"Now I feel empowered and I am glad to be free of him, to find the one who will love me without question."
I bought “Why He Disappeared” when I knew that I needed to understand what would make my ex treat me so callously, to clearly not want a future together, and yet say that he loved me all along and kept me connected to him even though he has a new girlfriend.
I learned, through reading “Why He Disappeared”, that because of the fact that he did not commit to me, I really didn’t want him back. I realized that I needed to find the man who would love me unconditionally for who I am, not for who he wanted me to be. I realized that after all, he really didn’t feel as strongly about me as I did about him.
While I was still in pain for a while after that realization (no one wants to be told that the person you love isn’t that into you), it helped me to finally let go of him and learn a hard painful lesson. I think I had still been hoping that he would come to his senses and come back to me begging to take him back, that he had made a mistake and wanted to commit to me after all … silly now, I know.
I think I had been putting his feelings ahead of mine for so long that I was still doing it even after we had broken up, and when I realized that he really didn’t care all that much for how I felt, it was easier to break the ties. Now I feel empowered and I am glad to be free of him, to find the one who will love me without question.