Julie Z.

"You really helped me filter and attract the 'kind, compassionate, funny' winner from the rest."

Inner Circle taught me a LOT of love ”lessons” in a short period of time without having to experience them for myself.  Listening to how Evan used the train wrecks of otherwise smart successful women to provide teachable moments for us all was invaluable. He has an ability to sift through suffering and get at the heart of a situation quickly.  On behalf of all GREAT women, Evan doesn’t tolerate bad behavior coming from men.  Not only is he gifted at pointing it out but also excellent at getting women to see that one extra moment focused on “Not The One” was a lost moment in the search for love.

The work Evan and I did together as I navigated the victories and defeats of my-then-current “relationship” was invaluable.  Every possible truth about men and dating reared its ugly head and Evan was right there to “set the record straight.”  He was gentle, tough, hugely insightful and extremely accurate at decoding a man’s words, his actions, his lack of action, his likely intentions. It was like having a direct line to a man’s “private talk.”

But mostly I learned about me.  I learned how to give the right men a second chance and bypass the wrong men quickly.  I learned how to sit comfortably and uncomfortably in my own confidence and allow a man to choose me while women swirled all around him.  I learned to love a man for what he has to give and to give up years of finely honed “expectations” which had been driving me into the online ditch  I learned to distrust my feelings when they came from a place of anxiety, unprocessed chemical desire, or panic.  I learned to judge a man by his effort and in the end his kindness and humor.

And now after 3,838 views on Match, I have attracted in – my guy — we both can’t believe how lucky we got that our time together is now.  I’ve done a lot of work to get to this place — beyond Evan — but Evan was able to take the raw ingredients and pull together a game plan and a way forward that was smart and organic and after that, all I had to do was keep showing up.

This morning while brush busting to the top of a mountain on a dawn hike, the man you taught me to recognize as “the real deal” got down on his knee and proposed — and I accepted!

Evan, you are the fourth person I’ve told and I wanted you to be among the first because you really helped me filter and attract the “kind, compassionate, funny” winner from the rest.  It’s definitely the happiest moment for me and I really believe you made it possible. I know you get a lot of joy from hearing the success stories…so here’s one more!

Julie Z.