"I'm 8 months into the best relationship I ever had with a man I am very much in love with."
“A few years ago, when I was first introduced to Evan, I was feeling increasingly frustrated with my dating life. After divorcing an emotionally unavailable man after 23 years of marriage I had two difficult, long term relationships with men who were not stepping up and I had gotten used to being treated badly.
I’d had some difficult family situations to deal with as a single mother of three twenty somethings and Evan provided me with my first ‘Aha’ moment which was when he told me ‘You’ve been a great mother to your children, and a good daughter to your elderly mother but who’s been there for you Christine?’ This actually made me cry – I had been the ‘go to’ person for my children and the men I was dating were narcissists who had me hooked but were not good men.
I needed to understand that I deserved more than this, that there were some good men out there and although it wasn’t going to be easy to find them, I believed with the new tools I had learned I could do this.
I learned a lot and made some good friends through the FOCUS Forum, and that by changing my ways and gaining the support of Evan and other women in the same situation that I could get better and better. The most important thing I learned was that I didn’t actually want or need the type of man I thought I wanted. That my type was not in fact my type!
Soon, I was able to make dating fun and behave like the woman I wanted to be. I became the CEO in charge of my own life, and not subject to the whims of men. Although I had dated lots of nice men online, there was one man I had met in ‘real life’, who was there in the background. I’d placed him firmly in the ‘just friends’ box, but once I took a long, hard look at what I really wanted in a man to move forward to a healthy and satisfying relationship I realized he was all of these things. Actually it was Evan who pointed this out and simply said ‘Date him!’
Today, I’m 8 months into the best relationship I ever had with a man I am very much in love with. It gets better and better. Dave is already talking about buying our perfect house so we can spend our lives together.
I now feel ‘Safe, happy and secure’… which was exactly what I wrote I was looking for in my online profile well over 5 years ago!”