Comments on: Should I Go on a Second Date With a Guy I Don’t Like to Get Practice and Attract More Men? http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/should-i-go-on-a-second-date-with-a-guy-i-dont-like-to-get-practice-and-attract-more-men/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 06:12:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Nicole http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/should-i-go-on-a-second-date-with-a-guy-i-dont-like-to-get-practice-and-attract-more-men/comment-page-1/#comment-64753 Nicole Sun, 02 May 2010 05:16:20 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1926#comment-64753 I say go for it! If you can stomach it....it's good to get a feel for it without being all worried about infatuation and caring about what he thinks.  It also helps you learn about yourself too...what you like and don't like, etc.. I say go for it! If you can stomach it….it's good to get a feel for it without being all worried about infatuation and caring about what he thinks. 
It also helps you learn about yourself too…what you like and don't like, etc..

]]> By: downtowngal http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/should-i-go-on-a-second-date-with-a-guy-i-dont-like-to-get-practice-and-attract-more-men/comment-page-1/#comment-44510 downtowngal Sat, 03 Oct 2009 11:45:34 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1926#comment-44510 Shay #29, thanks for the update! Sounds like you're on the right track. Shay #29, thanks for the update! Sounds like you’re on the right track.

]]> By: Steve http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/should-i-go-on-a-second-date-with-a-guy-i-dont-like-to-get-practice-and-attract-more-men/comment-page-1/#comment-44406 Steve Thu, 01 Oct 2009 20:21:35 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1926#comment-44406 @Shay #29 <em><strong>He got rather personal when I tried to explain why I don't want to see him again. </strong></em> Well, if there was any doubt now it seems to be confirmed that this guy has some growing to do. @Shay #29
He got rather personal when I tried to explain why I don’t want to see him again.

Well, if there was any doubt now it seems to be confirmed that this guy has some growing to do.

]]> By: Shay http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/should-i-go-on-a-second-date-with-a-guy-i-dont-like-to-get-practice-and-attract-more-men/comment-page-1/#comment-44379 Shay Thu, 01 Oct 2009 15:21:17 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1926#comment-44379 Hey Evan, thanks for posting this up! I was surprised to see this. Haha...Thanks people for chipping in! Well, I did go on a date with this guy. Only because the activity he proposed was fun to me. Photography. It was our common interest. Anyway, I don't feel bad about myself when I'm around him. Yes, I got fat arms. I know that. But I am also witty, funny, and generally nice to hang around with. So, nope...I don't have a poor self esteem. :) Well, after that date, he quickly followed up with more suggestions for dates. But I refused. He thought we had chemistry. But the chemistry is only on his part. Not on my part. We have different lifestyles and expectations. So I don't think I want to take up his time and put his hopes up. He got rather personal when I tried to explain why I don't want to see him again. I told him that he is not what I'm looking for. However, he told me that I am what he was looking for. Totally a self-absorped idiot. Next, please. :D Hey Evan, thanks for posting this up! I was surprised to see this. Haha…Thanks people for chipping in!

Well, I did go on a date with this guy. Only because the activity he proposed was fun to me. Photography. It was our common interest.

Anyway, I don’t feel bad about myself when I’m around him. Yes, I got fat arms. I know that. But I am also witty, funny, and generally nice to hang around with. So, nope…I don’t have a poor self esteem. :)

Well, after that date, he quickly followed up with more suggestions for dates. But I refused. He thought we had chemistry. But the chemistry is only on his part. Not on my part. We have different lifestyles and expectations. So I don’t think I want to take up his time and put his hopes up.

He got rather personal when I tried to explain why I don’t want to see him again. I told him that he is not what I’m looking for. However, he told me that I am what he was looking for. Totally a self-absorped idiot.

Next, please. :D

]]> By: Lance http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/should-i-go-on-a-second-date-with-a-guy-i-dont-like-to-get-practice-and-attract-more-men/comment-page-1/#comment-44272 Lance Wed, 30 Sep 2009 03:54:55 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1926#comment-44272 @Erika, love that attitude, I feel the same way. I also think that experience is invaluable for an inexperienced dater, so I'd recommend she continue the interaction if she thinks she can get something out of it and ALSO impart some value to the guy. It shouldn't be an entirely one-sided exchange on her part. I'm a firm believer that the more dates you go on, the better equipped you are to identify what you want and how to get it. @Erika, love that attitude, I feel the same way. I also think that experience is invaluable for an inexperienced dater, so I’d recommend she continue the interaction if she thinks she can get something out of it and ALSO impart some value to the guy. It shouldn’t be an entirely one-sided exchange on her part.
I’m a firm believer that the more dates you go on, the better equipped you are to identify what you want and how to get it.

]]> By: Erika Awakening http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/should-i-go-on-a-second-date-with-a-guy-i-dont-like-to-get-practice-and-attract-more-men/comment-page-1/#comment-44261 Erika Awakening Wed, 30 Sep 2009 01:35:39 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1926#comment-44261 Yes, but I wouldn't say it's "practice." I would say that I enjoy connecting with people, and I don't have an agenda for dates. For all I know, the guy could end up being a business partner someday, or I might be able to send a friend to him. The world is one big web of connection. When we drop our agendas, every connection is enjoyable. Who cares if it "goes somewhere"? Yes, but I wouldn’t say it’s “practice.” I would say that I enjoy connecting with people, and I don’t have an agenda for dates. For all I know, the guy could end up being a business partner someday, or I might be able to send a friend to him.
The world is one big web of connection. When we drop our agendas, every connection is enjoyable. Who cares if it “goes somewhere”?

]]> By: Meli http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/should-i-go-on-a-second-date-with-a-guy-i-dont-like-to-get-practice-and-attract-more-men/comment-page-1/#comment-44152 Meli Mon, 28 Sep 2009 14:56:07 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1926#comment-44152 Oh, and i think she shouldn't go out this guy again. What is she going to learn anyway? To be mistreated and humilliated? To get comfortable and used to this kind of behavior? No, thanks. I think she can get 'practice' with much nicer guys. It's been only the 4th date, after all, she shouldn't settle so quickly! Oh, and i think she shouldn’t go out this guy again. What is she going to learn anyway? To be mistreated and humilliated? To get comfortable and used to this kind of behavior? No, thanks. I think she can get ‘practice’ with much nicer guys. It’s been only the 4th date, after all, she shouldn’t settle so quickly!

]]> By: Meli http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/should-i-go-on-a-second-date-with-a-guy-i-dont-like-to-get-practice-and-attract-more-men/comment-page-1/#comment-44151 Meli Mon, 28 Sep 2009 14:49:42 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1926#comment-44151 "My friend has a theory that says men like women who are attractive to other men." I remember I read the results of this study from a university in the UK that concluded that a guy is more attractive to a woman when he is perceived as attractive to other women, i.e. he's surrounded by women.. While for women is actually the opposite, a woman is perceived as less attractive to a guy if she's surrounded by men. It wasn't about the likeability of appraching, it was about rating someone more or less attractive. I don't know about the methodology of this study, but for personal experience I can co-sign that. “My friend has a theory that says men like women who are attractive to other men.”

I remember I read the results of this study from a university in the UK that concluded that a guy is more attractive to a woman when he is perceived as attractive to other women, i.e. he’s surrounded by women.. While for women is actually the opposite, a woman is perceived as less attractive to a guy if she’s surrounded by men. It wasn’t about the likeability of appraching, it was about rating someone more or less attractive. I don’t know about the methodology of this study, but for personal experience I can co-sign that.

]]> By: Jimmy http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/should-i-go-on-a-second-date-with-a-guy-i-dont-like-to-get-practice-and-attract-more-men/comment-page-1/#comment-44091 Jimmy Sun, 27 Sep 2009 16:22:24 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1926#comment-44091 Haha, I think you should go out on another date, if only to give him a taste of his own medicine. I admit I've been on dates where I know it's not going anywhere to get practice. The key with dating is, don't take it too seriously. Mind you, all my dates seem to end in disaster...hence I started a blog about them. Hmm, maybe I should come here for advice :-) <a href="http://plentymorefishoutofwater.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">http://plentymorefishoutofwater.blogspot.com/</a> Haha, I think you should go out on another date, if only to give him a taste of his own medicine. I admit I’ve been on dates where I know it’s not going anywhere to get practice. The key with dating is, don’t take it too seriously. Mind you, all my dates seem to end in disaster…hence I started a blog about them. Hmm, maybe I should come here for advice :-)
http://plentymorefishoutofwater.blogspot.com/

]]> By: Curly Girl http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/should-i-go-on-a-second-date-with-a-guy-i-dont-like-to-get-practice-and-attract-more-men/comment-page-1/#comment-43978 Curly Girl Fri, 25 Sep 2009 14:57:00 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1926#comment-43978 I do know a couple that met through a matchmaking service back in the late 90s, maybe. Odd thing: I'd worked with both of them separately at two different jobs, and then met them as a couple through mutual friends. You could have knocked me over with a feather when they told me how they'd met. Both were very nice, good people--nerdy, maybe, would be the way to describe them. No game. They both have said that the money they spent (maybe $3,000 each, at the time?) was absolutely worth it, and they're really happy, it seems. But that's the only good story I've ever heard about matchmakers. I'm sure there are many more negative ones--probably that the so-called "lonely hearts" (as they used to call the people to whom these services were advertised) don't share. I do know a couple that met through a matchmaking service back in the late 90s, maybe. Odd thing: I’d worked with both of them separately at two different jobs, and then met them as a couple through mutual friends. You could have knocked me over with a feather when they told me how they’d met. Both were very nice, good people–nerdy, maybe, would be the way to describe them. No game.
They both have said that the money they spent (maybe $3,000 each, at the time?) was absolutely worth it, and they’re really happy, it seems.

But that’s the only good story I’ve ever heard about matchmakers. I’m sure there are many more negative ones–probably that the so-called “lonely hearts” (as they used to call the people to whom these services were advertised) don’t share.

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