Comments on: The Two Best Times to Find Love. Or Lust, If That’s Your Thing.

By: Joshua Pompey

Joshua Pompey — Sat, 27 Oct 2012 22:09:47 +0000

I would argue that people are more apt to look for love before Christmas because of the emotional void that some people feel when they see happy couples, families, and people sharing joyous experiences. Summer is prime season to date as well because people generally tend to feel better in the warm weather. The study makes perfect sense if you ask me.

By: sarahrahrah!

sarahrahrah! — Sat, 20 Oct 2012 04:44:50 +0000

I think this pattern could be explained by school schedules. More people simply have more time to date during those times.

By: priya

priya — Sat, 20 Oct 2012 03:13:36 +0000

According to an article on Discovery.com, humans look for sex and love online more often around early summer and the Christmas holidays. This proves i am a human.

By: Ellen

Ellen — Fri, 19 Oct 2012 13:41:27 +0000

I met my current, REAL, honest to God boyfriend last January 14th.I went not expecting much to happen, almost ready for celibacy. So, very nice surprise. This, after three years of online dating. Men of all ages, but mainly younger ones.

Below are the major “mini-relationships” I had in those three years and when we met (to the best of my recollection):

RD- fall or winter (mutual pursuing) (18 years younger) (POF)

AS- summer (friends with benefits, 22 years younger btw) (I contacted him) (a cougar site! lol)

D the crazy Italian- summer (my age, more or less) (I contacted him) (Match)

JLN- summer (17 years younger) (I contacted him) (okcupid)

so no springtime trysts/mini-relationships that I can recall. I have dated throughtout the year, but in the 15 months or so before meeting my boyfriend dated little. PS I also contacted my bf first (1 year younger and both of us are Aquarius per Vedic astrology), but that’s my pattern. I found I was more successful if I did the contacting.

I asked him didn’t he notice me and he said no, but he was fixated on younger women so I may have fallen out of his range, not sure. On Match.

PS Men go strong in summer ’cause women start wearing shorts and bikinis and such. imo…..

PSS Both my babies were conceived in the fall btw. It was when I was most fertile apparently.

By: David T

David T — Fri, 19 Oct 2012 06:58:54 +0000

@EMK11 People search for more sex and love related things at this time whether you agree with it or not. So the pool may be bigger, but it doesn't follow that this is a 'better' time to start something like the title of your blog post implies. It might mean you are more likely to start something, but even that conclusion relies on some assumptions. If the increase in activity is biologically driven, then couples are more likely to end up in a situation where chemistry makes it harder to make a wise choice. Maybe high activity periods are the worst time to find a good life partner!

By: Henriette

Henriette — Fri, 19 Oct 2012 03:27:00 +0000

Have only had 1 real relationship that started online. Met him in early November. Other major romantic relationships started in February, end of January, February, December. I find the Christmas season so busy with social & work parties that I don’t have time to date, but I do notice that there’s a lot of pressure among my peers to find a companion for New Years Eve.

By: JD

JD — Fri, 19 Oct 2012 01:39:19 +0000

I actually find myself looking harder for love during the late summer/fall time. The crisp weather of fall puts me more in a hand-holding snuggly mood. I have to say that although there is more time during the winter break, I have had very little luck during that time due to traveling to visit family & being out of town. Even trying to reconnect with old flames from my hometown has never panned out during that time. Last year I spent a month texting with a guy before we met up because we were both traveling. It didn’t get beyond the first date when we did finally meet up but it was a fun distraction during the holidays (not that my family isn’t but it can get a little quiet around the homestead.)

By: Evan Marc Katz

Evan Marc Katz — Fri, 19 Oct 2012 01:07:36 +0000

@JB – It’s not about “buying” the Christmas thing. It’s TRUE. It was studied. People search for more sex and love related things at this time whether you agree with it or not.

By: Jules

Jules — Fri, 19 Oct 2012 00:44:19 +0000

I intentionally turn off my online profile from mid-December until close to the end of January. So much going on, and the men I come across always seem a little too desperate. I’d rather eliminate the “I don’t want to be alone for the holidays” factor when I’m trying to decide how interested someone truly is in me.

Also, it’s fun to get back online near the end of January — there are all these fresh new faces. New Year’s resolutions, maybe, but new people none-the-less.

Three out of the four serious relationships I’ve had since my divorce six years ago began in September.

By: Karl S

Karl S — Thu, 18 Oct 2012 23:56:36 +0000

I wouldn’t say online dating is easier as a man. You end up writing lots of well composed messages to people with whom you have several things in common, only for 85% to ignore you, 10% to message back with no intention of meeting, 4% percent meeting but not being interested and 1% actually willing to start something. It’s worth it for that 1% though.

Back on topic (sorta), gosh I forget sometimes how women’s attractions alter so much with changing hormones and how the pill can flip it right over. As a guy, it’s pretty static whether I’m attracted to someone and when I want sex.