Comments on: Should Men Buy Flowers or Gifts for Women on First Dates?

By: Jennie

Jennie — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 15:32:18 +0000

While I prefer traditional roles in a m/f relationship, I find flowers on the first date too much – especially, if you only talked to him vis email. I was on the fence as to whether or not my attraction/like a guy and he showed up with flowers on our first meeting. AWKWARD! That made me feel “obligated” to like him when I wasn’t sure. He got mad that I didn’t appreciate his jesture and threw a temper tantrum. After he stomped off, with his flowers, I sat there and just laughed. I think a single “neutral” flower is the only appropriate flower allowed until a couple gets to know each other better.

By: Michael

Michael — Sun, 29 Mar 2009 16:25:30 +0000

Except, under a limited set of circumstances, maybe a Trojan.

By: vino

vino — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 21:33:32 +0000

“Should Men Buy Flowers or Gifts for Women on First Dates?”

Never.

By: Send inexpensive flowers

Send inexpensive flowers — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 02:39:41 +0000

Personally, it’s no big deal if a guy gives flowers to the girl on their first date. It’s part of being a gentlemen and showing sincerity to the girl. Just my two cents.

-ashliana-

By: Kyle

Kyle — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 23:44:41 +0000

I’ve been looking for suggestions on flowers and have seen that the dialogue surrounds the first date. I’m not comfortable giving flowers on a first date for many of the reasons mentioned here, but what about the second date?

The conclusion I’m coming to is there isn’t much that can be gained. I would think many women would see it as ’sweet’ but you run a serious risk of appearing desperate or too much too soon. It seems to me the best approach early on is to just appear genuinely interested while I get to know her too – if it becomes something, maybe flowers are perfect for a 1 month ‘anniversary’ date.

Any suggestions here?

By: A-L

A-L — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 00:09:37 +0000

I suspect that a lot of the men bringing women flowers are not of my generation. Only one guy has done it for me on a first date, and I thought it was very sweet. I thanked him and had zero expectations that he was going to get anything extra for it beyond that. At the end of the date when he pulled out a pink Care Bear of his car (he’d actually written my name on the bear’s tag, so he’d planned it out), I thought it was way too much and felt uncomfortable. But flowers by themselves? Go for it, if it’s an evening date. If it’s a more casual or daytime affair, a single bloom will have the same heart-melting effect.

By: LenMusicMan

LenMusicMan — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 21:19:52 +0000

Myself, I like to bring flowers to show that I like the woman. Whether it is on the first date or not, does not matter. Also, I never expect anything in return. Since you can’t make a woman like you, this is just a romantic gesture for me.

What suprises me, are the responses of women that men expect sex when bringing flowers to a lady. This seems to fall under the category, I am trying to buy sex from you. And this seems to fall under the category of a “nice” man with a hidden agenda.

Am I one of the few men left that will give a gift to a woman with no expection of anything in return, other than “thank you”.

By: Ah L'amoure

Ah L'amoure — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 04:12:52 +0000

I received flowers on a first date and thought it was absolutely wonderful! The thought that someone had such a high opinion of me that they went to all that trouble really blew me away. I was impressed.

By: hunter

hunter — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 14:59:45 +0000

I went to meet a woman, for the first time at a sTarbuck’s coffee shop, with flowers in my hand. I was early for the meeting, sat at a table, set the flowers on the table, and, to my surprise, I had women walk by asking me, what the flowers were about!,,,,,,,,,,I was ready to forget my meeting and go with someone else!……….

By: Nelly

Nelly — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 07:23:21 +0000

I love receiving flowers but not on the first date. It is very sweet of him but I would feel uncomfortable and pressured especially if I’m not interested in him….I would feel a little guilt for not wanting to go on a second date with him.