding to marry someone?

    How would a man even know how many men a woman slept with  unless she told him?  And why would she tell him?  Why is it anyone’s business?

    Was reading a question/answer from Evan on this recently.  About a woman who was on line dating and dating men for a period of time each time, and sleeping with them.  She was concerned about that.  He put it in very good perspective.

  3. 63
    Selena

    “Love the double standard.” Right, LOL. Who are the women sleeping around with for God’s sake? Oh yeah…men! Shouldn’t they be well-advised not to sleep around also? Shaking head, shaking head.

  4. 64
    Brian

    Enough of the stupidity and idealism.
    Truth,  if anyone intends to spend the rest of their life with another person then it IS THEIR BUSINESS if they determine that they need to know in order to make such a serious decision.
    The number DOES matter.  Sorry for everyone to hear this but it is true.  A persons past is the ONLY thing we can use to predict the future behaviors of that person.  This is the entire principle of statistics.  Try investing in the stock market with the mentality of “its the past it doesn’t matter.”  In law we call it precedence.  Everything you need to know about a person is told in their past.  It may not always tell the future but it is a hell of a lot more accurate than a wish and a prayer.
    If you do not want to tell someone perhaps you need to re-evaluate your lifestyle choices.
    Its not any more a double standard then a woman expecting a man to pay for a date and then claim to be equal.  Its biology.  Deny it all you want it does not change the truth.  No man wants a long term relationship with a slutty woman and is why all women either do not want to tell or lie about this.

    1. 64.1
      Evan Marc Katz

      Once again, readers get it wrong.

      “No man wants an LTR with a slutty woman?” Really? I suppose if you’re sexually insecure, sexually inexperienced or a total hypocrite this might be the case.

      But if I’ve been around the block a few times, who the hell am I to judge her for doing the exact same thing? Get off your high horse. The concept of the good girl who is pristine until she meets you – and then she becomes a porn star – is pure fantasy.

      I’d MUCH rather have a slutty wife than a never-been-touched one. The virgins are all yours, Brian!

    2. 64.2
      HI

      excellent answer Brian! that’s exactly the same perspective i share and what i have been emphasizing. if you don’t want to tell someone your “body count” maybe you should re-evaluate your lifestyle or find someone who share’s the same lifestyle/therefore more accepting or is more open-minded. “honesty is the best policy.”

  5. 65
    Katarina Phang

    Great one, Evan and I can’t be prouder when my lovers tell me how much a slut I am.  They’re loving it and they know how flattered I am too when they call me that LOL…
     
    My man even said that with other women calling them a whore will be an insult, but with me it’s a compliment.  And he has no qualm calling me that during our lovemaking. :)

  6. 66
    Terri

    Very interesting and thought provoking question and very thoughtful and intelligent answers.  This is a wonderful blog.
    IMO, the health of your partner is currently most important.  I like to think that most of us become more mature with age.  The number of sex partners in late teens and early/mid twenties hopefully lessens with the years.
    Current attitude and values are what counts – not past numbers.
    When you take the risk of responding to “how many?”, you never know what your partner really wants to hear.  Consequently, it is better off not being answered just like “How old do you think I am?”
    You do not lie to either of these questions but you should not respond to them if you care about the person who asked them.

  7. 67
    The_Soothsayer

    My advice to all young people, is raise the topic and discuss it openly and truthfully on the first or second date, DO NOT LIE, no matter how smitten you are with the guy, as it will come back to bite you. DON’T LEAVE IT ANY LONGER! If you lie, you are admitting that you feel very guilty about being promiscuous. Lets face the fact, it was your choice, so your future partner has to accept you worts and all. But at leasts he will know all the facts before proceeding to a long term relationship with you. If it doesn’t matter to him, great, nothing is lost, he will love you more for being truthful. If it does, I can tell you now, it is going to save you a lot of heartbreak. I know this after over 30 years of marriage to someone who lied. It has hung like a shadow over what otherwise would have been a great marriage. Move on to another guy before you get serious!

  8. 68
    chiefnavarro

    i find this to be a bit retarded, if you intend to spend the rest of your life together it is very much your partners business to know what you did and who you did it with. Of course maybe in this day and age when most marriages fail and single mothers are the norm its nobodies business but i for one intend on having a healthy relationship. its biologically ingrained in men to sleep with as many women as possible especially at an early age and also to not use resources on a women that gets around, our brains develop differently at a young age while a women brain and men hit their hormonal sexual peak at around 19 while women hit it right before menopause. When you take this into account traditional roles of the women resisting sex till marriage seems to make a lot of sense. with that being said it goes against the basic nature of being a male to be with a girl thats been around and it has nothing to do with maturity, insecurity or anything of that nature it is simply biological preference especially for a man with options

    1. 68.1
      HI

      I would prefer not to be with a man who slept around either.

  9. 69
    Jadafisk

    Okay. But brace yourself for the distinct possibility that the sexually conservative woman you desire is very likely to see the high number you racked up during your youth as undesirable and frightening. Most exceedingly sexually conservative women are religious, and the texts that govern sexual behavior see both female and male promiscuity as  immoral. She *will* probably accept a number that’s higher than her own, especially if you’re sufficiently contrite about it, but definitely not a “got around”-type number. 

    Women who believe that men are naturally inclined to sleep around are usually women who habitually involve themselves with cheaters – not healthy relationships at all.

  10. 70
    Karl R

    chiefnavarro said: (#69)
    “it goes against the basic nature of being a male to be with a girl thats been around and it has nothing to do with maturity, insecurity or anything of that nature it is simply biological preference especially for a man with options”

    You prefer women who have no experience in bed? I prefer women who have developed some skills. It makes the sex a lot more fun.

    I’m especially confused by your claim that this is “simply biological preference.” Biologically speaking, if I want to reproduce, I should attempt to procreate with fertile women. The women who are most obviously fertile are women who have already produced a healthy child.

    So if you’re truly being driven by biology (and not insecurity), you should be chasing single mothers.

  11. 71
    Rob

    A person’s attitude about sex, specifically about engaging in non-married sexual intercourse, do have a corellation with a person’s overall attitudes about relationships, world view, and concepts of moral relativism.  

    I’ll the political football of abortion as an example — if you know the position of Politician X on abortion, in most instances, you know his position on the death penalty, govenment mandated health care, gun control, and the food stamp program without ever asking about those particular issues.  If Politician X is in favor of abortion on demand w/o any restrictions, most likely Politician X will be against the death penalty, for government mandated health care, for gun control, and for expanding the food stamp program. If Politician X is against abortion in most or all situations, most likely Politician X will be for the death penalty, against government mandated health care, against gun control, and will support attempts to reduce the number of people on food stamps. Of course, not all politicians follow the conventional pattern, yet a strong corellation of “what does Politician X think about issue Y, based on his views on abortion” can be found.

    Now, back to the topic at hand.  Some individuals whose total number of sex partners is more than double their age turn over a new leaf, get married, and turn out to be wonderful husbands and wives who never again even entertain the thought of having sex with anyone other than their spouse.  And some people who were virgins ont their wedding day, or maybe had sex one time on prom night, or only had one sex partner in their life who happened to be a steady boy/girlfriend back in college and that was 12 years ago, turn over a new leaf, get married, and turn out to be horrible spouses who regularly cheat on their spouse.  But we both know that neither of those scenarios are commonplace.  The general rule is that people who have a storied past regarding the number of sex partners they have had tend to be bad candidates for comitted long-term relationships.  To a degree, the people who ask the “how many” question are simply seeking a barometor to determine if they want to let themselves get serious about this guy (or gal) or if they should just move along. 

  12. 72
    Emmanuel

    I agree with “downtowngal” 100%. As long as it’s for the right reasons and if there is a covenant future in marriage then yes. I’m a 21 year old male and I’ve had one past sexual partner, I’m single at present and I have no interest in sharing myself with anyone else before marriage.

    (Personally sexual history is the last thing I’ll even want to know. most women always pre-judge me to be a promiscuous man, so the sexual history question is always inevitable in my case and I’m not a very serious person so I might first say something silly like I’ve only had 12 partners no biggie haha as a joke and then reveal the truth) 

  13. 73
    Docman

    I believe that in a serious relationship, one has the right to know the “number” of their partner.  Many STD’s are not easy to detect, such as many strains of Human Papilloma Virus.  The more sexual partners without condoms one has had, the greater the risks of having multiple types of HPV, many of which can cause penile cancer, cervical cancer, genital warts, etc.  In my current relationship, my girlfriend lied the first few times she told me (I did not ask, she voluntarily gave this information), and each time the “number” kept increasing.  They say you can double what a woman says to get the right number, and cut in half what a man says to get the right number, and my girlfriend first told me “8″, and the true number is around “15″.  I can’t say I am happy my girlfriend decided to confess her threesome in high school, multiple one night stands, lack of condom use, abortion at age 20 after a one night stand, etc.  The chances that my girlfriend has HPV with 15 unprotected sex partners is about one hundred percent.

    I also completely agree with Rob #72.  In general, the more promiscuous one has been in the past, the less likely they will remain faithful in their next relationship for very long.  My girlfriend was married and committed adultery with me, has had 15 unprotected sex partners, multiple one night stands, thressomes, etc.  How long do you think it will be before another guy is pounding her?

     So knowing the number of previous sex partners is a useful tool to gauge the likelihood of STD’s, especially the number of unprotected sex partners, and also is a moral compass to gauge the likelihood they will be faithful to you long term. I will never forget talking to her husband on the phone after he found out his wife was cheating with me, telling me “she cheated on me, I promise you some day the little slut will cheat on you too”.  

  14. 74
    Still Looking

    Docman – Wow, you sound pretty bitter about your GF’s sexual history.  I find it very ironic that you are judging her, and foreseeing her cheating on you, when you were a willing participant in committing adultery with her while she was married.

    You stated that the number of unprotected sex partners is a moral compass to gauge the likelihood that a partner will be faithful to you in the long term.  What are you basing this assumption on?  Whether I’ve had 2 or 20 sexual partners in the last year has zero impact on whether I will cheat  once I enter into an exclusive relationship.   

  15. 75
    saint stephen

    Still looking Said (#75)
    You stated that the number of unprotected sex partners is a moral compass to gauge the likelihood that a partner will be faithful to you in the long term.  What are you basing this assumption on?  Whether I’ve had 2 or 20 sexual partners in the last year has zero impact on whether I will cheat  once I enter into an exclusive relationship.  
    it is not an assumption is a fact, because is shows their attitude towards sex, and just like an earlier commentator said, is called “precedence” most things you need to know about someone is always told in their past. even their sexual attitude.
    studies did also prove that the more promiscuous someone is (especially females), the less inclined he/she will be to keep a relationship or stay faithful to one partner.  

  16. 76
    Still Looking

    Stephen @ 76
    You are comparing apples to oranges.  I would agree that a person who has had 20 partners in the last year is more likely to have sex the following year than someone who was abstinent for the last year.  What I don’t agree with is your assertion that promiscuity prior to an exclusive relationship/marriage leads to an increased likelihood of cheating after the relationship commences.
    I’ve known many people, both men and women, who were faithful during their 10, 15, or 20 year marriages.  After the divorce some will date extensively, have sex with multiple partners, and then settle down for a monogomous relationship once they find Mr/Mrs Right.
    If you have some studies that show a causal connection between pre-relationship promiscuity and adultery, please post the line. 

  17. 77
    The_Soothsayer

    Hi Everyone,

    I am approaching my 65th birthday and thought it timely to “Very Sincerely Apologise” to all the generations following my age group. We were the baby boomers, flower people, we failed in the task of setting moral standards for you. We were a self centred, immoral, live now pay later generation. Unfortunately, we continue with this attitude, so don’t expect an inheritance. However, your generation has the opportunity to make a difference. Search your inner self, and ask, “Are your standards those you would want to pass onto your children?” Realise, your children will copy your example and multiply it ten fold! Please don’t end up regretting what you have done!    

  18. 78
    Kathy

    Adam, your girlfriend is the one in a bad situation and bad relationship. You’re assuming it won’t last though. When your now girlfriend is single later, it’ll be none of your business who she goes after, same as it wasn’t your business before you two got together. You sound quite insecure to me. If it was a problem to you having sex on the first date, you shouldn’t have done it. She didn’t force you, take some responsibility for your OWN behaviour. As you don’t expect this relationship to last, do your girlfriend a favour and get out now. Let her find herself a man who won’t use her past as an emotional weapon against her.

  19. 79
    Jesse

    Simple, if it didn’t matter the question would not be asked.

    It does matter. People want to know.

    Men don’t and won’t be happily married to a whore*, which in his mind some number that is excepable or unexceptable depending on the man.

    Women are more concerned with lack of experience or higher number due to misusing women or treating them poorly.

    Numbers matter people

  20. 80
    Rick

    Here we go. Say a guy has only slept with two girls, and they were both his girlfriends, so there was some sort of feeling attached to it. This guy has been non-exclusively dating a girl who’s slept with a hundred guys, who seemingly has a new guy in her bed every week and has rarely made the commitment of a relationship. This guy really likes the girl but is now afraid she lacks what it takes to stop mindlessly having sex with him and start being serious. If the two are involved in a serious dating scenario where exclusivity is possible, how is the guy supposed to feel knowing the girl’s had 50 times more partners than he, and none within the confines of a relationship?

    Personally, I like my numbers low, mostly because I view sex as more something to do with somebody I respect and have an interest in. Having sex with someone you’re not into and someone who only holds your fantasy is second to masturbation and only serves as a trophy for one’s smallish ego. I’m probably different than most when I say I don’t just view sex as an activity or something to do. It’s fun and it feels good, but that doesn’t mean I need to be doing it all the time with as many different people possible. I always thought there was something mentally wrong with the people who consistently felt the need to have sex, guising it as “natural” and “just something humans do” when, really, it’s their deflated self-images and egos doing the talking. Sex is a conquest and an ego stroke to those who so need it, which is not the way it should be.

  21. 81
    andrew

    what is the author even thinking?  Why would anyone want to marry someone else who has had experience in the first marriage? What happened to “the journey that matters not the end”? I mean im not married yet and i was taught by my parents to be abstinent and wait for the one you love after knowing them for a long time. It supposed to makes sex more enjoyable and if one or both of the partners lack experience in bed then why not start learning about each other and how to pleasure each other and find out what works and what doesn’t? why does having an experienced partner whose had sex with dozens of people before make your sex any special since  lover has already made love to previous special love ones before? Plus, the other commenter were right when they said that depending on the # of partners in the past, It will determine their SO’s view on the world morally and emotionally.

  22. 82
    Ellen

    Just tried to give a website to my photo since I post here now. I like that I can see what some of the posters look like now.

    But to get to this question- the number of partners. Like many here I am of two minds about it. Mostly I don’t want to know and don’t feel I have to share that info with the guy I’m dating. Luckily I haven’t met too many men in the past 3 years of online dating who made it an issue or who had a double standard about it.

    Before my second divorce, before I started online dating I had THREE total sex partners my whole life. As a result sex was special to me. Since online dating (2008-present), I am now in double digits and to tell you the truth, though a boomer, not too happy about it. I was weak here and there. Sex happened. Lust happened. The good news is I’ve been lucky (std-wise).

    But here are the stats folks (Dad was an immunologist): If you are active long enough, i.e. don’t settle down with one person who is clean, you have a 50% chance of getting an std. 50%. Maybe two. I almost dated a guy who caught two stds (one permanent) AND might have gotten a gal preggers. To this day he can’t find a woman ’cause of his “condition”. Women are at greater risk ’cause we have more real estate per inch “down there” and it can affect fertility. So everyone be careful.

    And imo herpes, genital warts and AIDs make you undateable for the most part, a pariah socially.

    It has really driven my choices and how I approach men (and what I say to them early on) and I worry constantly about “my number eventually coming up”. Luckily I am in a committed relationship for the moment.

  23. 83
    Goldie

    Just stumbled across comment #74 and I cannot get it out of my head. So a guy has an affair with a married woman, that leads to her divorce, gets together with her, has a committed relationship with her, calls her his girlfriend. Sounds good, except, he doesn’t trust her, he has memorized her sexual history all the way to high school and holds all of it against her every day. He posts giant amounts of dirt on her on an open forum, then comes back home to her… “how was your day, honey?”
     
    You know what? I’ll take a man with a high partner count (whatever the hell that is) over a guy like that any day. Either you like being with your GF and you trust her, and then you stay with her and quit regurgitating her past, especially since you happen to have a bit of a past yourself (banging a married woman, remember?) Or you decide that you cannot trust her, and then you leave. But you cannot stay with her, have a lower-than-dirt opinion of her, trash her online and claim to have the moral high ground.
     
    “How long do you think it will be before another guy is pounding her?”
     
    Not terribly long after she sees your post. Can’t say I’d blame her!
     

  24. 84
    Ruby

    I’ve known numerous women who were pretty promiscuous in their teens and twenties. Eventually, they married in their thirties, some had kids, but none would never dream of cheating on their husbands. OTOH, a friend who was with her boyfriend from the age of nineteen and had very little prior experience, ended up having an affair after several years of marriage because she became curious about what she’d missed as a coupled person for her entire adult life. Really, I don’t think the number of sexual partners a woman has had is necessarily a predictor of anything. I’ve certainly never had a man ask that, and agree with EMK that it’s nobody’s business.

    As for post #74, if you have such disrespect for your girlfriend, then why is she your girlfriend? Oh, and often cheaters don’t trust other people because they are cheaters themselves.

  25. 85
    still looking

    Ellen @ 83
    I like your picture :-)   How did you link your pic to your name?

  26. 86
    Saint Stephen

    @still looking & Ellen

    Me thinks love is in the air ;) 

  27. 87
    jim

    A woman’s past does matter if I am marrying her.  Would rather be the first for most things but almost impossible to find these days.  Pretty sad when most women have sucked and fucked multiple partners.

  28. 88
    Saint Stephen

    @jim-
    I second you.
     

  29. 89
    Bob

    It’s important to be honest, picking a life long partner is a big deal and you should kick the tires to see you both have the same set of values. It doesn’t mater how many partners you’ve had it does matter that your both honest and your values line up. Lieing to someone is dishonest and you will pay the consenquences in your marriange. If you’ve had a lot of partners and you know your partner hasn’t and your’ll thinking of getting married watch out you will have problems. 

  30. 90
    Quinn

    I would have to say that it does matter. 

    Now Im only in my early 20′s and I  have had only 2 sex partners. The person I lost my virginity to and the person Im currently dating. In the future I would like to get married and when I embark on that journey I would like to know that my future husband has not slept around.

    To me sex is something that is really important to me and I want to be able to enjoy it in a marriage with my partner. Its not for religious reasons or anything being that Im atheist but I find it would be easier for me to focus on developing a healthy sexual relationship with him if I have less to compare him to.

    I find it quite amusing how everyone is always so quick to decree: “Sexual numbers dont matter” but I would love to hear a person with 5 partners live by that standard. It seems that only people who have been around the block believe in it. 

    I look at it like this:

    A ex-con probably wouldn’t be too concerned with another persons criminal record but how much do you want to be a law abiding citizen does?

    An recovering addict might not care about another’s history with drugs or alcohol, but how much do you want to bet a person doesn’t abuse substances does?

    If you apply for a serious job and you have 20 short term jobs listed it probably won’t matter to you, but it will to the person hiring you.

    So can we stop acting like it doesn’t matter. It shouldn’t matter maybe, but it DOES. Especially to people who value sex.

    Sure I think one should ask whether or not they were in relationships or one night stand or what not, but if you have had 20 random hook ups lets just say I’m not marrying you. Period.

    I feel a sense of shame because I don’t sleep around. People look at me like there is something wrong with me or something. Everyone is NOT sleeping around. I don’t deny the figures Evan listed above. My current boyfriend lied and said he had slept with more people when he had only slept with one other person besides me. Why? Because he was ashamed.

    I don’t however think there should be a double standard. Does it exist? Yes, but can women do something about it? Yes. Don’t marry someone that has slept around. Its that simple. I could care less what everyone is doing. This sex thing has become a whole social movement that needs to stop. 60 years ago people did not sleep around and guess what? The marriage rate was also much higher. Sure a lot of men had mistresses but Im sure it wasn’t as high as people like to make it out to be. 

    Don’t get me wrong, Im not trying to shame anybody, but hell its the truth.

    Its articles like this that make me feel like I’m an enigma. I’m not. If you want to sleep around then great. But don’t hesitate over your number if you’re not ashamed of it.  

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