Women Are Racist

No, not really. But in John Tierney’s continued analysis of dating behavior, he cites some interesting studies that suggest that women are far less open to dating men of other races than vice versa.

African-American women said yes about 30 percent less often to Hispanic men; about 45 percent less often to white men; about 65 percent less often to Asian men.

Black women were the most averse to interracial dating, Asian women were the most open to it, and Asian men didn’t fare all that well.

I’m not going to hypothesize why – after all, I’m a dating coach, not a social scientist – but this very much corresponds with what I’ve heard from clients.

White women said yes about 30 percent less often to black or Hispanic men, and about 65 percent less often to Asian men.

With one exception. I’m a bit surprised at men’s openness to interracial dating. While I’ve personally dated women across the racial spectrum, I’ve only had a handful of clients who ever expressed preferences for women of other races. Then again, the demographics of my clients are probably a bit skewed towards upper-middle class white people.

Any readers with interracial dating experience care to weigh in?

Hispanic women said yes about 20 percent less often to black or white men, and 50 percent less often to Asian men.

Money quote:The researchers found that most women speed daters said yes (meaning they’d like to see a man again after the four-minute speed date) less often to men of another race than they did to men of their own race. Here’s how much less interested they were in the other races, as compared with their enthusiasm for men of their own race:

Asian women didn’t discriminate much by race (except for showing a very slight preference for Asian men over black or Hispanic men).

Click here to read the whole article:

Update:

But wait, there’s some “good news” from those same researchers.

A few days later, after looking at 300 reader comments, researchers sent some surprising news back.

Daters who discriminate by race… also temper these biases once they get to know one another.

“The researchers realize that their results can be depressing, but they also agree with the many readers who caution against reading too much into the preferences of online daters and speed daters. Yes, these daters clearly discriminate by race and height and looks and other superficial qualities, but they also temper these biases once they get to know one another.”

People who are terribly picky in choosing partners online will relax their standards if they spend just three or four minutes talking to someone at a speed dating session.

Click here to read the whole article.

What’s your view? To quote one researcher, Paul W. Eastwick, “do those stated ‘turn-offs’ come back to haunt you later in the relationship, or are they permanently forgotten?”

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  1. 121
    Michael Ejercito

    Some girls and women get hot and bothered by fair skin.

    Others always bet on black.

    there is nothing wrong with that.

  2. 122
    Elle

    Exactly Susy. Some folks think everyone is awfully envious of them, it has to be a conspiracy. Of course we must be “fat”, “insecure”, and “jealous” (as if the bulk of AW dating out were gorgeous). Most people know the deal, regardless of race or even gender. I wasnt even talking to that poster in the first place but she felt the need to justify herself with an essay yet again, that alone says it all. LOL! Moving on…

    1. 122.1
      JennLee

      The green eyed monster has made a home in this topic. Simple fact. If you aren’t finding a man to date, it isn’t the fault of Asian women. It is your own fault, but that;s harder to accept, isn’t it? And sorry, but we won’t be shamed into dating, or not dating who you think we should. We aren’t as weak as you seem to think we are. We will date who we find attractive, not who others approve of, for us. We are also not a homogenous group. I prefer Asian and white men. I have friends who prefer white and Hispanic. I have friends who prefer just Asian men. So whether you are fat, jealous, or insecure, you simply don’t “know the deal.” You don’t want to “know the deal.” You want to blame somebody for your failings in life, just as all racists do. There are billions of people on this planet. If you can’t find somebody to date, it is your fault and nothing will change that except a choice by you to improve yourself.

    2. 122.2
      Michael Ejercito

      And what the fuck is wrong with women (white or otherwise) getting wet “down therte” by the thought of white men?

  3. 123
    A random white guy just passing by

    Jenn, I don’t know how old you are, but don’t take anything too personal in this post
    I’m pretty sure Michael, Elle and others didn’t mean any harm to you. They are just expressing their opinions, that’s all. :) 
     

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