"Working with Evan has helped me to really value myself and to be myself when I am dating. This is priceless."
At 52 and after a 20-year marriage and limited dating experience I found myself back in the dating world. I thought being reasonably attractive, smart and successful was enough, but I was wrong. And when it came to dating someone that I was attracted to, well, I became like a schoolgirl. It was like a different person was on the date, not me at all. At first, the guys I dated would chase me but very soon I ended up chasing them. I didn’t know why that kept happening and what I was supposed to do or not do about it. I felt like there was something wrong with me and that I might end up alone for the rest of my life. So I started reading a lot of different books but Evan was the first one that put everything together and gave me direction on what I was doing that didn’t work and what men are actually thinking and experiencing and looking for.
I realised I didn’t understand men at all. I didn’t get that they are actually different to women. And when it came to dating well basically if I liked a guy I’d be really proactive – staying in contact all the time, suggesting things to do together, asking him why he wasn’t calling, you name it. I wanted things to move too fast and I cringe a little when I think about it. What I needed to understand what was meant to happen in the dating process and learn how to be courted? I didn’t know what was my part and what was the man’s part.
That’s why I joined Evan’s Inner Circle. The biggest lesson I got out of group coaching was to “do nothing” during dating…that is, he asks me on a date I say yes, he does the asking I do the responding. I have to allow him to choose me. The other things I learnt was being responsible for creating my love life- it is totally up to me.
As a result of working with Evan I am now back on line with a whole new profile, photos and attitude. I feel more confident that ever and more in control of my dating process. I have been approached online by men who said no to me before and I am taking my time. I have met a really nice man but I am not getting wrapped up in just him. I am allowing my self to enjoy his attention while staying open to other men as nothing at this stage is serious.
Look, I can say I feel more confident than ever before but it’s more than that. Working with Evan has helped me to really value myself and to be myself when I am dating. This is priceless. It’s not perfect, but I have come a thousand miles from where I was and feel so lucky.