"Evan, you’re amazing. You’re changing a little corner of the world in a very special way."
Before FOCUS Coaching I was feeling pretty hopeless about men and the online dating scene. I was 51 at the time I joined and already had a profile and great photos that I got through e-Cyrano. I was going on a lot of dates but I felt like the princess and the pea. Most of the guys didn’t fit my narrow definition of what the right guy would look like. The ones who seemed to be “right” never panned out for one reason or another. I think my biggest problem was that I wasn’t acknowledging that I was the common denominator in my lack of success.
I was ruling out men who showed interest in me based on superficial criteria. I didn’t get that the most important qualities I was looking for were not necessarily visible in an online profile. Last summer I read Lori Gottlieb’s book and it was a real eye opener. Both Evan and Lori helped me realize that my behavior needed to change because I couldn’t change men. I loved it when Evan said that the geeky guy at work has a crush on me because I act like myself at work.
So my life has done a 180 in the past few months. I’m dating the perfect guy for me – Dan. We hit it off really well and became exclusive very quickly. He’s very sincere and crazy about me. It took me a little longer to fall for him, but I had a feeling that would happen naturally as time went on. He said he was very attracted to me physically, but he very much was attracted to my intelligence. He’s the perfect boyfriend. We can talk about anything and it’s very easy to bring up uncomfortable topics, like why I wanted to move more slowly than he did sexually. He’s a great listener and I love his sense of humor. I’ve already met several of his friends and he talks about our future all of the time.
The thing that I most love about Dan is that I can be myself around him. At 52 years old, I’ve never felt that way with any man I’ve dated. He recently told me that before contacting me on OK Cupid, he saw that I have two Yorkies. He quickly posted a picture of a Yorkie he used to have to get my attention. It worked. I was charmed by his adorable Yorkie who had the same face as one of mine.
Evan, you’re amazing. You’re changing a little corner of the world in a very special way. As luck would have it, I found you over three years ago through my hairdresser of all people. I believe that it’s just a matter of time before all of you beautiful women on here find someone special.
Don’t give up!