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Below is a copy of the newsletter that got emailed to thousands of women just this morning. I got a flurry of emails in response to it and would love to hear your feedback. This is long, so make sure you have 5 minutes to yourself. Ready?
Real only happens when it’s clear that a man is your committed boyfriend. Until then, it’s all speculation, hope, fantasy, desire, wishful thinking, and potential.
This email was called: The One Thing You Should Absolutely NOT Do When Dating
Have you ever had amazing chemistry with a guy?
Maybe you met in real life and flirted for two straight hours.
Maybe you’ve been emailing and talking on the phone every night for a week.
Maybe you had an effortless first date that lasted until 2am.
If you’ve been reading my newsletters long enough, you know that while such events are all encouraging, none of them qualify as “real”.
Real only happens when it’s clear that a man is your committed boyfriend.
Until then, it’s all speculation, hope, fantasy, desire, wishful thinking, and potential.
But that’s not what I’m writing about today.
What I’m writing about is what you make all of this dating stuff MEAN.
- The guy who took your number and never called becomes the reason that you hate going to meet men out at parties and bars.
- The guy who emailed and talked on the phone every night before fading into the distance becomes the reason that you give up on online dating.
- The guy who took your breath away on date one and then bailed becomes the reason you are “taking a break” from dating.
See, you’re identifying each man as the problem here. But men aren’t the problem. After all, if 50% of all guys are going to disappoint, then this behavior is utterly predictable.
No, the problem is that you EXPECT anything different. As a result, you are continually derailed each time another guy fails to meet expectations.
Before you get angry at me, take a step back.
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