Comments on: Should I Be Worried About My Husband’s Facebook Crush On His High School Fling?

By: Sarah

Sarah — Thu, 13 Dec 2012 16:35:14 +0000

I want to know what happened!

By: Dilek

Dilek — Sat, 08 Dec 2012 21:19:41 +0000

Dear In Love With A Friend,You owe it to yourself and to your frenid to explore your relationship beyound frenids . . . think of a creative way to tell her that you Love her! Being true to yourself and her about your feelings is the best way to resolve this without it harming your frenidship. Be absolutely honest with her . . . tell her your feelings about HER only . . . if you insult the guy she is currently dating you will only sound like a jealous jerk who didn’t take a chance when you had it years ago . . . focus on her and not him! Tell her she has been your everything for a long time and you just realized it because she is hurting and you’re hurting for her because you love her that much . . . to the point where her pain has become your pain . . . tell her you love her and let the cards fall where they may . . . Good Luck!

By: Nouvel

Nouvel — Fri, 16 Mar 2012 10:42:01 +0000

I understand the concept of your wife’s theory, but it isn’t totally full proof. My Ex left my for HIS ex and my other ex always tries to get me back no matter if he has a gf or not. Being too friendly with an ex isn’t exactly something you would be oblivious too.

If someone wants to cheat, they’ll cheat. You cannot control people. At the end of the day actions speak louder than word. Don’t be a dictator but don’t be a dumb ass either.

By: Piper

Piper — Sun, 30 Oct 2011 16:14:17 +0000

That was a mess of a jumble so I am rewriting it.
First gf dumps him, he is devastated.
He dates a few girls we meet get married
5 or so yrs later pre-facebook She tries to hook up with him because drummer is alcoholic
He says no I am married
10 years pass – we divorce
We re-hook up like 2 years later, semi dating again
- FB appears – or we discover it (I liked mySpace)
She contacts him again, they secretly hook up behind my back
Now they are Married.
Then my sister.
Sorry Nobody is safe… Or I and my bro-in-law just suck

By: Piper

Piper — Sun, 30 Oct 2011 16:09:24 +0000

My ex husband who I started semi-dating again, hooked up with his first gf (who dumped him for her drummer that had 2 kids) who we started dating after. They are now married 6 months later. My sister is getting divorced due to rehooking up with one of her boyfriends. I think her husband is relieved. In my opinion, I HATE FB.

By: splash

splash — Fri, 09 Sep 2011 20:05:26 +0000

I just want to know how this turned out…please enlighten me.Thanks.

By: Just me

Just me — Tue, 19 Apr 2011 21:32:20 +0000

There is actually a lot more to this than you’ve written here. I think you should check out the research by Dr. Kalish on lost lovers. http://www.lostlovers.com/

By: Liz

Liz — Wed, 23 Jun 2010 15:07:17 +0000

@74 – Agreed. I don’t always agree with Karl’s assertions, but he does make the effort to be rational and explain his reasoning. And for that, I enjoy his contributions.

By: bob

bob — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 04:24:21 +0000

@Sharia #72 "Anyone can forbid anything they want. And the other person doesn't have to give in to that." And there's the problem - to believe you have the right to demand anything demonstrates your lack of respect of your partner. And it shows you're more concerned about power than partnership. As for the use of the word "dominion"...that you choose to not see it's application doesn't make it any less apropos.

By: Sharia

Sharia — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 19:59:25 +0000

Joe@74: You're just parroting what EMK says. Karl just expresses EMK's POV and so he gets that label.