“Without your help, I never could have imagined that I could be in a relationship like this one.”
Before I learned about you, I was in a place where I had no trouble meeting men, but had come to realize that I was meeting the men who were not good for me. In the past, I always had pressure from my parents and friends to get married. After I had done that, I knew that I was not in the right place. 17 years later, and after a lot of difficulty, I was divorced and looking for a person with whom to share my interests and just have fun. I wanted to get past the pain and anger and move on.
I realized that I wanted to have another relationship, but I needed to choose a different type of person. How would I be able to do this?
You inspired me. You repeatedly said that I should not reject anyone just because he was different than the type of people I had dated before. You encouraged me to give everyone a chance and just see how it goes. So I decided to try that.
Being open allowed me to talk with so many people about different topics and date without trying to “find a relationship”. It was strange at first; then it was wonderful! I began focusing on how I felt with that person; did I like what he brought out in me, etc.
It was during this period that I was introduced to a man by a male friend of mine. He started talking to me about selling his house when it had been on the market for quite a while. I finally looked up the stats and called him with my personal approach. His house sold within 2 weeks! He then called and took me out for dinner to thank me. We had a wonderful time and enjoyed our conversation tremendously.
That was the beginning. He then told me that he wanted to see me often and talk on the phone often. I agreed to go along with this, and our relationship continued to move forward easily. It has now been about 9 months and even though there have been a few hiccups along the way, he is always reaching out for a solution. He is the one telling me that he wants our relationship to last a lifetime! I am still amazed at how we talk and figure out what works for us! (He still tells everyone that we have been dating for 2 years but that it took him a year to get me to give him my phone number!!)
Your words, including the information in your e-book, have given me a new perspective. There is no doubt that men and women will never think alike. But we all like to laugh and laughter reduces stress. We try to use this when we talk about serious issues and take a little space before we discuss these issues again. This seems to have allowed us the insight into figuring out what happened and how each of us interpreted the situation differently, giving us the opportunity to plan ahead in the future.
Without your help, I never could have imagined that I could be in a relationship like this one. I’m in my 60′s and expected that I would not have a committed relationship again. I’m still dealing with issues internally of fear and past experiences, as is he. But we can talk about these things and know that we have something special.
Thank you Evan. I continue to reach out for your insights and advice and share the newsletters with many of my friends who are looking for something different in their relationships too.