Reading your responses to my survey was like reading my own blog…for four straight years. Whew. Just a huge outpouring of questions, love, pain and longing. Needless to say, there was much thematic overlap, sprinkled with some insightful comments and kind words. (Thank you!) Since I figured you’d be curious, here are the top 10 responses to my question: which dating-related topics are the most intriguing to you?
|1. Understanding men||2488|
|2. Meeting men in real life||1791|
|3. When you should compromise||1237|
|4. Dealing with negativity of the past||1139|
|5. Being a great girlfriend||1047|
|6. Being selective||1033|
|8. Unmet expectations||906|
|10. Should I stay or should I go?||893|
I’ve already expressed my surprise at the #2 response about meeting men in real life, but everything else seemed to make sense, and I’m really excited to start offering you my extended thoughts on these topics in coming weeks and months.
There were two other observations I had from the survey:
First of all, you didn’t express any curiosity about sex or first dates (both finished in the bottom 5 out of 25 topics). Let me just take the time to say that whether you’re interested in these subjects or not, I’m going to INSIST that you BECOME interested in them.
Because you can be a confident woman, understand when to compromise and when to commit, and be the world’s greatest girlfriend, but it won’t make a difference if you’re a crappy first date who’s bad in bed. (Same goes for any men reading this, for what it’s worth.)
My second observation that came from reading your most intimate personal questions is this:
You’re frustrated at who men are.
You’re frustrated that you feel there are no good men out there.
You’re frustrated that dating is difficult and fraught with failure.
You’re frustrated that men don’t see the world as you do.
You’re frustrated that men don’t communicate the way you want.
You’re frustrated that men don’t always want to commit when you do.
And since so many of you have a real problem with men, and I am a man, I decided to write up a very special report, based on your survey answers.
Sign up below to access this report, “3 Ways To Instantly Improve Your Relationships With Men.” You’ll also be put on an exclusive list to get first notification of my brand new coaching product, including a special limited offer before this product is released to the rest of the world: