Comments on: Should I Text Him?

By: Tao Of Badass

Tao Of Badass — Fri, 16 Mar 2012 15:35:59 +0000

Seriously people please take this flow chart with a grain of salt since it’s a opinion of one person.

By: morgan

morgan — Wed, 14 Mar 2012 12:01:03 +0000

Katt @ 12 – assume you are taking the piss, if not sheesh…

In intimate relationships, particularly in the earlier phases, texting can be the work of the devil. Have been with my bloke 4.5 months and when we’re not in the same city (which is regularly) texting does not work. So easy to miss the mark about needing to respond/acknowledge and timelines for such. Even with seemingly banal stuff. I’ve found myself wound up too many times interpreting what might or might not be behind the dynamic. Now I’m much more likely to make a call.

With friends & family its not such a biggie.

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By: Katt

Katt — Tue, 13 Mar 2012 14:52:39 +0000

Totally agree!!! I kno if several ppl who hve broken up over misinterp via txt

By: AllenB

AllenB — Sun, 11 Mar 2012 20:24:36 +0000

The digital lifestyle, including online personals, has also changed dating. Contacts with possible partners are not nearly as valued as they once were. We have this big menu of people to choose from, so people are much quicker to say “next” as soon as there is one little problem or perceived deficiency. I think people are more prone to stop seeing someone and run rather than try to communicate through any problems or disagreements that arise because they know they can easily go and find more possibles. Online personals has made dating easier in some ways, but something has been lost too.

By: Tontae

Tontae — Sun, 11 Mar 2012 02:25:43 +0000

Texting is pedestrian behaviour in a budding relationship. I only ever text family and friends – texting has replaced the phone as the instrument of rude mannerisms.
I remember in ancient times before the advent of portable phones, when you had to show up in person because it was not possible to reach people by phone at the last minute – everyone made more effort – maybe that’s the downside to this lifestyle, as people we’re just as disposable as the phones we use.

By: thw

thw — Sun, 11 Mar 2012 02:08:10 +0000

About a month ago, the comic strip Doonesbury had a sequence where a young woman (Alex) gets stuck in a snowstorm and starts stressing out that her boyfriend Leo hasn’t proposed to her, so she decides to propose — by text!

http://www.gocomics.com/doonesbury/2012/02/15

By: JB

JB — Sat, 10 Mar 2012 22:23:20 +0000

I had a woman cancel a “meet & greet” on me by text 10 minutes before our agreed upon time to meet. 1 hour after our phone conversation confirmation.

Last week after a woman asked me out by text on Wednesday night she canceled by text on Thursday night…LOL We’d only had one “meet & greet” prior but still.

I know men are just as bad, but I don’t date men.

For the record. I’ve never asked anyone out by text or canceled a date by text. It’s low class.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Sat, 10 Mar 2012 21:43:01 +0000

When in doubt, DO NOT TEXT!

By: Sue

Sue — Sat, 10 Mar 2012 17:43:55 +0000

Haha, your last line is awesome…that’s exactly my stance on guys I meet online who insist on only texting me…don’t be mad when you receive that “I’m just not feelin it” text! The chart is pretty right on btw, I saw it a little earlier and it makes a lot of sense.

By: SalsaQ

SalsaQ — Sat, 10 Mar 2012 17:43:00 +0000

The chart looks kind of fun, but really don’t use a flow chart to make your own decisions. Put yourself in HIS shoes and think how it will make him feel, not how you hope it will make him feel. THen use your own heart and mind to decide if you are still not sure.