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The #1 Rated Dating and Relationship Blog on the Internet
I can’t believe it myself. But a website named Blogged, which helps aggregate and rank blogs from all over the Internet, has just named Advice From a Single Dating Expert the top blog out of 984 dating and relationship blogs.
Crazy, I know!
I just started doing this because I thought it would be fun and I’m just thrilled that people are responding to it.
So thanks to Blogged for recognizing this blog, and thanks to you for reading, commenting and asking intelligent questions that affect so many of us. It ain’t always easy being single, but if we keep learning from each other’s experiences, we’re more likely to find happy and healthy relationships.
Have a great day.
Evan
P.S. If you are a regular reader and you’d like to offer me a positive vote on Blogged, I’d be extremely grateful. And if you’re a regular reader and you don’t have anything positive to say, why are you even reading? 
Just kidding. There’s plenty of room for disagreement out there and I welcome all of your contributions. -EMK
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24 Comments »Filed Under Evan's Press
Steve Mar 17th 2008 at 12:48 pm 1
Congratulations!
Mike Mar 17th 2008 at 01:17 pm 2
Hey congrats. It’s a great blog.
m Mar 17th 2008 at 01:42 pm 3
*applause* *applause*
Some of us are not at all surprised.
Kenneth Mar 17th 2008 at 02:38 pm 4
Hi Evan,
I love your blog and even though I wasn’t the editor responsible for giving you your 9.0 score, I have to say that I think your rating is very well deserved! Keep up the great dating advice — for a single guy like me, it’s quite helpful!
-Kenneth
Sav Mar 17th 2008 at 02:55 pm 5
This is awesome, and no surprise at all.
Congrats, Evan!
Lynn Mar 17th 2008 at 09:14 pm 6
Evan, congratulations on the well-deserved recognition!
Alan Mar 18th 2008 at 03:41 am 7
Woot! Yay Evan!
Markus Mar 18th 2008 at 05:08 am 8
No doubt this is because I started posting responses…PSYCHE! Congrats Evan. Hopefully we all find what we’re looking for.
Chris Mar 18th 2008 at 08:05 am 9
Yep, folks just can’t get enough of freebies from a #1 expert … and quality keeps ‘em coming back. Now that you’re a blog superstar, Evan, how high are one’s odds to getting a question answered on the blog?
Evan's Girlfriend Mar 18th 2008 at 09:17 am 10
I’m so proud of you, honey. Keep up the good work! Saving the world, one single person at a time…
Evan Marc Katz Mar 18th 2008 at 09:40 am 11
Thanks, Girlfriend. I’ll see you later tonight. As for your query, Chris, sadly, the odds of getting a question answered here are slim. For two reasons:
1) I have hundreds of unanswered emails flooding my inbox.
2) Most of these questions have been answered on AFASDE before.
Which is why I’d encourage anyone who comes here to ask a question to go to The Best of Evan Marc Katz at the top left, and the site map at the very, very bottom of the page. Chances are, at some point, I’ve already provided my two cents on your very personal matter.
Thanks again to all of you for your kind and generous words!
Jen Mar 18th 2008 at 10:27 am 12
Evan, congrats! This is an honor that is certainly deserved – no surprise here!
Selena Mar 18th 2008 at 01:15 pm 13
Wonderful, and well deserved Evan. Hope you enjoy writing as much as I enjoy reading what you write, ’cause ya got me addicted. And obviously I’m far from alone on that!
Suzan Mar 18th 2008 at 07:23 pm 14
Yes, congratulations, Evan! I don’t always agree with you or like what you say, and sometimes I want to psychoanalyze you to prove to you that you’re wrong (hmm…maybe THAT’S why I’m still single)–but all in all, you seem to be honest and well-intentioned and (gritting my teeth on this one) insightful. Also, I didn’t realize there was so much competition for advice. You actually picked one of my questions not too long ago — cool! And thanks!
expert Mar 19th 2008 at 01:37 am 15
[...] The #1 Rated Dating and Relationship Blog on the Internet [...]
KAREN Mar 19th 2008 at 02:38 am 16
Congratulations Evan! You are most insightful, clever and always hit the nail on the head with your comments. I am truly learning more about how to navigate through the dating channels. You are a Winner! Better than eating chocolate!! Keep up the good work!! Thank You!!!!
Michele Mar 22nd 2008 at 06:35 am 17
Hello Evan,
Did you honestly expect anything less !?!?!
A real testimonial to your skillful expertise and a very very very worthy “EXCELLENT.”
We love ya, Evan……you are simply the BEST.
Bella Shing Nov 18th 2008 at 03:26 pm 18
Hi Evan,
What an extensive and helpful resource.
Would you be interested in being interviewed you for a series that I do on Beloved Men?
I have a relationship coaching company that focuses on women called Manifesting Your Beloved. We’ve worked with hundreds of women in a 2 day seminar to guide them to find validation and safety within themselves (so they are not looking to find it through relationship). The women that come through it end up being luscious, centered, radiant. We’ve had hundreds of success stories.
We’d be getting your message out to thousands of women.
Blessings,
Bella Shing
Bella@manifestingyourbeloved.com
Kelly Dec 3rd 2008 at 05:11 am 19
i really love your blog evan! its really inspiring. i’ve found the one i was looking for and your website has helped us become open and understanding with one another.
thanks!
=]
Mike Dec 11th 2008 at 07:48 am 20
Dude you’ve got the whole gambit covered. Personally I like a little more of an edge on my advice because the dating game is set up for girls to win but you have an interesting perspective. I think most guys would benefit from more staight talk and practical game instead of fluffy Dr Phil stuff but hey. Do your thing man.
Evan Marc Katz Dec 11th 2008 at 11:46 am 21
Mike:
1) The dating game isn’t set up for girls to win if you’re a guy who gets it and knows his power. That’s the same defeatist attitude of women who think the world is just arranged for men to win, and it doesn’t get anyone anywhere.
2) If it’s not clear from the way I’m writing to you right now, this is as straight as talk can get. Nothing fluffy here, except that there are a lot of women who are trying to understand men, and I treat them all with respect.
3) The secret to dating is men understanding women and women understanding men. PUA’s are often so focused on what “works” in the short term that they lose sight of what’s effective in the long term. Sure you can get her number, but can you get what makes her tick? If not, you’re not gonna stick around very long. Guys who want to understand women should be reading this blog.
4) Finally, there are some big blind spots in the PUA world that are not addressed by anyone else. For example, lowering a woman’s value via email on Match.com is a TERRIBLE strategy – and I’ve had to teach some Neil Strauss disciples to do it completely differently.
I highly encourage any men who want more than a phone number and a hook up to stick around. What better source of information than a guy who picked up a woman at a party and married her two years later?
Karl R Dec 12th 2008 at 02:31 pm 22
Mike said: (#20)
“the dating game is set up for girls to win”
A friend of mine was once explaining the game of Bridge to me. He said, <i?”In order to win a hand of bridge, you have to play like you have a winning hand. If you play any other way, you will lose the hand.”
The same is true for dating. You have to play like you have a winning hand … even when you’re not sure you do.
If you think the odds are stacked in favor of the women, you really need to step back and get a new perspective on the situation.
Last Sunday I went to a Handel’s Messiah sing-along at a local church. I ended up sitting next to a redhead who was an excellent singer, and around my age. I got the distinct impression that she was interested in me. So I had to decide, did I want to ask her for her number or did I want to let the moment pass (after some casual flirting). The decision was mine. She couldn’t make me ask her for her number, and it’s difficult for women to make the first move. (Societal expectations say they shouldn’t, and they lack practice at making the first move.)
If a woman is an 8, 9 or 10, then the game is stacked in her favor. But that’s because she’s an 8+, not because she’s a woman. The same is true for men who are 8+.
As someone who is a little closer to average (at least in the looks department), I’d rather be a man. If I’m not getting enough favorable responses from women, I can just ask more women out. Problem solved.
I can also stack the deck in my favor. (Women can do this as well.) I socialize in three social circles (which have minimal overlap): church, yoga classes, and social dancing. In all three circles women outnumber men, I’m younger and better looking than the average man, and I stand out from the crowd in some other way (more involved, more outgoing, better dancer, etc).
To use Pick-Up Artist terminology: this means that I’m treated as a high-value male in all three circles … even by people who have no interest in dating me. When a new lady joins one of those circles, her immediate perception is that I’m a high-value individual. This stacks the deck in my favor. And since I’m being treated like a high-value male by the people around me, it’s easier for me to believe it and act on that belief.
If the odds are stacked against you, do something to change the odds.
A-L Dec 12th 2008 at 04:47 pm 23
I much totally agree with Karl’s post. I do have to say though, I think it is easier for guys to have an interest in female-dominated things than the reserve. Granted, I may be saying that because I’m a woman, but where are the male-dominated areas? As Hunter mentioned in a different thread, sports, hardware/repairs, and cars. And with the exception of sports, I don’t think there’s much socialization involved with the other two interests unless you’re lucky enough to live in an area with lots of classic car meets, or something like that. Whereas the female-dominated stuff like church, yoga, dancing, book clubs, etc, are all socially based and prevalent most anywhere. Are there other male-dominated areas that I’m totally clueless about?
sandrar Sep 10th 2009 at 05:17 am 24
Hi! I was surfing and found your blog post… nice! I love your blog.
Cheers! Sandra. R.