Client #3 is an ethnic minority who has a lot going for him. He, too, wants to date a very beautiful woman. Except he refuses to write to any women that are his own ethnicity. He only goes for Caucasian women, the majority of whom aren’t interested in a man of his race.
All of these clients are effectively pricing themselves out of the market. Or at least narrowing their options considerably.
Criteria only serve to limit us, and yet few of us are willing to compromise.
None of them are bad or wrong or unreasonable. They want what they want. We all do. In fact, I’d go so far as to say that we all engage in some form of preemptive discrimination. Except we don’t call it that. We call it “having preferences”. I’m quite sure you have them as well, Heather. And I’m quite sure that you’re discriminating against a guy who’s perfectly suited for you – just like these guys are doing to you.
And lest you think I’m talking down – I’m guilty as everyone else of this:
One woman wrote to me on JDate, but was six years older than me. I ignored her. Six months later, I met her in real life and fell in love.
Another woman who dazzled me at a party revealed that she never went to college. She traveled, started working, and became successful in her career by the time she was 22. I never would have met her on Match with my “bachelor’s degree” search criteria.
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