See? It’s not just your friendly neighborhood dating coach who says so.
As reported in the July edition of the Journal of Neurophysiology, Dr. Helen Fisher’s new work indicates that for heartbroken men and women, looking at photographs of former partners activated regions in the brain associated with rewards, addiction cravings, control of emotions, feelings of attachment and physical pain and distress.
The love that endures is the one that remains steady.
Yep. That intense, yearning, magical feeling is a drug – and, like most tales involving drugs – it rarely has a happy ending. Love, as you undoubtedly know, is marked by high-highs and low-lows. Yet the love that endures is the one that remains steady.
That’s the one I’m always talking about, the one I want you to achieve by making different decisions in dating.
The good news, Fisher points out, is that time heals all. The more time that had passed since the breakup, the less activity there was in a brain region associated with attachment.
So, are you still going to keep chasing that “feeling” that has never resulted in your own long-term happiness? And if so, why?