"Being able to check in with Evan each week was like a safety net to give this a go."
I had a string of four short-term relationships after a very long hiatus from dating and I had just started dating someone I liked. I really needed an expert to guide me through the transition from dating to relationship. I particularly wanted to understand the whole process better, especially from a guy’s perspective. One of the nicest things I got from working with Evan was the ability to separate THIS guy from past relationships, and to get the “green light” to say yes to this relationship.
Here’s the funny thing. I’m in LOVE. This is a GREAT relationship. But I was so gun-shy about getting hurt again that I don’t know if I would have given my guy a chance without Evan’s support and encouragement.
One of my big revelations was how much my boyfriend wants to feel secure in the relationship. The more affectionate, admiring, and available I am, the more affectionate, admiring and available he is, too. Once Evan helped me understand that, the relationship shifted. My boyfriend started saying “I love you,” soon after.
I’m just super, super happy. I feel incredibly fortunate to be with a self-aware guy. He’s really fun, funny, smart, incredibly supportive…when I’m upset about something, he’s really good at giving me a better perspective that makes me feel more centered and empowered. How rare is that?! He calls me every day. We see each other almost every day. And he’s offered to redo my kitchen floor as a birthday present.
Being able to check in with Evan each week was like a safety net to give this a go. And I also discovered that I could attract a ton of quality men, in no time at all, if I needed to go back out there. It’s a relief to know I have options. But really, I’m very, very much in love. THIS is the relationship I want, and I have it!