Comments on: Should Men Buy Flowers or Gifts for Women on First Dates?

By: Todd Suriano

Todd Suriano — Tue, 29 Nov 2011 06:08:00 +0000

Hi im 19 and dating someone and just stumbled upon this site. Ive noticed there are not to many younger people commenting, so i wanted to put my two cents in. I think its actually quite sad that women have become so afraid, of something like getting a rose or a bunch of flowers. Last time i checked flowers show that a man is interested in you. Im talking to all the ladies out there when i say this. Stop being such ungreatful pansies…. if a man gets you some flowers on date thank him and get on with the date.

By: Greg

Greg — Tue, 18 Oct 2011 16:44:41 +0000

Since there’s a chance that women will be creeped out by flowers or a gift on a first date then its better not to buy them. I’ve also come to realize that many people cannot accept unconditional gifts and generosity. If I give a girl something, its unconditional. I do it just to be nice and put a smile on her face, and I don’t expect her to like me. Its like donating to charity, you don’t expect the poor people to pay you back, you just did it to be nice. If you always assume that other people have ulterior motives when giving, it could be that you may be the kind of person tat is only nice when you want something from someone.

By: Donna

Donna — Tue, 18 Oct 2011 15:58:15 +0000

Flowers on a first date is not wrong, nor outdated. The problem is that Evan is too young to understand chivalry and is trying to change society so he doesn’t have to buy people gifts any more. It’s ludicrous.

Evan — Sorry, but flowers don’t weird out a woman.

(I posted this because it was the most ridiculous thing ever. First of all, I’m 39. And my thoughts aren’t about my being cheap – they come from having WOMEN tell me that it’s over-the-top when a guy gives ‘em flowers. Maybe you should contact the OP, Donna. Sounds like a match made in cheesy-hell.)

By: Jack

Jack — Fri, 17 Jun 2011 17:35:37 +0000

In the internet age, most people do take some time to get to know each other before they meet, usually exchanging quite a few emails and usually they spend quite a bit of time on the phone. So bringing a gift on a first date is sometimes just a nice thing to do, especially if you seem to hit it off. I am a woodworker so I don’t spend any money on her just my time and make something out of scraps leftover from other projects. I wouldn’t do this for everyone I meet. I could care less if it doesn’t go beyond the first date because there are many more fish in the sea…

By: Joe

Joe — Mon, 24 May 2010 19:47:55 +0000

@ Lee 56:

I don’t think too many guys could afford to get a whole boutique for a woman, ever, let alone on a first date!

By: Lee

Lee — Mon, 24 May 2010 19:21:47 +0000

If a woman is freaked out by a man getting her a single rose on a 1st date, then she is definitely not worth pursuing any further. What a heavy financial investment a single rose is (maybe $3)!

Could it be possible that he is thoughtful, gentlemanly and likes her? From my experiences, I’ve had a better chance at a second date with a woman when I’ve given a single rose than not.

I advise against getting a boutique, though.

By: Jennie

Jennie — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 15:32:18 +0000

While I prefer traditional roles in a m/f relationship, I find flowers on the first date too much – especially, if you only talked to him vis email. I was on the fence as to whether or not my attraction/like a guy and he showed up with flowers on our first meeting. AWKWARD! That made me feel “obligated” to like him when I wasn’t sure. He got mad that I didn’t appreciate his jesture and threw a temper tantrum. After he stomped off, with his flowers, I sat there and just laughed. I think a single “neutral” flower is the only appropriate flower allowed until a couple gets to know each other better.

By: Michael

Michael — Sun, 29 Mar 2009 16:25:30 +0000

Except, under a limited set of circumstances, maybe a Trojan.

By: vino

vino — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 21:33:32 +0000

“Should Men Buy Flowers or Gifts for Women on First Dates?”

Never.

By: Send inexpensive flowers

Send inexpensive flowers — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 02:39:41 +0000

Personally, it’s no big deal if a guy gives flowers to the girl on their first date. It’s part of being a gentlemen and showing sincerity to the girl. Just my two cents.

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