Do You Think It Is a Choice Between Being Alone and Getting Hurt? Think Again…

In an email I sent out yesterday I talked about the cost of pain and suffering. I mentioned that we will pay lots of money for pleasure – a car, a vacation – but are not as generous with ourselves when it comes to removing pain. If you’ve ever balked at $200/hr therapists before, you know what I’m talking about. You’d have to go to therapy every single week for 2 straight years to come close to buying a cheap car. Yet you’re more likely to get the car.

Anyway, I wanted to be clear about something I said in that email about the pain of being smart, strong, successful…and single: I’m not assuming that you’re waking up miserable every morning because you don’t have a relationship. Absolutely not. In fact, I’m assuming the opposite. I’m assuming that you’re a generally happy woman with a healthy sense of self-esteem, a great bunch of friends and a good job. I’m assuming that you’ve loved and lost and been hurt by a number of men. Finally, I’m assuming that you’d prefer to find a happy, healthy, nurturing, fun, passionate relationship that lasts forever.

If I’m wrong – if you’d rather be alone than to have a happy, healthy, nurturing, fun, passionate relationship – then my new book, Why He Disappeared isn’t for you. I think it is for you, but there’s one thing holding you back. You’d rather be alone than to risk getting hurt again. And if that’s the case, you’ve already got your own wish.

There’s no risk in staying alone – you can continue to live this way forever – but there’s also no reward. There’s no one to wake up next to you. No one to comfort you directly after a hard day at work. No one to surprise you with a weekend away or homemade pancakes. No one to provide you the love, support and companionship that you desire. And sex! Don’t forget about regular sex with a man you truly care about and who cares for you. If you don’t put yourself out there, if you don’t learn to understand men, if you just leave things the way they are now, nothing is going to change. You’ll read my emails one year from now and your love life will be the same.

If you don’t put yourself out there, if you don’t learn to understand men, if you just leave things the way they are now, nothing is going to change.

If you’re not content with the way that sounds, you’re going to love Why He Disappeared – The Smart, Strong, Successful Woman’s Guide to Understanding Men and Keeping the Right One Hooked Forever. It’s coming out on Tuesday, and because this is the culmination of a full year of research, writing, and lots of ups and downs, I really want to make sure that you’re getting tremendous value out of it.

At this point, you’ve already contemplated the cost of your own pain. How it would feel better to have an amazing relationship than to have an amazing car, and so on. So how much would it be worth for you to know the secrets of the male mind: what we think, why we do what we do, and what you can do different? Because with the limited time offer that’s coming out Tuesday, I’m going to give you a 130 page eBook which you can read on your computer in seconds. If that’s all I were giving you, the peace of mind and years you’ve saved alone would be worth thousands of dollars. But – as a new husband – I’m really focused on trying to be a giver, not a taker.

So, stay tuned to this blog on Sunday, when you can see a video which lets you know everything else that comes with Why He Disappeared (WHD), including audio downloads, bonus interviews, and extra eBooks. Because I’m loading this offer with invaluable content that will forever change the way you view, understand and interact with men, I would highly encourage you to sign up on my previous blog post to get on my early notification list. If you’re on this list, you will get an email notifying you of the release of Why He Disappeared BEFORE everyone else gets it.

Based on the hundreds of emails and comments I’ve gotten, I think those bonuses are going to be gone before Why He Disappeared even goes out! So sign up on my previous blog post to put your name in and keep your eyes peeled for one last video from me on Sunday. Remember, it’s not a matter of choosing between being alone and getting hurt. There’s another path, and I can’t wait to share it with you.

Have a great weekend.

With love,

Evan.

0
0

Join 7 Million Readers

And the thousands of women I've helped find true love. Sign up for weekly updates for help understanding men.

I hate spam as much as you do, therefore I will never sell, rent, or give away your email address.

Join our conversation (5 Comments).
Click Here To Leave Your Comment Below.

Comments:

  1. 1
    starthrower68

    That is an interesting statement you make, Evan.  I believe I have been guilty of that sort of either/or comparison.  But you're working on me…I recognize I have issues with pride and being risk averse.  But I'm also willing to hear that I'm wrong and such attitudes are based on distorted thinking.

  2. 2
    dateclass101

    being alone is a choice even if youa re afraid of getting hurt.Been alone is not a choice  when you  have  tried to be ina relationship which is never working.If youa re afraid of been hurt be cautious but its better to be alone than get hurt again at the same time dont be too over cautious cos u wont be getting nothing

  3. 3
    kevin blumer

    i didnt make that choise i made the stay with someone and get hurt and i did get hurt a lot i wish at the time i had of left i would not of got hurt then i am now alone and strating to learn to live bymyself it has took sometime and i still dont really like being alone

  4. 4
    Been There

    I don’t agree. It’s an over-used sentiment, but walk a mile in my shoes. Thirtysomething and completely alone. It all started with my father. He loved me for about two years of my life and then it was clear to me that he hated me. He was abusive at worst and distant at best. All other males have done the same thing to me. Sorry, but I’m NOT willing to keep getting my heart smashed in a door. Men are all the same- they all use you and then dispose of you. A guy can find a much better woman than I just looking at porn, which is all men do. I’m not perfect enough, I’m just not GOOD enough. And I never will be- for anyone.

    1. 4.1
      Evan Marc Katz

      Well, that’s ultra-sad, Been There. Please don’t tell my wife that all men “use and dispose” of women. She likes to think she’s happy.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

You may use these HTML tags and attributes: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <strike> <strong>